[Mum2three]

I dont know where to begin. Im just so upset with ppl in my life! Dwayne is being a complete as*hole and thinks he crap dont stink. Lately hes been acting like a child. throwing temper tantrums, yelling, acting like a BIG baby! i told him knock it off. what is your problem. our 2 year old is expected to do that crap not a 32 year old man! All my friends and family have noticed it. and thats really sad! i dont understand what is going on with him. i have tried to talk to him but that never goes anywhere. We have been fighting so much over the month. and i hate it. we never fight! He tells me that he wants space, and i give it to him! hes barley home as it is. he works for 8 hrs as a meat cutter, then takes off to the tattoo shop to do more work. and i dont see him till after midnight. and im stuck here by myself with nothing to do, and i have to be with the kids 24/7. i tell him that i would like to have more family time, and he says im being selfish!! Can you believe that?? this is not my husband. he gets to do anything he wants! I feel like a maid and not a mother/ wife. its killing me where the last few days i just cry.
I asked him today, im going to go out tomorrow with the girls and pick up some stuff for easter and for the baby, is that ok with you? would you mind staying home with the kids? he looked at me, and said So what you have another Lover out there? and you just want to cover your a*s with your friends? I dont know what to do. i really dont. i have been nice, i have been a wife taking care of the kids. everything and i ask for a few hrs alone and im the bad guy! im just so Pis*ed off with him right now. i dont know if its cause he turned 32 and he has a new baby coming, or if it is cause we are having a baby. I just want to yell!! im so mad with him. If he doesnt get his way, he just freaks and slams doors, and stomps his feet. doesnt that sound like a 2 year old??

I have been patient with him, but theres only so much that someone can take!
im sorry to have to come and vent to you girls. I feel very close to you all.

Am i in the wrong? am i over seeing something? Am i selfish?

HELP!! im going to pull my hair out!!!!

[Melanie0507]

Brandy

I am so sorry you are going through this. Have you tried talking to him and see what's going on? There must be something on his mind if other people are noticing his strange behavior too...

As far as tomorrow goes, you definitely deserve to get to have a little time to yourself. It bugs me to no end when my friend's husbands don't want to watch the kids and allow the mom atleast a little free time--hello, you are both the parents, right?!? So go out, get the boys some Easter stuff and buy some goodies for Makenna...you deserve a little down time!

Hope things get better and you guys can work this out soon!

[Danica]

Oh Brandy. That sucks that he is acting this way. You are not being selfish at all. You deserve an afternoon of fun, that's not too much to ask. You are probably right, he is probably just getting nervous of the baby coming and just stressing the way that men do during certain times of life. I hope he gets out of his funk soon. BIG HUGS!

[Mum2three]

thanks girls. i didnt know where to post this. I feel comfortable with you all, compared to others.
I have tried to talk to him over and over, and it always leads in a fight, or him just getting pee'd off.
i just dont understand it. I want to go out tomorrow, and i feel that im entitled to have 1 day away from the kids. but he makes me feel like a MAID. that im not allowed to go out. I need space to. Im stuck at home. what would he do if i was working? im just so flustered with this all. i just want it to end.

he just got home now, and he wont even look at me. and i even made him his favorite supper. He said i have already ate. i really think im going to stop trying all together. i will be that mean b*tch he didnt like in the beginning. i just dont want to stoop to his level!!! i want to be happy, and not complaining or causing fights.

