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kanelso · #1 January 24th, 2008, 07:13 AM

Hello. I just had a few questions and thought this might be the place to post them. I have an 11 month old son and recently had a m/c. The pregnancy was a surprise, but we were so excited for our son to have a sibling. So now I really want to get pregnant again. I am trying to wean him from breastfeeding because in some ways I feel like breastfeeding and pregnancy were just too much. I was completely exhuasted. But I would like to TTC again soon.

How long have you waited to TTC?

I think my DH is concerned that if we try too soon, the pregnancy will inevitably end in a m/c. Is this true for those of you who have conceeived soon after a loss?

I am just very anxious about this and worried that now I won't be able to get pregnant, and if I do, I am concerned that I'll be a nervous wreck about losing the baby again. How do you all cope with this?

Thanks in advance!

keekopeeko · #2 January 24th, 2008, 07:22 AM

ONE DAY AT A TIME!.. thats like totally my theme

I have a 22 month old little girl and had a miscarriage in october... i waited to TTC again until after i had my first period....but im still waiting to get pregnant.. im on my 3rd cycle..

i know ill be terrified of miscarrying again.. and yes ive even wondered if i CAN get pregnant again...

I but i think just taking it one step at a time really helps...

~Em

jademyst13 · #3 January 24th, 2008, 08:13 AM

It seems that most Dr.s recommend waiting 1 or 2 cycles. Mine said to wait 2 and I'm almost there! I would say wait at least until you get AF back. Give your body some time to recooperate (sp) and your heart.

However, I've seen ladies on here that have gotten pregnant again even before their first AF came back. Some had losses again and alot went on to have healthy babies.

I think everyone is scared to tears that they either can't get pregnant again or won't be able to carry the baby to term. Unfortunatly there is no cure-all for that. Like Em said you will just have to take it one day at a time.

luvmygirls · #4 January 24th, 2008, 08:39 AM

I am so sorry for your loss.

The doc that did my d&c told me to wait 2-3 cycles before ttc again. My regular doc said that we could ttc as soon as I had my 1st AF. They both said to wait just for emotional healing and dating purposes. I've heard there's no increased risk of m/c if you ttc right away. We waited 3 cycles and are currently on our first cycle of ttc. I know I'm going to be scared when I get pg again, but it's all about positive thinking. Just keep telling yourself everything will be fine, and you'll have a much better outlook on life!

steph&dan · #5 January 24th, 2008, 09:55 AM

my OB told me to wait for 2 cycles. my first AF took 54 days to start. I am sorry to hear about your loss. Hopefully you can get back on track soon.

..Jessica.. · #6 January 24th, 2008, 10:30 AM

Hello and Welcome to the board!

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss!!!

I personally was not told to wait a certain amount of cycles before trying again. I agree with the other ladies in waiting for dating purposes as well, so you can heal. Miscarriage takes it's toll on a woman's body, as well as her mind, heart and soul.

I wish you nothing but the best when you begin trying!

Lv2Mommy · #7 January 24th, 2008, 11:13 AM

I m/c in late December and was told by my OB to wait at least one cycle before we started TTC again, just for healing purposes and as stated before to make dating the pregnancy easier. I'm down one cycle and waiting for AF to visit one last time before we give it another go. I know that I'll be terrified whenever I get pregnant, regardless of how many cycles I wait. I think that's only natural after having such a devastating loss.

Good Luck!!!

Danica · #8 January 24th, 2008, 12:09 PM

I am sorry you lost your little one. For me, I m/c on 9/28 and started trying actively on cycle 2. Got pregnant on cycle 3 but unfortunatly I m/c again on monday. I think I'll wait just 2 cycles again before we TTC this next time.

I am like you, I will continue to be scared as heck until I am holding my next baby in my arms. One day at a time is the best approach and just try to stay positive.

mspkids · #9 January 24th, 2008, 01:13 PM

My OB just requested one cycle for proper dating. I also gave up BF to try again. It's probably one of the hardest things I've done since my DS (21m) loved to nurse.

Good luck!

notrub98 · #10 January 24th, 2008, 01:42 PM

My doc said to wait at least 2 cycles. I only waited 1 but didn't get pregnant anyway in the 2nd cycle. So, here I am, just started cycle 3, and I am nervous to be honest. But, I will TTC anyway!

Melanie0507 · #11 January 24th, 2008, 07:37 PM

Hello and Welcome! I had a D&C 2 days before Thanksgiving and my doctor recommended to wait 1 cycle, mainly to let complete healing occur and also for dating purposes. I am near the end of my 1st cycle TTC, so I don't know exactly how I will feel when I do get pregnant again, but I am sure that I will be pretty anxious until I hold my baby in my arms.

Good luck on your TTC journey! I look forward to getting to know you!

victorialv · #12 January 24th, 2008, 09:50 PM

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss....HUGS!!

My doctor told me to wait 1 cycle after my 1st miscarriage. I waited one, and got pregnant right away on the first try, but sadly, I lost Alex around 9 weeks. After the 2nd mc, I was advised to wait 3 cycles before trying again.

I was really knocked off my butt emotionally speaking with that 2nd mc, and I think it was because I was still reeling from the 1st mc. I thought I was ready, but I really wasn't. I am glad I have waited a couple more cycles this time around. I can feel my heart/head is really ready this time.

That is just my experience though, I know everyone is different. I wish you luck in your TTC journey.

*Bobbie* · #13 January 24th, 2008, 10:46 PM

I am sorry you lost your baby.

I was told to wait 1 cycle after my loss at 14w. I didn't....we started TTC right away. I got PG again around 9 cycles later. That was a chemical pregnancy. So even if you wait it doesn't guarantee a good outcome.

I say do what feels right for you. A good number of women get PG the first cycle or even before AF comes and have healthy babies.

I think the emotional side of TTC again is more important than the physical....IMO Your mind has to be ready for a new pregnancy. The stress of wanting a baby SOOOOO bad and not being able to get PG the moment you want to be can be a very bumpy roller coaster. Add to that the fact that you may have not given yourself enough time to grieve for your baby and it makes for a rough time and a lot of stress on your body. Only you know how much time you will need emotionally.

Lots of

and know we are all here if you feel like... crying...screaming... laughing....sometimes even all at once

kanelso · #14 January 25th, 2008, 08:57 PM

Thanks, everyone! I appreciate your input and your experiences. I went to see my doctor today (who I absolutely love!), and she said that all is well with me and to wait 2 cycles to TTC again. Also, I my anxieties about getting pregnant again were calmed by her telling me that she will follow me very closely when I get pregnant by doing HCG's and a 7 week ultrasound. So, I plan to be joining this board in a couple of months. Thanks again!

Melanie0507 · #15 January 25th, 2008, 09:12 PM

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So, I plan to be joining this board in a couple of months.[/b]

Just wanted to let you know that you are more than welcome to start posting now! There are plenty of women on here that aren't *actively* TTC right now, but we all have fun together! Whenever you decide to start posting, I look forward to getting to know you better!

victorialv · #16 January 25th, 2008, 09:50 PM

yeah!!! we would love for you to stick around. I am not actively TTC right now. Still getting some testing done before we TTC, but I have been hanging out here for a couple months now and I love it!