I'm Sad...

ShannonMVT · #1 February 15th, 2008, 06:33 PM

So I overheard two coworkers talking today and one (guy) was telling this woman how some people have babies and they aren't planning them but it's just the right time even though you may not think it is. And how some people wait to have babies and then find out that they can't have them, etc. So then come to find out the reason he is telling her this, is because she just got married a month or two ago and now is pregnant with an oops baby.

It just makes me so sad. She is a nice person and everything. But why is she pregnant when she doesn't even want a baby right now and I all I want is to be pregnant, and I'm not? Plus it didn't help to hear this guy talking about those who wait (we waited 3 years after we got married) who end up not being able to have kids, because I worry that that will be me.

I don't know why, the whole thing is just bringing me down tonight.

I am just tired of this. I'm tired of feeling sad, getting over it, and then feeling sad again. Over and over and over.

valentinemommy · #2 February 15th, 2008, 06:47 PM

Don't worry, you will be pregnant again.

For some it just takes a little longer. Try to keep that chin up. Thing swill get better.

...and about the woman that doesn't want her baby...she will come to her senses. Some people don't know what it's like to lose a baby, so they take theirs for granted. I hope you feel better soon.

tparum · #3 February 15th, 2008, 07:00 PM

it will happen soon for ya

jademyst13 · #4 February 15th, 2008, 07:57 PM

I'm sorry you feel bad. You are going to get pregnant again and have a healthy baby

Melanie0507 · #5 February 15th, 2008, 09:17 PM

Shannon

Some people just don't say the right things, do they?!?

I really hope you get a sticky BFP this month and you can put the TTC stress behind you...you soooo deserve it!!

keekopeeko · #6 February 16th, 2008, 04:59 AM

I hope you get your sticky BFP this month too and you can trade the ups and downs of TTC for the ups and downs of actually being pregnant!!!

i really really want it for it....i think you deserve it too!!!

But i totally get how you are feeling... and i was getting to that point and i was getting ready to take a break because of it.. sometimes its just to much.

~Em

Danica · #7 February 16th, 2008, 06:23 AM

I am sorry you are feeling down. That crosses my mind too. I wonder if we would have started when we first got married if my eggs would have been in better shape but you know what, I don't think it would have made that much of a difference. I just have to remind myself that it will happen and to keep believing that, to have faith. HUGS. I hope you feel better soon.

fairy9800 · #8 February 16th, 2008, 07:35 AM

Don't worry hun. It will happen for you!! ((((HUGS))))

Shaustin · #9 February 16th, 2008, 10:11 AM

I'm so sorry Shannon, I can relate in that Justin and I had been married 3 years before we started trying, and then we tried for a year and a half (with 2 losses along the way) and I so often felt exactly like you do. I had friends and family who started TTC right after they got married and couldn't understand why we were waiting, but it was important for Justin and I to do it the way we did it. Just know that your time WILL come, and you will have the family you have always dreamed of. I'm sure of it!!! My guess is, that things are happening just as they are supposed to, and even if you and your DH had started trying right after you got married you would still be trying because kids come when they are supposed to!! Hope this helped, and BIG HUGS!!!

victorialv · #10 February 16th, 2008, 02:43 PM

Yep, me too - I totally relate. I hate hearing those conversations, I am tired of being green with envy when I see tiny babies or big tummies, etc, etc. When will it be my turn?!! We waited to get married, waited to have kids, and now did we wait ourselves out of having a family??

UGH.... I so feel you!!

But, at the end of the day, I have faith that it will happen. I hate going through this, as you do, but I think we will both have what we want, maybe just not in our timeframe. Keep your chin up sweetie and know we are here to support you when you are down. HUGS!!!!

*Bobbie* · #11 February 16th, 2008, 03:50 PM

I am sorry you are on the roller coaster right now. I hope you get over the big hills and coast to the end soon.

ShannonMVT · #12 February 16th, 2008, 10:30 PM

Thanks ladies.

I think she is just worried because she wasn't planning for a baby at this time and the other coworker was trying to reassure her that it was okay and maybe it was meant to be at this time.

I know if it had been me in her shoes I would have been worried too! We waited until we had been married 3 years to TTC and I think it was the right decision for us. Dh was trying to start his own business for 2 1/2 years and I know if he had not had that time he would have always been sorry for it. Then it took another 1/2 year for him to find a job and us to move into our house. We really are in a better place to provide for a baby now.

I just don't know how to convince myself that it WILL happen. I always have doubts in the back of my head that I can't seem to get rid of. If someone could just tell me "Okay by the time you are X age you will have two healthy children (or even 1)" then I would chill out and not worry so much. But there are just no gurantees.

I just wish it weren't so hard and that I didn't have to feel so sad sometimes.