How into TTC is your hubby?

*Bobbie* · #1 January 7th, 2008, 12:34 PM

I was just curious how much a part of TTC everyone elses significant others are?

Dave just called me and said "Are you pregnant yet???" LOL. I am not even due for AF for about 9-10 more days. I just laughed at him. When it comes to testing he is always saying test, test, test. He is a BAD influence.

Makes life fun though

heatherrose415 · #2 January 7th, 2008, 12:44 PM

LOL, too cute.

my husband is very into it, and even helps rock my hips after we BD, LOL.

as far as testing, he gets very excited.

Danica · #3 January 7th, 2008, 12:45 PM

I wish Travis was like that. I had to hide my testing from him because he just saw $$$$$ signs. He is so cheap. I mean, we make a lot of money but he lives like he was raised in the depression. Anyway, he was okay with my testing once I showed him the $store tests

Travis is the type that doesn't really get over excited about anything. I call him the king of vagueness but since we have been married about 9 years I can now tell when he is excited by his body posture when he reacts to things. I know he is real excited about me being pregnant but if I held my breathe for him to be jumping up and down I would be dead. Instead I get a hug and congrats and then he asks to see the tests. He cracks me up. You know he never really even believes me that I am pregnant until the hopital confirms. Whatever. So of course this is annoying because with both my last two pregnancies Kaiser told me my test was negative and they had to give me a blood test. Anyway, I am rambling now.

carrierose5 · #4 January 7th, 2008, 12:53 PM

Joe doesn't want to spend money on tests. He says it'll happen when it happens. Taking a test wont change whether or not I am preg. True, but he doesn't understand my hunt for that elusive BFP! He does not mind the $store tests either.

Solace · #5 January 7th, 2008, 12:55 PM

My husband is hard to read, when it comes to getting pregnant. I know he knows I can't wait to get pregnant, but he seems to be far more collected about it. If he is excited, I can't tell.

kellydel · #6 January 7th, 2008, 03:00 PM

He's not! I'd say I'm ttc but my dh is not! Right now, I'm hoping for a happy accident! I'm just glad he didn't get the vasectomy like he said he was gonna!! But he knows i'm not on bc, he won't use condoms so we're using the pull and pray method- with me praying to get pg, of course!!

katiegirl · #7 January 7th, 2008, 03:16 PM

My DH really wants another but he is not into all the charting, temps and CM. He just asks "what week do I need to be home early" and thats about it. It's easier that way and makes me laugh.

keekopeeko · #8 January 7th, 2008, 03:42 PM

i never really think he's into it that much.. just "ready" at the needed times of the month.. and i know he wants another baby...

but he always surprises me with comments like this... he said at dinner that he was counting up in his head and figured we'd know by this weekend if i was pregnant... and i was like wow yeh we will... then he said, how early can you test??...

that made me think that this is on his mind a lot more than i thought it was...

~Em

MrsPoe · #9 January 7th, 2008, 06:45 PM

I so wish my dh was like some of yours! Mine doesnt' want to know anything at all. The only thing he wants to know is "when we are pregnant". TTC is too much pressure to him, he says. He is supportive of my testing addictions though, he thinks its funny! He is ready to be pregnant, but doesn't want to have all the pressure of it. So I suffer alone (well with your girls) on this ttc journey.

mellochick · #10 January 7th, 2008, 06:59 PM

DH is totally not into it. He wants a baby - but with all of our losses AND the ordeal I've gone through to try to figure out why - he doesn't let himself get caught up in all of the hype/pressure. He wants to know when I get my bfp, and can kinda figure out when it's bd time, but he never asks about it, and he has only a vague idea about how much I obsess about it.

..Jessica.. · #11 January 7th, 2008, 07:05 PM

Hmmm, well for me, I'm TTC but Dwayne isn't!

He won't set a date, has no clue when I'm Oing (guess I'm lucky that way) and doesn't ask if AF has arrived. He finds out if he tries to get some!

