do you think it's just instinct?

Frangipani · #1 February 22nd, 2008, 09:01 AM

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bzbug02 · #2 February 22nd, 2008, 09:24 AM

I think I "knew" something was wrong. I had such anxiety a few weeks after I found out I was pregnant; very uneasy no reason why, no cramping/bleeding, had feeling of being pregnant. Sure enough my first OB appt at 9 weeks, I experessed to OB that I had apprehension to ease my mind we went for an ultrasound right than and no HB. She was more shocked than I was; I knew something was not right.

jademyst13 · #3 February 22nd, 2008, 09:30 AM

I'm not sure. I think maybe I kind of knew. My mom had sent me some money for maternity clothes and I kept refusing to buy any until I heard the heartbeat. I had an appointment at 10w and thought if I heard the HB I would go shopping, but we couldn't with the doppler (it was kinda early and I'm overweight so it didn't raise alarm with the Dr). So I waited because I was going back at 12w so we could hear the HB for sure. So I said no shopping until then and at that appointment we found out the bad news.

HippyMomOf4 · #4 February 22nd, 2008, 09:45 AM

I knew something was wrong with both the last ones, i wasn't feeling pregnant anymore and i had a bad feeling about it, my symptoms were slowly going away and then one day all of them were gone and sure enough i m/c. Everyone was telling me to be positive but i just knew its wasn't going to end good!

heatherrose415 · #5 February 22nd, 2008, 10:14 AM

I definately thiink we know and have that instinct!

with my last pregnancy I just felt unsettled the whole time, even though I was throwing up, etc... no spotting or cramping. but I had a bad feeling. over the weekend of my 8th week I had a feeling the baby passed, I just "knew" but kept putting it off as paranoia. Sure enough at my u/s that week my babies heart had stopped beating at 8wks 3 days

Madison.N.Hailey'sMom · #6 February 22nd, 2008, 10:15 AM

With my first one I had no idea I was going to m/c because I had all the symptons even after Samantha passed. With the second one I was just uneasy the whole pg. Never "knew" that I was going to m/c but always thought it was a possibility. I know that when I do get pg again I am going to worry about a m/c until the day I deliver. It sucks that we have to go through pg's like that and not be able to fully enjoy them but I guess it makes us stronger.

babyblue · #7 February 22nd, 2008, 10:25 AM

I am so glad you posted this!

I believe 100% that for me it was instinct. When I was pregnant with DS, although I was cautious the first 12 weeks, I never felt like something was wrong. With the pregnancy I lost - I had a gut feeling something was wrong from the very beginning. I kept telling DH something wasn't right and others too.. and they all dismissed it. Even though I had morning sickness and tell-tale signs, I just had a bad feeling. And then my symptoms slowly began to ease up, and everyone said - oh you're just getting past the bad part sooner this time around, and that every pregnancy is different, etc etc.. but I just KNEW. When we went in for the ultrasound, I 1/2way expected it to end the way it did. I wasn't surprised, just upset.

I'm curious as to how the next pregnancy will be for me. I know I'll be paranoid above measure b/c of losing the last one, but for me, my 2nd pregnancy was filled with more worry than my first, probably because I knew in my gut something wasn't right.

katiegirl · #8 February 22nd, 2008, 10:46 AM

With mine I just knew something was wrong from the beginning, I had no ms at all. With both my DD and DS I had morning sickness, I remember I would get mad if dh even turned in the bed, the movement made me sick.

I just had a bad feeling from the very beginning, when I voiced it to my Dr she just said I should be greatful and not to worry.

greenchild · #9 February 22nd, 2008, 10:50 AM

the first time, yes, I felt something was wrong, but it wasn't until I started bleeding that I felt that way. The other 2 pg's, I felt like everything was going to be fine and well, it wasn't.

MumofAngel · #10 February 22nd, 2008, 10:54 AM

Yes I believe it was an instinct. I had pg symptoms, tiredness and feeling very sick and suddenly two days after I found out the symptoms stopped completely. The baby had died then I know and I started getting cramps....took me three days to bleed though.

