[Eleysia]

Ok, so I went to the drug store after work and bought a pack of Answers ovulation strips, and a BBT thermometer. I explained to DH on the phone that I think starting to chart and such will help me to heal since it will keep my mind off of the loss. I figure that if I'm doing something to make sure my body is getting back on track it will help.

I get home and am talking to him about the stuff I just bought and low and behold he friggin says "ok" mid sentance.... he wasn't listening or even feighning interest!!!!!! He was the one who said "lets try again as soon as you feel up to it" I was gonna call it and go back on my meds and stuff and be ok with just having our son.

How the hell (sorry) is it that not even 20 min after I tell him this is part of my healing process does he blatenly ignore me?! Then the kicker is when I told him that I was still talking about it he told me he didn' care to listen.

I'm fuming right now. What a jerk.


Sorry ladies.

[mrsasham]

[Hi! I went through something similar when I started talking about trying again, after our son died and well I came close also my husband was scared, men hate to admit they are scared have you tried talking to him about it at a good time, when he;s not tired or just coming home from work??? I finally after fighting with my husband about it got it out of him and I understood what he ment, he told me that seeing me go through everything I did and then losing our son almost killed him and he was scared of anything happening to me, whether it be physical or emotional.. sometimes its just way too hard to understand our men and they are so busy trying to protect us that they sometimes come off as they dont care or whatever
But best wishes to you !

[victorialv]

Oh, I am so sorry, that sounds really insensitive.....

I hope he was just having a bad day, and he didn't mean to hurt your feelings like that.

Hugs!!

[Melanie0507]

That stinks that he wasn't more willing to listen, Eleysia. My dh has never really straight out ignored me when I've been trying to talk to him about TTC stuff, but he's made it known that he *usually* doesn't want to know.

Maybe just try giving him the overview details and then come give us all the juicy info...cause atleast we will appreciate it!

Hope things are better today!

[Eleysia]

Thanks ladies. I think that he probably was not wanting to hear it because he is the typical guy.. when he is upset he becomes withdrawn. I was thinking about it and when it all happened he was very quiet for a few days and somewhat reserved. That's just his way of handling grief, so maybe your right, that he just didn't want to bank too much on it since there is always a chance of a repeat. Looks like I'll be sharing with you guys and my sis, and just letting DH know when and where lol.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

That's how I do it. I don't even talk to dh about it anymore. He says he wants to try again ,but he doesn't want to hear all the specifics. Guys are strange. Good luck to you. You can talk to us anytime, we won't ignore you.