coincidence??? hmmmmm . . . .
I hope you guys can work everything out! We actually did postpone ours - for a whole year! I wasn't happy about it but understood DH's feelings and agreed to wait. I was bummed - our original wedding date was the anniversary of the date we officially met.
I don't know about the Secret. I haven't read/seen it, but have been told that it claims it's our negativity that makes bad things happen to us, or attracts bad things to us. That I definitely do NOT agree with!!! however I do agree with visualizing and thinking positive, but I think that in doing so we try harder to make what we want happen by doing things we might not otherwise do if we didn't want it so bad, KWIM?