I need to VENT!!!!!!!

Mum2three · #1 January 2nd, 2008, 04:13 PM

i have a good friend of mine. she currently has 3 kids, and now shes pregnant with another baby. when she found out that dwayne and i were having another baby she started to make stuff up! i mean CRAZY stuff. Not once did she say Congrats im so happy for you. I hope everything works out nothing! all that i got was i think im pregnant, even though shes got AF. doesnt make sense right?? And to boot she says that all of her Living kids have triples and twins, and they all passed away, basically a miscarriage and he body can only handle 1 baby at a time. She has a fertility disease but when i ask her for the name she doesnt know it????? She apparently has had 8 miscarriages. And the Dr hasnt done any testing??
Well then she goes to the dr's some cheap medi dr, that looks for money not the human laying there, and measures her and says she 12 weeks pregnant. im like ok. what ever could be. Then she gets the blood work done and she says its -500. i have never heard of that?? am i crazy there? can you have -500 levels in your system?
So again shes the one looking like a idiot cause not what the dr said isnt true. But then the icing on the cake, she hasnt had SEX in 4 months. but shes pregnant? her hubby has a LOW sex drive. she is pregnant the dr's did another test 2 weeks ago and her count was 62. so ok thats pretty early. well then apparently the drs took the OLD blood and tested it again and it was 21000? they usually throw out the rest of the blood right??
so now im just thinking she must be smoking some sort of glue cause she doesnt understand anything about pregnancy.lol...Now the doctors say that she had to of conceived NOV,30th. so that makes her 4 weeks or so. well she came for coffee today, and i was really excited to tell her that i felt the baby move last night. Well i didnt get the words outta my mouth, she says i know i felt the baby move LAST NIGHT AS WELL. So at this point im annoyed with all her stupid BS, and i said your only 4 weeks along, HOW the H*ll did the baby kick you without ANY feet?
The baby isnt even a baby yet, its cells. Well then she had nothing to say, but her husband felt the baby move last night as well. and NOW shes 8 1/2 weeks pregnant. how is that?

Am i the IDIOT here? am i just reading into it?? am i in the wrong?

OR DO I JUST HAVE A GLUE SNIFFING FRIEND??

Im so sorry for the long vent but i cant hold it in anymore. After everything i have went through i thought for sure that my best friend would be supportive. but i guess not. As Dwayne says She has to have the spot light ALL to her self. Shes not ever happy for anyone else unless shes right there...

Talk can never be about Brandy for the its always about her and her pregnancy. and when i get a word in edge wise she just changes the subject!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

my nerves are SHOT!!!

Thanks girls for reading this long post. but i had to get it out, and i know you all are great for cheering us someone..lol...

MinDB · #2 January 2nd, 2008, 04:16 PM

i call glue sniffing!! she would get on my nerves!!!!!!
feel free to vent--we're here for that!

Mum2three · #3 January 2nd, 2008, 04:18 PM

Thank you so much!!!! i thought i was the idiot!!!

That i had NO clue on pregnancy...lol...

*Bobbie* · #4 January 2nd, 2008, 04:25 PM

Brandy... my god girl you need new friends .... come move near me!

Seriously... I think I would distance myself from her. She can't be good for your health

I have been friends with people like that. UGH

Okay now I feel better and I don't even know her. I guess I kinda feel sorry for her. She must have really low self esteem to act like that. Maybe try focusing on the good in her and tell her about it. Try and avoid all pregnancy related topics

You know I am always here for you...just a phone call away

Love ya!

And OMG!!!!!!!! you felt the baby move!!!!! Why didn't you tell us? We ARE the proud Aunts you know?!?

Mum2three · #5 January 2nd, 2008, 04:30 PM

Bobbie, i have distanced myself from her alot. But between the phone calls and the Text msgs. its kinda hard to RUN away!!!! LOL!!!!!

Im just glad that you dont think im the nut

I have avoided talking about pregnancy with her, but SHE always brings it up. I cant hide. and when someone is sitting there just saying "yup" wouldnt you just get a clue? i know i do...LOL..Dwayne gets really upset with her, cause she can never be happy for me for a change. and it really hurts me. Mabey im just selfish?

I did feel her move last night and Dwayne seen it, i was laying on my back and you just seen a ripple across the bottom of my belly, i though it was just gas, and nope it wasnt...LOL...

