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March 12th, 2008, 05:08 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Illinois ( originally From New Jersey:)
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and wanting to give you a BIG HUG ~~~~
love ya girl !!
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March 12th, 2008, 05:19 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Rochester, NY
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Thanks 
Last night was harder than today. A lady who works for me said to me on our way out last night (when I told her I m/c this one too) That.... "Maybe your body is trying to tell you something and you should listen to it". I was more pissed off than I have ever been in my life...then I was hurt. How horrible for her to say something like that to another human being.
Oh well. Then I cried myslef to sleep and even was so down that I planned on stepping down from this board. It was a rough night. I am glad it's over!
(and I am not stepping down LOL)
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Bobbie mom to : Jeremy (21) Amanda (17) Matthew (3) and Daniel (20 months) step-mom to: Stephany(21) and Krista (18)
step-grandma to: Wesley (23 months)
On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss  If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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March 12th, 2008, 05:54 PM
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just me
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Oh Bobbie, that's terrible! I can't believe she would say that!
 I'm sorry that you had such a hard night. And I'm glad that you're not stepping down!!
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March 12th, 2008, 06:01 PM
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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Southern california
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Bobbie, you should have told her that is was unfortunate for everyone that her parents didn't get the same message! Seriously, People have no idea what to say when we share our loss with them. They think that they must say something. In reality, they don't. Sometimes, you just want people to listen and to stop trying to find the reasons or answers as to why it happened. Sometimes, it JUST happens, and it's not right or fair, but we can't control it, once we let go of that, we can mourn, and then look for new hope and walk toward new beginnings. Hang in there. And the next time someone says something stupid, smack them up side the head with a frying pan! 
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March 12th, 2008, 06:40 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Ohio
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Bobbie.
People can be sooo horrible and insensitive! I can't believe that someone would say that to another person, that's just horrible!
Anyways, glad you're having a better day and REALLY glad you're not stepping down! We love you!! 
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Proud Parents to: Branden 10/28/1997 Owen 5/17/09 (Born with Hirschsprung's Disease) And expecting our newest addition 5/7/12 
 
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March 12th, 2008, 07:16 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Virginia
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How rude! Plenty of people have multiple losses and go on to have healthy babies. What if they had taken her advice?
I'm really glad you aren't stepping down, in fact I'm not sure we would have let you!
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March 12th, 2008, 07:44 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Illinois ( originally From New Jersey:)
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how f&^%$#@! Insensitve.....I just do not understand people sometimes....
I know Angelversaries & Due Dates are hard, so I just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts....
I am soooo glad you are not stepping down. ~hugs~
and if you want me to, I'd be more than happy to kick that woman's ***** for you 
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March 12th, 2008, 07:54 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Rochester, NY
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Awww thanks girls....
Dee...nah she is an *old* lady who just doesn't get it. She has never been married, no kids, just two dogs and works part-time. The first time I was PG she yelled at me for not getting married. Told me "I was what was wrong with the world today...no one wants to commit and that is why kids are the way they are" yadda yadda yadda. She usually means well, but only sees in black and white.
She just said it at the wrong time. I was already feeing down about not being able to stay PG and I wonder every day if something is wrong with us and if we should just give up.
We all know I am way too stubborn to give up though
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Bobbie mom to : Jeremy (21) Amanda (17) Matthew (3) and Daniel (20 months) step-mom to: Stephany(21) and Krista (18)
step-grandma to: Wesley (23 months)
On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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March 12th, 2008, 08:37 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: California
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Bobbie, give me her address and let me beat her down!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Those comments just infuriate me Im so sorry, especially the timing that she said it in.
((HUGE HUGS)) I am glad you are not stepping down, we would not dare let you!!!
Thinking of you today....
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March 12th, 2008, 08:56 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Bobbie im so sry she said that to ya that was wrong and sad of her to say that to u or anybody i wouldnt even say that to my enemy.
and im glad ur not stepping dwn wouldnt know what to do without a co-host as great as u are.
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Allways Remembering our Angels
Angelina Marie 08-02-99, William Dewayne 02-08-01, Thomas Ray 07-30-02 and BabyBean 02-22-08 and BabyBean 03/02/2012
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March 12th, 2008, 09:45 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Canada
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What an ugly cow!  That right there is what is wrong with this world! I wonder why she's never been married and has no kids!!
I'm sorry today had to come, Bobbie!!! You're truly a wonderful person, and I wish you and Dave nothing but the best in the future!!! I'm glad you're not stepping down!!! Who's going to make the HPT pics if you're not here???
Love ya girl!!!
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March 13th, 2008, 11:53 AM
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Veteran
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Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Ohio
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Aw Bobbie, I just read what the stupid insesitive old lady said to you. How rude!!!!  I would have slapped her upside her head. Some people don't think before they speak. I'm so glad you are staying!! I'm hoping that the puppy cheers you up!!! 
Megan
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