Getting ready to TTC.

Jen113007 · #1 March 25th, 2008, 07:49 PM

Hey all.

My name is Jen, and I am married to Chris. We got pregnant for the first time last summer and I miscarried in early September. My husband has been deployed since late September and should be home in about 4 weeks.

I have been on prenatals and BC since November and we are really excited about trying again. I am, however, pretty scared, and I haven't really told him that. He is so amped up about it and my mind keeps going back to "what if it happens again?" I don't think I could handle another loss.

Do any of you have any advice? Thoughts? Experiences with this. I figured this was the right place to get all of that.

jademyst13 · #2 March 25th, 2008, 08:22 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss!

I'm also Jenn and this is my second cycle of TTC again since my loss in Dec. We can all understand being scared and I wish I knew something that would make it just go away. There are several ladies here that either have had children since their loss or are currently pregnant again. They too still get scared, but just have to keep their chins up and hope for the best. Just know that we are all here for you and will do our best to help you get through.

I hope you stick around so we can get to know you!

Danica · #3 March 25th, 2008, 08:48 PM

Hi Jen. I am sorry to hear about your loss but happy you found your way here. How exciting that you can start to TTC again! I hope you get a quick BFP and healthy sticky bean this next time. Like Jenn mentioned, the worry will always be there but you just have to try to stay positive. It's hard. I never thought I could handle a loss but I did and made it through and tried again, and again, and again. They all hurt terribly but I look at it like these hard times will make me value my next little baby even more because of what I've been through. The potential is so grand and a baby is so worth that risk of putting your heart out there. I am sure many people have told you that m/c is common and happens to many women and that the 2nd time around you'll probably not have any issues and that is so true. I also find my strength from being on this message board and watching other ladies who had previous m/c go on to get pregnant and have healthy babies. I hope you stick around and obsess about TTC with us. Welcome!!!

..Jessica.. · #4 March 25th, 2008, 09:00 PM

Hi Jenn, welcome to the board.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss!!! I'm glad to see you ready to TTC again. I know the feeling of "what if it happens again?" and can understand you being scared. I think it's normal.

I wish you and Chris the best when he returns!!!

I'm Jessica, by the way!

Melanie0507 · #5 March 26th, 2008, 06:21 AM

Hi Jen! I am Melanie

First, I am so sorry for you loss, but I am excited for you that Chris is coming home and you get to TTC again!

I know that I will probably be quite worried when I get pregnant again, but it is a risk that we all have to take in order to get what we want...a brand new, perfect baby to hold in our arms.

I am glad you found you way over here, because groups like this one will be the support that you can use to get through the scary times!

I hope you stick around...I look forward to getting to know you!

*Bobbie* · #6 March 26th, 2008, 07:59 AM

Hi Jenn....

I too worried that it will happen again, and in my case it did keep happening again, but it will be sooo worth it in the end when I finally have a baby to hold. I think for me just treating every pregnancy like it was pre-m/c helps. I just try and be as excited as I was with the first.

I hope you get a quick sticky BFP.

Eleysia · #7 March 26th, 2008, 09:10 AM

Welcome Jen,

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, but I'm glad as well that you found us, and are willing to TTC again!!! I doubt you could find a group of more supportive women anywhere other than here. These girls are amazing and have helped so many people like you and me through the times where it has been nearly unbearable, and almost defeating. If there is anything we can help you with please don't hesitate to ask.

Can't wait to get to know you.

Eleysia
P.S. When Danica said you can "obsess" with us about TTC, I'd say that was an understatement!! LOL

mmgre703 · #8 March 26th, 2008, 09:46 AM

Jen. I'm so sorry for your loss but how exciting you are ttc again. My name is Megan and DH is Robert. We have been ttc since Sept 07 and got pg Jan 10 and m/c Feb 22. This is my first cycle after m/c and I am very excited but scared too that it could happen again. I just try to think positive. So good luck and welcome to the family. Everyone here is so wonderful!!!

Megan

mom 2 haley & tyler · #9 March 26th, 2008, 11:14 AM

Hi. My name is Michelle! I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad your dh is coming home and you can ttc again. I wish you all the best. These ladies here are wonderful. We support each other through it all. Just know you are never alone with us here!! I look forward to getting to know you. I hope you get a BFP soon!

Jen113007 · #10 March 26th, 2008, 09:27 PM

Thank you all so much! I already feel so excited to get to know all of you!

I know that I should share my concerns with Chris, but it's hard to do that when he isn't home.

I think you ladies are going to be so fantastic to talk to and "obsess" with.

tparum · #11 March 26th, 2008, 09:30 PM

welcome to the board and im so sry for ur loss

ShannonMVT · #12 March 26th, 2008, 10:11 PM

Hello and welcome! My story is very similar to yours, I got pregnant for the first time this past summer also and lost my baby mid-Sept. We've been TTC since then but no luck yet.
I'm sorry for your loss...it is scary to think of losing another one, but I know I will be so grateful when the day comes that I have a baby in my arms.

Best of luck to you with TTC and I look forward to getting to know you!