[ShannonMVT]

2 tests, 2 BFNs. I still just don't think this is my month. If AF hasn't shown by Sunday, I'll probably test again.

I wonder if my Dh is right and I'm not getting pregnant because of stress? Or because I am sad about my loss? But I think that's the case of others here on the loss board too and there are plenty of you ladies who got/get pregnant.

[*Judy*]

Shannon...
I am so sorry...I tested at 10 DPO and got a BFN and then at 15 DPO and got a BFP, so maybe it is still just a little to early. As far as the stress and all that, I don't know, but you will get that BFP soon, I just know it!

[Madison.N.Hailey'sMom]

I'm so sorry Shannon. I tested at 9, 11 and 12 DPO and got bfn and tested again at 13 DPO and got a really faint BFP. It might still be early. And about the stress thing, maybe it is a factor but we deal with stress everyday even about other things then TTC so its hard to say. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

[mmgre703]

Shannon don't count yourself out yet. It still could be too early. Try to hold off and test Sunday. Good luck and keep your hand up. I know those bfn's suck.

[..Jessica..]

Like the other ladies have said, it could still be too early.

I got a BFN at 11DPO, and got a BFP at 18DPO.

[susanaa]

How late are you? or are u testing early?
Hope u get ur BFP soon and the witch stays away!

[dee68]

Shannon,

I think it may be too early......I SO want you to get your BFP !!!!!!!!!

~sending you a secret stash of baby dust~~

~hugs~

It WILL happen for you !!

[jademyst13]

I'm sorry! I hope we both get a this weekend!

[jademyst13]

I'm sorry! I hope we both get a this weekend!

[greenchild]

I'm sorry you got a BFN!
Stress can play into it. I really think that's why it took so long to get pg the 1st time for us. I went off the pill in Dec 04 and no such luck getting pg for a little over a year. High stress in my job (not the job itself, which I loved, but the idiots I worked for ), so after much urging oh DH's part I quit in Feb 06. 4 months later I was pg. coincidence? IDK.

[Brittanie]

Loads of for you!! I NEVER get early bfps!

[notrub98]

Booooo to BFN! I'm sorry, honey. I agree with others, though, that maybe you are just a little too early still?

[keekopeeko]

BUMMER!!!!!!! STAY AWAY AUNT FLO!!!!!!!!

~Em

[Melanie0507]

I am hoping it's just too early Shannon! I hope the stays away from you for the next 9 months!!!

[*Bobbie*]

Darn stinkin' tests! Next time have a nice talk with those HPT's before you pee on them

Stress can delay O not stop pregnancy So not to worry those sperm don't know the difference....figures darn men!

[steph&dam]

Stress can do all kinds of things to you. Remove as much stress as you can. I decided to go part time because my job is very stressful. I think you are probably testing too early. Be patient, test in a couple more days first thing in the am!

[ShannonMVT]

Darn stinkin' tests! Next time have a nice talk with those HPT's before you pee on them [/b]

What should I say to them?!

I am not too down about it this month, which is kind of nice. It's nice to not be bawling my eyes out about it.
I told Dh, and he said he'd just have to try harder this next month. (Not sure what that means!)
I know it's still possible I could be pregnant this month, but I just am not optimistic about it and I think maybe that's best for me. When I get my hopes up too too much, then I crash and burn when AF arrives.

I have done a few things to reduce stress, I went part time at my job a few months before we started TTC the first time. As for other things, I just do the best I can. I just hate hearing "oh just relax and you'll get pregnant. I know a couple who adopted/decided to adopt and that's when they got pregnant". I feel like that's people trying to point a finger at me and saying "You're not pregnant, because you are too stressed" and that's putting the blame on ME, when they really don't know why I'm not pregnant. It could be stress or for some other reason, or there could be no reason for it. (Btw, that mini rant was not directed at anyone on JM, just some people I've had dealings with.)

Oh but guess what?! We didn't have to have dinner with the in-laws because it was pouring down rain like crazy. It does mean we'll be going to see them in 2 weeks instead though.