Melanie0507 · #12 January 7th, 2008, 07:07 PM

My dh is totally into having a baby and the bding, but he is totally NOT into knowing about my cycles, testing, etc. He talks about when we have another baby and he is definitely available when he knows we need to get lots of bding in, but when it comes time for testing, he has no clue. I'm really okay with that though, makes it less stress on me to have to tell him about BFNs.

notrub98 · #13 January 8th, 2008, 01:57 PM

I'm honestly not sure my DH knows we are actively TTC! He absolutely wants a child, and he is totally ready to "try again" but he does NOT want to know anything about the process. He doesn't know that I am charting, using OPKs, nothing. I don't think he'd be shocked, but he wants us to just let life happen and if it happens, it happens. Instead, I plan it out, and seduce him when need be.

Lv2Mommy · #14 January 8th, 2008, 02:09 PM

My DH wants another baby, but as others have said he isn't into the whole ttc process. He says just let it happen when it happens. Hmm, not so easy for me to do once I've decided I want another baby b/c, of course, I want it NOW!

He just told me the other night that it makes him mad how I'm not that into DTD when we're not trying, then I'm all about it when we're ttc, then when I'm pregnant I'm disinterested again. Truly, I'm not disinterested, just tired! LOL - I wonder how many hubby's feel that way...

steph&dan · #15 January 10th, 2008, 09:56 PM

here I am still playing catch up. DF never really ask about my cycle, etc. But, he did surprise me by knowing approximately when I should start my period and when I should be ovulating. When I did test and got our first BFP, he was excited. He went to all my appt's except for the one where we found out that we lost the baby. He couldn't get out of work for that one. He willingly takes his vitamins and herbs. He's a good man!

jademyst13 · #16 January 10th, 2008, 11:55 PM

DH is very into it. For one he hopes he will get more BD time. He really wants a baby as much as I do. I think he has even done some reading online, because when I started spotting last time he told me that it was normal sometimes, how would he have known that haha

babyblue · #17 January 11th, 2008, 12:29 PM

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My DH wants another baby, but as others have said he isn't into the whole ttc process. He says just let it happen when it happens. Hmm, not so easy for me to do once I've decided I want another baby b/c, of course, I want it NOW!

He just told me the other night that it makes him mad how I'm not that into DTD when we're not trying, then I'm all about it when we're ttc, then when I'm pregnant I'm disinterested again. Truly, I'm not disinterested, just tired! LOL - I wonder how many hubby's feel that way...[/b]

OMG, this is my DH word for word! He knows when I am fertile, b/c I instigate it every other night, but he got mad last time we were TTC b/c he said I only got it when I wanted it.. So, I've been trying to be better about giving into his needs even when I am dog tired. He also chastised me a little last time for "trying too hard" and not just "letting it happen like we did the first time".. b/c I did OPKs to find out exactly when I was ovulating. Now in retrospect, I think I just told him too much about what was going on. He gets grossed out easily and doesn't want to know anything about CM, EWCM, periods, ovulating, etc. So I figure as long as I know when to DTD we are good. He is only on a need to know basis..

steph&dan · #18 January 11th, 2008, 09:57 PM

need to know basis... I like it!

luvmygirls · #19 January 12th, 2008, 09:32 AM

DH is really into it, b/c he wants another baby, but mostly b/c he wants to get some! LOL!

I'm really surprised tho, b/c before we got pg (oops) the last time, he definitely did not want any more kids. And he was waaaaay more upset by the loss than I thought he would be. Still, I thought that he wouldn't want to try again b/c our angel was an oops and he was so adamant about "no more babies" before that....but he really wants another now!

He wants to BD twice a day every day, and I keep telling him that it's ok if we just do it every other day, and that he needs to "save it up" b/c I'm not even o-ing yet. But he tells me "I've done this before, I know what I'm doing" LOL!

He holds my legs up after we're done and kisses my belly

And always asks "do you think there's a baby in there yet?" He's really cute and sweet about the whole thing! I'm sure he'd be happy if I didn't get pg on the 1st try this time tho, so he'd get more BDing.