Brittanie · #11 February 22nd, 2008, 11:03 AM

Funny you should ask this. I was full-term, and there was technically nothing "wrong" with her. It was a cord accident, so she was physically perfect.

But I really do think I new my whole pregnancy I wasn't going to keep her. Actually I think I knew my whole life, but that's another story.

I was so sure I was going to miscarry when I got pregnant with Cora. I got hyperemesis and ended up at the ER at 10 weeks because I was throwing up blood. I was SO SURE I was going to miscarry her. But I didn't. 10 days later we had an ultrasound, and I was SO SURE it was going to be a blighted ovum or a missed miscarriage. But Cora was perfectly healthy and dancing.

When we had our big ultrasound, I was so sure they were going to tell me something was fatally wrong with her. Like, she didn't have kidneys or something. But she was perfect, and I was so surprised. By the time I got to the third trimester, I couldn't believe my luck. I couldn't ever actually believe that I was having a baby. I never thought about things past labor.

So when I was pregnant with Erin, I knew everything would be okay. Don't get me wrong, I was still anxious and everything, and think I always will be, but deep down, I knew. Every ultrasound I had I knew she would be perfect (again, I was still anxious, but deep down I knew).

I thought about needing a pediatrician as I entered the 3rd trimester, which was something that NEVER crossed my mind when I was pregnant with Cora.

So, yeah, I knew.

Frangipani · #12 February 22nd, 2008, 11:07 AM

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heatherrose415 · #13 February 22nd, 2008, 11:59 AM

My dr. really listens to instincts. Before my u/s when I said I was nervous, he didnt dismiss it, and after he gave me the news, he said he could tell I just "knew"

But I agree, I hear way to often how dr's just dont listen to their patients concerns and feelings!

Brittanie · #14 February 22nd, 2008, 12:20 PM

I think part of it is because, especially first-timers, pregnant women are all kind of nervous anyway. And, at least for me, I couldn't ever put a finger on my real concern, so I didn't really express my unease to my doctors. Not that they could have done much for me anyway. Whenever I told them I was REALLY nervous, they listened and were extra thorough. Especially with Erin.

But my Dr's (3 at the clinic) are all extremely wonderful. I wish I could take them with me when DH graduates and we move.

keekopeeko · #15 February 22nd, 2008, 12:38 PM

With layla i was very nervouse... i even had a hyrsterical crying fit one day because i was SO certain something had happened to her... but after my symptoms returned i never felt like that again..

...with baby E i was pretty concerned but tried to ignore it.. and then around 9 weeks i was like well okay! i guess im gonna have a baby!!... a few days later my symptoms disapeared and i had that feeling, that i knew the baby had passed on... but i kept trying to tell myself everything was fine.. about a week after that.. 10w3d or something.. i started spotting.. and a week later i miscarried...

and now i am pregnant again.. and i am terrified... and i am also terrified to admit that in my gut i feel like this baby is fine and everything will be alright... because i am so scared that i am wrong... but i think this one will be okay... i think..

~Em

~*Seldom.Seen*~ · #16 February 22nd, 2008, 04:09 PM

I think I knew from the begining that something may go wrong. About two weeks after conception I had a dream that scared me and when I woke up I vaguely remember something about a baby girl passing away, somehow I had the feeling that baby was mine. Then a week or so later I had laid down in the afternoon to take a nap and was in a deep sleep when all of a sudden I was startled awake by a dream that I had to pee and had gone into the bathroom only to find out I had started bleeding. Of course when i got awake I did have to pee but I was scared to go. I even retested that day just to be sure. Then exactly a week after that dream it did happen just like the dream. I had been at work for about an hour and went to use the restroom and there was a pink smudge on the TP when I wiped. That night I ended up in the ER with severe cramps and slight bleeding. I passed the baby the next day.

I have had several things that I've dreampt about happen so, over the years I have learned not to just pass my dreams off as "just a dream".

fairy9800 · #17 February 22nd, 2008, 04:36 PM

When I found out I was pg last year, it just didn't feel right from the beggining. I hoped and prayed that it was just going to be a crappy pregnancy but that wasn't the case.

When I found out I was pg this last time I was so sure everything would be alright. I felt great and didn't think for a second that I would lose the baby.