[katiegirl]

We tried for 7 month with the last and had a miscarriage in November. We are currently in the 1st month TTC post m/c and DH has decided out of the blue that he doesn't want to. It's so frutrating he wanted to with the last and now....

He thinks he is too old and our youngest starting kindergarten, so there would be a large gap.

How frustrating!!

I half considered just accidentally getting pregnant but I couldn't live with myself if I lied to him. He has already made a consult appointment with a urologist about getting a vasectomy.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I am so sorry! After my m/c in August, my dh decided he didn't want to ttc anymore either. But he changed his mind real quick. I was so glad. Maybe tell him how much you want it. Do you think that would help?

[Danica]

Oh no. That is very unfair of him to make a decision like that without you on board. If he wants to wait that is one thing or just not, not try to take the stress out of it but to get a vasectomy.... I don't know what to say. I am so sorry. I hope that you can convince him to think about you too before making this decision. You know, when my dad got one he was in the military and in Korea. My mom actually had to sign a paper saying she agreed before he could have the surgery. Do they do anything like that in civilian life? Maybe you could go with him to his consult to listen and also speak your peace? I am sorry

[katiegirl]

I'm really think I could probably guilt him into seeing it my way. He did say "but if you really want to..."
My only thing is that I want him to want this as much as I do. He is correct in the sense that yes life is getting easier as the kids are get older. His consultation isn't until the 18th.

I think when he gets back in town tomorrow I'm going to have a serious talk with him. I don't think he meant to be inconsiderate when he made the appointment. I just really need to tell him exactly how I feel.

[jademyst13]

I hope you two can get on the same page. If he just decided this it seems he is kinda rushing the surgery idea.

[..Jessica..]

Katie,

I'm sorry your DH went and made this decision without at least talking to you first. He should be able to see and tell that you want another child. I hope you two are able to put everything out on the table and discuss this completely. I hope he changes his mind!!