[mom 2 haley & tyler]

Do you ever feel like maybe it's not meant to have a baby or (if you have one) another one? It's been almost 7 months since my m/c. I'm beginning to think it's never gonna happen. I am so thankful that I have dd. She is the light of my life, but I so want another one. The funny thing is that we weren't gonna try for anymore after her. We decided on one. We decided when she was 2 1/2 to start trying for another one. We had just bought our house and decided to fill up that other room. It's so hard to keep POAS and getting I can't remember to temp every morning. I just started using the opk this cycle. I feel like I'm obsessed, and I don't like it! Why are there so many women out there pregnant that don't want or deserve kids? We all want one and deserve one, and we're the ones who pay the highest price there is---losing a baby. I just don't understand!! Well Ladies, thanks for listening! I don't know what I'd do without JM.

[Eleysia]

((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))

I'm sorry that you are feeling down today I know it is hard. I'm going through my first loss as we speak and I'm so confused as to why it happens to some and not others. Like you said, at least you have your daughter, there are some not even that fortunate. If it is meant to be it will happen hun. Maybe trying so hard is stressing you out, and your body isn't reacting too well to the stress? I don't want to say take it easy, because I know we all hate to hear it, but maybe take a night or even a week and just focus on your daughter instead of thinking about TTC. Maybe that will give your mind and body a little break and next thing you know you'll get your BFP.

[katiegirl]

Michelle
I am sorry that you are having such a tough day. Just keep remembering how wonderful it is to have your daughter.
I have to remind myself that I have two beautiful and intelligent children and if God blesses me with a third I will rejoice
but if not I should still be thankful for what I DO have.

[greenchild]

DH is already saying we weren't meant to have kids. I don't feel this way, at least not yet but I do wonder about it.

I just try to stay positive and still hope that it will happen. I hope it will happen for all of us ladies!!! like you said, we're the ones who want/deserve one and yet we pay the highest price there is. it is NOT FAIR!!!



I don't know who said it but there are times it's this type of thinking that has helped get me thru our dark spots. my mom did a gorgoues cross stitch of it with a beautiful frame/matting ; it always hung in our house growing up and she made one for me when I asked for it. it says:

Happiness is . . .
not a matter of good fortune or worldly posessions. It's a mental attitude. It comes from appreciating what we have instead of being miserable about what we don't have. It's so simple . . . yet so hard for the human mind to comprehend.

But some days it's really hard to be thankful for what I have when now I know what I am without.

[LindsLuvsSi]

Michelle, i know exactly how you're feeling. I've been feeling like that the past 3 cycles, this cycle the feeling is stronger. It's not easy at all it's soooooo hard. It's been the hardest for me lately seeing all the first time TTCers get their BFP the first try, and then there's people like me who have been trying for 17 cycles and had a chemical pregnancy. I just wish it took the same amount of time for everyone to get pregnant, like 3-5 cycles or something ya know?! That would be fair and reasonable!

Michelle Hang in there!! I'm glad to have JM at tiems like this too!! You'll get your BFP too!!

[Melanie0507]

I totally had that day yesterday Michelle. My temp dropped and I told my dh that we may never have any more children.

But, today's a better day. I have a better feeling today and I know it WILL happen, it's just a matter of when...

Hope you are feeling better soon!

[victorialv]

I totally know how you feel. It's hard not to feel that way when things have just gone wrong at every turn. However, I ultimatley feel this is God's way of teaching me something. I am not sure what yet, but I have to trust I will be a better person for it. Keep your head up sweetie, there are better days ahead...

[steph&dam]

Ladies, it's baby steps (no pun intended here). One foot after the other, one day at a time. We are going to have a baby. I won't think any other way. And, FWIW, more miscarriages happen, then actual live births. Frequently, a woman has had a miscarriage, and is not aware. We are aware because we anticipate. It's like waiting for a pot of water to boil.

[..Jessica..]

Michelle!!

I totally know what you're talking about!!

DH and I just decided to stop birth control when the packs are out, I've been wanting to see the end of the light for months now. And it's finally there!!!

Our pregnancies will happen, and we will all get sticky beans, and lots of diapers to change in the near future!!!

I'm sorry you're having a down day!

[mommy jenn]

i know how you feel, i havent even been trying that long but i am so obsessed with oing this month that there is nothing else i think of!!!

also i know what you mean about people who get pregnant and dont want to be or dont deserve to be... its so dam sad... here we are taking vitamins resting temping, charting, sticking our fingers in places that nobody would understand if they didnt know. spending sooo much $$$ on opks pregnancy test and all that jazz and you get those people that are like.... oh dam im pregnant now what..... grrrrr

[mmgre703]

I hear all of you. Its not fair. I look around and know so many people that aren't greatful for having kids. I just want one. It that to much to ask for. Yes I do have a step daughter but that's so different. I want one of my own. We do everything right but for some reason it hasn't happened. But I still have hope that everyone will get what they deserve. And that goes for all of us!!!!!! I just keep my fingers crossed and pray that it will happen very soon so we can stop working so hard on conceiving and enjoy our baby.



Megan

[mrsasham]

I too know what you are all going through Ive been with my dh for 4 years, we both want a child soo badly I have a daughter who is 7 from a previous relationship, we've had miscarriages and we had our beautiful baby Rennon last May, he passed away shortly after birth, the nurses at the hospital actually forgot to do my blood work and I was 12 weeks early turns out my son had group b strep and couldnt fight it off being so premature and weak from the infection... It feels like nothing is ever going to be easy and that its never going to happen for us and it sucks to be honest, I am very impatient and am hoping that we can have another child soon but have a feeling deep down inside that it wont happen...

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

DH is already saying we weren't meant to have kids. I don't feel this way, at least not yet but I do wonder about it.

I just try to stay positive and still hope that it will happen. I hope it will happen for all of us ladies!!! like you said, we're the ones who want/deserve one and yet we pay the highest price there is. it is NOT FAIR!!!



I don't know who said it but there are times it's this type of thinking that has helped get me thru our dark spots. my mom did a gorgoues cross stitch of it with a beautiful frame/matting ; it always hung in our house growing up and she made one for me when I asked for it. it says:

Happiness is . . .
not a matter of good fortune or worldly posessions. It's a mental attitude. It comes from appreciating what we have instead of being miserable about what we don't have. It's so simple . . . yet so hard for the human mind to comprehend.

But some days it's really hard to be thankful for what I have when now I know what I am without. [/b]

That is a beautiful saying, Anne. Thanks!


Thanks for all the reponses ladies. It's nice to know you're not alone at times like this! I really appreciate all of you!!! I'm feeling better today.

Thanks for all the reponses ladies. It's nice to know you're not alone at times like this! I really appreciate all of you!!! I'm feeling better today.

[ShannonMVT]

I know just how you feel. Some days I feel so down and wondering if I will ever have a baby in my arms. It's so hard especially when you see so many who barely have to try or worse, don't even WANT a baby getting pregnant.

[AHosch]

It is heart wrenching to see moms abusing their kids on the news, or putting their children in the trash. I would love just 5 minutes with those "people". It hurts that some of us have to lose sometime repeatedly and others have no issues at all. I wish no one had to go through waiting and loss, but at the end I am optimisitc their will be joy. Hang in there and all the luck to you!
AShley