[Danica]

My goodness. What is his deal. I've never heard of a man turning down food, especially a favorite. LOL Is there something coming up that is a significant date. I only ask because I know my friends husband gets all pissy before big holidays because his father passed away about a year ago and those holidays are hard for him now since he was so close to his dad. He doesn't even realize that is the reason why until she points it out and then he gets a little better. It is definately hard to work it out if he is pouting and won't talk though. UGH. I'm sorry

I say still go out for the day. You deserve it and if he doesn't want to watch the boys then send them to a sitter if that is an option for you.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I'm sorry Brandi. I don't know what his problem could be. My dh has PMS, too. I understand what you mean about feeling like a maid sometimes instead of a wife. I hope he gets better. you do deserve time to yourself. You are in my t&p

[MaMaTuTu]

I'm so sorry he is being such a poop! I hope he let you have a day off today! Is there anyone you could get to watch you kids, that way you two could go and just be together? I know when me and DH are both getting stressed(not even wih each other) we tend to get upset with each other. I hope you can find out what's making him act this way. -HUGS!-

[MrsPoe]

Brandy,

I am so sorry he is acting this way. I don't know if it will make you feel better or not by my dh is 32 too and ever since Jan. when his birthday came around he has been acting different too. Is this their mid-life crisis or what? I agree with the other ladies, I hope you will just find a sitter and go out and have a good time shopping. I know this sounds crazy but maybe get him a little something special too. I have heard of men being jealous of the baby because they are invading their territory (so to speak), like they don't get to play with the bb's anymore because now those are for the baby, bd'ing just isn't the same either, and whatever other twisted way men think. So if he is acting like a child, then treat him like a child. Like a jealous big brother or something, buy him something special while your out.

One thing I have tried a few times with my dh is when we are going through times like this I go up to him and just hug him. It completely throws him off, but he will wrap his arms around me and then I will kiss him, a passionate kiss, and he will say "what was that for"? and I tell him "just because I love you".

Not saying any of my stuff will work for you, but I hope you get this all sorted out soon. You don't need any extra stress.

[Eleysia]

Brandy-

I'm sorry he is being a jerk. I can't relate to the DH at 32 thing but I can tell you that when my 24 y/o DH acts like he is 2 (which is more often than not) he usually has some underlying thing going on. Maybe he had something go on at work that upset him, and since he has to be there every day it is still wearing on him? Or maybe like everyone else mentioned he is just freaking out about the baby.
My hubby thinks that he is getting "old" and he has days where he is downright miserable to be around because he pouts, whines, complains, you name it. When I tell him it's not a big deal that we are doing things like having kids, buying a house and all that stuff he has the oddacity to tell me "thats because you act like youre *$%# 40 already".

I hope that your DH becomes more involved with the family hun. If not, then just ignore him for a bit. Then he will have no choice but to try to involve himself or get left in the dust.

[greenchild]

oh hun I am so sorry he is being such a stinker!! My 35 yr old DH has had temper tantrums like a 2 yr old for as long as I've known him Cusses, yells, and throws stuff. and not cheap stuff either. last temper tantrum we had to buy a new circular saw. it's SUPER embarrassing when he does this out in public.

I've noticed that my DH does tend to get more cranky/depressed in the spring, I don't know why but it happens every year. Hope yours is just going thru a PMS stage and will get over it soon!!

[Mum2three]

Ladies!! Well i finally talked to him. We went out for dinner and i told him, if you want me to say good bye well then i will now, and dont count your lucky stars, as i wont come back. He kinda looked at me and knew ok something is wrong with her!

I told him how i have been feeling with his erratic behavior, and made him see how hes been treating everyone in the house, including me. Well he really felt like crap then! he told me that hes just so stressed with his job, then having to go and work at the Tattoo shop. and its getting to him, as there is a new girl there that is flirting with him. and she doenst take the hind hes MARRIED. So I had decided that today, i was going to drive down to the tattoo shop and bring him lunch, and there she was. I just looked at her, and KISSED DH right there. So she could see with her own eyes he was taken! she didnt like that. Oh well i married him not the other way around..LOL

things are much better now. And im glad that i have you girls to vent to! and great advice. I even went and bought him a Ipod nano just to show him that he gets stuff to, not just the kids or the new baby.

[*Bobbie*]

Brandy....

I am so glad he got his head out of his butt

I wanna be married to you... I soooo want an IPOD

Seriously.... I am very happy that you guys got things worked out.