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sean'swife · #1 February 16th, 2008, 05:37 PM

Hi everyone, I recently had my first miscarriage. I went in for my first ultrasound to find out that there was no heartbeat. It turned out to be a missed miscarriage. I had absolutely no signs. They gave me cytotec to induce my miscarriage. I ended up bleeding so much that I couldn't stop passing out. I was rushed to the emergency where I received an emergency D & C. Now alll I am left with is a broken heart and anemia. I am so thankful to have a wonderful 20 month old son named Aiden. We were so excited and now I just don't know what to do. Nobody seems to understand. My husband is trying so hard to be supportive, bless his heart, I just don't think he understands that although I was only 10 weeks pregnant I formed a bond with this baby. Alot of the family is treating it like it is not a big deal. We bought a T-shirt that says "I am the big brother" and that is how we told people. Well i was on the phone with my FIL and I hear in the back ground my BIL say " well I hope they can take the shirt back." And now nobody understands why I am not speaking to either of them. They both know they offended me and have yet to apologize, mind you this happend like 2 weeks ago. I am trying so hard to move on but I am having such a hard time because I feel so lonely. Anyway thank you for listening and I look foward to getting to know you guys more.

tparum · #2 February 16th, 2008, 07:23 PM

hi and welcome to the board glad u found us and so sry for ur loss.

loss is so very hard and was wondering have u also checked out our pregnancy loss board the ladies on there are great as well but u are welcomed here as well.

jademyst13 · #3 February 16th, 2008, 07:42 PM

I'm sorry for your loss

However

to the board.

susanaa · #4 February 16th, 2008, 09:40 PM

Am sorry for your loss.
Welcome to this board and hope ur stay is short

ShannonMVT · #5 February 16th, 2008, 09:50 PM

I am so sorry for your loss.

I would have been upset by what your BIL said also.

I'm sorry you are not getting more support IRL, most people who haven't had a loss just don't "get it" how bonded you are to the baby so quickly. Especially men.

Melanie0507 · #6 February 17th, 2008, 08:08 PM

I am so sorry for your loss but I am glad that you found us over here. This is a great group of women and I look forward to getting to know you!

As far as BIL, how old is he? I would just let them know that you are not planning on taking the shirt back because you plan on using it again before long!!! That should shut him up

..Jessica.. · #7 February 18th, 2008, 09:15 AM

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss!!!

What your BIL said was incredibly ignorant! I don't blame you for not talking to him.

MaMaTuTu · #8 February 18th, 2008, 09:24 AM

I'm so sorry about your loss! And I can't believe the way your in laws are acting! HUGS to you! And this is a great group of ladies!

Lv2Mommy · #9 February 18th, 2008, 09:49 AM

I'm sorry for your loss, and for the thoughtless comments from family members. I think people really just don't understand unless they've been through it themselves. Fortunately, this board is filled with lots of supportive ladies who know exactly where you're coming from.

*Bobbie* · #10 February 18th, 2008, 09:57 AM

what they all said. How insensitive...GRRRR

I am sooo sorry for your loss

and

(to the best board on Justmommies!)

mom 2 haley & tyler · #11 February 18th, 2008, 01:16 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. People in the real world don't seem to understand what you're going through. I'm so glad you found us here. I look forward to getting to know you. If you need to talk, we are here and we all understand. It's a long, sometime lonely road to recover. We will help any way we can.