[notrub98]

Similarly to previous poster.... my DH also wants to stop TTC, but mine is just for now. There has been a tremendous amount of stress in our lives in the past 3 months, between the m/c, my dog died, my grandmother had a heart attack, work is amazingly stressful for me, etc etc.... that I have cause my peptic ulcer disease to flare up severely.

So, after a long talk with DH... we are putting TTC on hold. But only for a couple of months, most likely, so certainly not the end of the world. I am still going to chart and hang out here to chat, etc, but I probably won't actually "try" again until my end of March fertile patch.

Le sigh. Very disappointing, but it is best for my health!

Sidenote, DH admitted to me that he has noticed that I have gained about 15 pounds in the past several months. I give him a lot of credit for being honest, and he was even more honest when he said that the weight gain is "bothering his ability to get excited for sex" even though he "knows this is awful, and doesn't want to hurt me, but wants to be honest that he'd rather see me lose the 15 again anyway before we TTC actively for my health". I give him credit for being honest, but it still hurts like hell to hear that your husband is not that sexually attracted to you anymore. At least that explains his lack of interest lately.

[Danica]

Something is in the water today. I think though your situation it sounds like you and dh are in agreement and so taking a short break will probably be rejuvinating for when you are ready. I am sorry to hear about the weight thing. It always sucks to have someone point out that you've gained weight but especially your husband... But you know that I think that it is only normal to put on a few pounds with all the emotions that you are going through right now. HUGS

[jademyst13]

Don't pass me the water!

Well at least it is just for now and for good reasons.

[..Jessica..]

Something really is in the water today!!!

I'm sorry you're going through this now too!!! That really sucks that your DH told you that you've gained weight! I'd slap DH if he said that to me. But that's just me!

I hope you two are back on track real soon!!!

[babyblue]

I understand and although I'm not joining you right now, I feel like I could come to that point if I'm not pregnant within a few months. It's all a lot to carry on your shoulders, on top of everything else. You will try again when you are ready, and honestly, it will feel probably be a relief to take a step back for a while.

As far as the comment by your DH, I know it hurts b/c my DH is also brutally honest and always has been. I've always told him I wanted him to tell me if I started to gain weight or "let myself go" in any way. I did gain about 5 lbs when I got pregnant and after the miscarriage I was in a state where I didn't care what I looked like so I kept eating and eating. My DH finally told me jokingly but seriously at the same time that I was carrying a little "junk in my trunk".. and I got mad at first, but then he reminded me that I said I always wanted him to be honest and he wants me to do the same. So I told him we needed to trim his back hair but he got his point across and so did I. I started hitting the gym the next day.

I'm not going to lie; it hurt pretty bad to hear him say that, but I also don't want to give him any reason to not find me physically attractive. I have only lost one pound but my body has firmed up and he's been very good about encouraging me and telling me my butt "looks rockin'".. so I appreciate his nice words and criticism.

Sometimes it's hard to take a step back and see yourself in your S/O eyes.. or anyone else's eyes.. but I believe it is a good thing sometimes.

Just try to relax and take it easy for a while! HUGS to you!

[priddymama]

I guess DH have been drinking that same water!!!

This upcoming month or two is going to be so crazy we are in the same boat. We took a month off at Christmas and then AF is here now so the past two months showed no BFP so yesterday when AF showed we were like this is just too much right now. I mean we are basically living in a hotel for the next 3 weeks and then moving again for the 5th time in 4 years to our 4th country in 5 years and that is always stressful!!

Not to mention the extra 15-20 LBS I've been carrying around. 10 from our move in July and then about 5-10 from the pregnancy and the holidays. DH and I both are chubby these days and I just feel gross. I mean I've been working out when I can, but while travelling it's hard. Restaurant food just makes me fat now matter what I eat. I ate salads all day and I still feel FAT. At least DH has the same problem so he has no room to comment. We are both just like..... we just want to get settled here in Trinidad, find a gym, get our lifestyles back under control then we can focus on TTC again!

I'm kinda bummed