I was going to tell you all, cause you all are special to me, and have helped me out more then you will ever know. But i just havent had the time to get on here at all, cause i was dealing with HER...lol

jademyst13 · #6 January 2nd, 2008, 04:56 PM

I agree with the glue sniffing. I too know people like this. They talk and talk and don't realize that what they are saying makes no sense. They just assume you won't know better so they use this for their spotlight. I can't hang aroung with those kind of people for long because I can't help myself and have to say hey you are dumb that's not possible. Then they get quite mad. hahaa I'm no genius, but I'm no idiot either.

Brittanie · #7 January 2nd, 2008, 05:12 PM

ditto to the glue sniffing! There's no possible way to have a negative level of something. If you don't have any, it's 0. Maybe -500 means 500 less than it was before? dumb. stupid.

Anyway, I'm sorry you have to deal with a "friend" like that. I know people like that. Drives me crazy.

And congratulations on feeling the baby move! Isn't it the coolest feeling? It's wonderful until right at the end when it gets really painful. But enjoy it while you can!

Melanie0507 · #8 January 2nd, 2008, 06:54 PM

Brandy, you definitely need to get the glue away from your friend!

Seriously though, I know sometimes it is hard to *get rid of* a friend, but I think that you need some distance. It is really draining on a person to always have to wonder if the words out of someone else's mouth are truth or fiction, and 100x worse if that person is supposed to be a friend. Trust me, sometimes it is easier to be rid of them! gl dealing with her!

And, congrats on feeling the baby move! YAY!!!

*Judy* · #9 January 2nd, 2008, 07:56 PM

She's sniffing something a lot more powerful than glue!!!! I HATE people like that! I am so sorry you have to deal with it!!!

Danica · #10 January 2nd, 2008, 08:23 PM

Oh my gosh Brandy. I was reading your post and at first I went from thinking "huh" to "what the?" to "are you kidding?" to "Ugh" to "she must be mentally handicap." Seriously, these were my exact facial expressions....

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I mean, what do you even say to anyone like that. I would drop her like a bad habit. You need friends that are happy for you rather than competing with you. I am sorry you are dealing with that madness. (((HUGS)))

YAY for the baby moving. How EXCITING!!!

keekopeeko · #11 January 3rd, 2008, 06:17 AM

you felt the baby move AND your DH got to see it the first time!! thats awsome! that never happens... my DH didnt get to see or feel anything until it had been a couple weeks already...

oh and i am totally with Jenn /jademyst on this one..im one of those sorts of ppl if i had a friend who was even 8 1/2 weeks pregnant and told me she felt the baby move i would tell her straight up she was crazy....and not possible...

i think you should try that with your friend.. be completely honest with her.. and if you lose her as a friend, it sound like it wont be a big loss... but if she starts to understand and be happy for you, then it will be a much healthier friendship!

~Em

luvmygirls · #12 January 3rd, 2008, 08:01 AM

Congrats on feeling the baby! Isn't it just the BEST?!

As for your "friend" I would quit accepting her calls and answering her texts. I think she has a problem. Nobody needs to be around a freakshow like that!

MaMaTuTu · #13 January 3rd, 2008, 09:40 AM

oh wow

! I'm sorry but she is psycho! -500?! WTFlip? Yeah, I'm glad you're distancing yourself. You don't need unsupportive cooks hanging around. GL with staying away from her!

And YAY for feeling the baby move, that's always wonderful!

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greenchild · #14 January 3rd, 2008, 10:41 AM

I am so excited for you, feeling the baby move!!!

I had a friend like that, she would lie about everything to make herself look more important. and the lies would change, and they didn't make any sense. I did have to cut her out of my life completely. And I felt really bad doing it too. If you'd ever met her mother you'd know why she was the way she was. Her mother had no problems telling her (in front of me!!) just how dumb, how stupid she was, and why couldn't she be more like her older sisters (who were just as messed up, honestly). She would do anything to please Mommy. She ended up pg by mistake and married the father (who was actually a very nice guy, I hope he was able to help her mental issues) but now they live across the street for her mother. I wonder how her little girl will turn out.

I know it's very hard to do but cutting her out might be the best thing. You don't need all that crazy stress!!! although, it might be interesting to keep track of what she says and show it to her some day whe she is "lucid".