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February 13th, 2008, 12:29 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Not that I could wait much longer than a few hours anyway, but now I realize that I won't be able to wait and suprise my hubby on a special day. I have to get into the MW super early to make sure everything is ok(when I do get my BFP).
So has your loss taken the fun out of telling them?
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February 13th, 2008, 12:34 PM
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formerly mommy2haley17
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I probrably won't be able to even wait for hubby to get home from work to tell him when I do get a BFP. I won't be able to hold back.
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February 13th, 2008, 12:35 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I think I'm the only one on this board that will be waiting to tell their SO. I want to make sure everything is ok and looking healthy with the baby before DH knows about us being pregnant.
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February 13th, 2008, 12:35 PM
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No we still get just as excited. Dave is usually close by when I test, so he finds out when I do 
It did take the excitement out of telling friends and family though. No one gets excited for us any more. Oh well.... it's my body, my baby, my excitement 
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February 13th, 2008, 12:36 PM
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formerly mommy2haley17
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No we still get just as excited. Dave is usually close by when I test, so he finds out when I do
It did take the excitement out of telling friends and family though. No one gets excited for us any more. Oh well.... it's my body, my baby, my excitement [/b]
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Well, We are VERY happy for you!
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February 13th, 2008, 01:05 PM
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just me
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The thing that took the fun out of it for me was that the nurse said it was inconclusive! "There's a line, so I can't say you're NOT pregnant, but it's so faint that I can't officially say that you ARE. But, personally, not professionally, I think a line is a line, so I think you are."
So I had to explain the confusion to DH. She sent me home with 2 more tests so that I could POAS later and we wouldn't have to worry about paying for a blood draw.
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February 13th, 2008, 01:39 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I can't ever wait, even if I want to. We'll still be excited, but I think it'll be cautious excitement for awhile next time around.
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February 13th, 2008, 01:42 PM
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I was excited..and Mick was right outside the bathroom door.....all 5 times I tested, so he was just as excited......but cautious of course.
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February 13th, 2008, 01:49 PM
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after all this it has definitely taken all the fun out of it! I will still get excited but DH says he won't be able to NOT worry until we have a healthy baby literally in our arms. But now with all that has happened, I cannot wait to tell him or the dr's . . . and I tell myself I won't tell family right away next time, but I'll be so darn excited that I know I'll tell everyone right away again!
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February 13th, 2008, 02:29 PM
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we were a lot more reserved about it..yes... still are... but we're still excited! after all, it is a life, our baby!
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February 13th, 2008, 03:12 PM
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I think I'm the only one on this board that will be waiting to tell their SO. I want to make sure everything is ok and looking healthy with the baby before DH knows about us being pregnant. [/b]
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I totally agree, I told my husband as soon as I found out (at 6w 3d) and then had to pick myself up (emotionally and physically) as well as him when we lost the twins. I would not have waited forever but I wish that I had allowed myself a week or two to make sure that everything was ok before I raced to tell him. He had a big mouth and shared with a few people that then had to be told of the m/c as well.
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February 13th, 2008, 03:36 PM
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It has definately taken the fun out of it for me. i didn't even tell my mom about the last pg/loss.
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February 14th, 2008, 12:37 AM
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Veteran
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I would tell him straight away!
I think I really need him by my side for whatever is coming on my way
But definitely wont tell our families but only when we discover the gender of the baby!
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February 14th, 2008, 07:47 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I'm already thinking of ways to tell DH next time 
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