[keekopeeko]

So ladies.. heres a much to personal Q.

I say my DH and I have a very healthy love life..

But when we are TTC i have to plan out the days that we HAVE to do it in a row.. like this month its the 24th 25th and 26th... ( i cant do the everyother day thing, stresses me out that i missed the eggie) and i also plan like 3 days BEFORE that, that we CANT DTD...

i KNOW that there are a couple of you who just be-bop along and only worry about when you Oed because you want to know how many DPO you are.. NOT because you need to know when to DTD, because you like DO IT EVERYDAY anyways! I did to.. like the first year we were married.. and it was nice.. but i really like how we are now... Our sex life is even better for the day or two we skip... at least thats how I feel...

So heres the personal Q.... just beacuse i am TOTALLY amazed at your stamina.. Is it great sex everytime? is it regular sex ...like.. go to bed.. make love.. go to sleep? Is you who starts it? or is your DH like totally attacking you all the time?? haha.. sorry for all the inquiring... i know this post might go unanswered... but im just in awe of you ladies who dont even have to THINK about that part of TTC..

~Em

[Madison.N.Hailey'sMom]

For DH and I, I kind of plan out the BD times too. The days That I get a + OPK we DTD. And at those times its get down to it and then I lay there for what seems like forever. Its the times when I'm not Oing thats better. Thats all going to change next cycle though because of the Clomid.

[luvmygirls]

We just do it everyday. Actually, I think we missed one day, but there were a couple days when we did it twice But that is only when we are ttc, b/c I am afraid of missing the egg. Usually we only do it once a week, sometimes more, sometimes less. DH has an insatiable drive, but mine is on the lower side.

Some days it's really good sex, but most days it's pretty much just doing it to ttc. We've been doing it in the morning most of the time this cycle, so it's really more of a quickie, but that's fine with me. I find that sometimes I'm sore after a really long session and I don't want to be out of commission for even ONE DAY, so we tend to keep it short and sweet.

DH usually always initiates it, and if it were up to him, we'd do it 10 times a day! I have to tell him that doing it more than once a day is wasteful! lol!

I don't temp or chart or use opks or anything...I just check my CM to see what day I most likely o'd...so I can know how many dpo I am and when I can test. If I don't get pg on the 1st try this time, I might become a little more neurotic and buy some opks, etc.

[ShannonMVT]

This month I have my Ov Watch and I am totally planning out when days we will BD. I'm planning for: 4 days before O, 2 days before O and 1 day before O. Then if the watch seems to be off and I still don't think I've Oed when it says I did, maybe one more day but not another day in a row.

We are normally (when not TTC) more like once a week people. When we've gone a week without, the sex is really great! When we do it every other day, it's gets not quite as good. When we do it every day...it's just okay.
Part of the problem is Dh takes longer and I just get frustrated sometimes because I am ready for it to be over!
There are some things I would do to help him be more turned on before we started DTD, but I hear saliva is not good for sperm...too bad.
If he goes too long I get sore (when doing it every day) so I prefer to keep it shorter so I'll be good to go for more days.

Dh has told me he'd rather know which days I want to DTD, so this month I'm going to mark it on a calendar or something. Usually it's me who initiates in because I'm the one who knows better when I'm going to be Oing.

[dee68]

even though I am already preg, I had to jump in here....lol

its kinda crazy because the month we conceived, it was a BAD month, illnesses, family troubles etc...soooo we only dtd like 2 times....a full week before I O'd....and BAM.....BFP

that was the only time we didnt do it alot....lol...crazy huh? you just never know when it will happen...
but I gotta say EVERY time we dtd....its just mind blowing.....geeez, I hope he gets home early.

[..Jessica..]

Even though Dwayne and I aren't TTC right now -- I had to jump in!

We DTD 3-4 times a week. He works long hours, and it's just something we try to do.

When I got pregnant back in May, we had sex 5 or 6 times that entire month -- we DID NOT live together at the time either. We just got lucky!

I think planned sex works when you're TTC, I would DTD more than 3 times during the time though, just to be sure.

[Lv2Mommy]

DH & I have never charted, used OPKs, etc... We've always had a relatively easy time getting pregnant, so it's never become an issue. I tend to have a very 'average' cycle, so we just try to DTD every other day (sometimes everyday here & there) from about CD10-CD17 and hope for the best. Usually we're once a weeker's and it's almost always great sex. When we're ttc and going several days in a row it's usually just okay - like get the deal done already I'm ready for bed!

[Brittanie]

I don't know about "normally" for DH and I. We waited until we were married, and then I got pregnant with Cora 2 months after we were married and got pregnant with Erin 5 months after that and then I was nursing, so my sex drive has always been quite low. Now that I'm NOT pregnant, NOT nursing and NOT in the throws of grief...we're maybe a once a week couple. I think I'd like more (it's strange to me to WANT it, since I haven't for so long!), and so would DH, but he's so busy with school right now that it's hard to get time in!

When we were TTC...I did "plan" days. But I've never used opks or temp'd or anything so it was more of watching cm and seeing when I "should" be Oing. I initiated it. DH both times accused me of just using him for his sperm.


Now that I'm not nursing, sex is great!

[jademyst13]

We were just trying every other day once my period was over. I do try and make the full moon a go night not sure why, but I think its a good sign. Of course every other day only lasted about three times and then it was back to maybe once a week. Somehow that managed to work before haha The last time we had sex the time I got pg was on CD11. I really figured we were out that month since we hadn't DTD any more than that. I don't use OPK or temp so I don't actually know when I O

[steph&dan]

As for me, I use opk's, and know that I O usually on day 16-17. We have sex as usual during the weeks not involving ovulation. That is 1-2x a week. For me 3x a week would be good, but DF is on paxil, and that decreases his sex drive. So I am lucky with 1-2x. The week of O, I try to make sure that we BD on day 14 and day 16. Since sperm lives up to 72 hrs, it should cover the eggs. With our first pregnancy, it was totally unexpected. Conception happened during a 5 minute quickie while we had company in our living room. FYI, our place is a very small one bedroom. Gotta love nature! This time will we be doing clomid and iui, so timing at home will be more important leading up to the iui.

[downunderchick]

For us it could be either of us that initiates, we do the deed every 2/3 dsays at least, well we have this cycle. I dont like to 'plan' it as it would become a chore. It is enjoyable when we do, some times are better than others but hey ho, thats just life. Like brittanie, I watch cm to see when Im ov, I dont chart or temp or anything,

[greenchild]

for us sex was great . . . until we started actively TTC. DH was NOT on board with planned sex! He still did it, though. In fact we'd had a huge fight about it and then somehow managed to get pg on CD11 the next month.

Now that we CAN'T get pg from sex, at first it was like it killed my drive, like what's the point? But DH was very sweet about it and now we're back to normal, except for this whole having to wait 6 - 8 weeks after surgery thing and then all the HIV/Hep tests at 3 mo, 6 mo, then 1yr after thanks to the transfusion.

oh well, there are other ways . . .