hi, new here, just had m/c

Pound · #1 March 26th, 2008, 10:41 AM

i'm linda,
i was over in the nov ddc, but this last fri i had a m/c and a d&c. too lazy and sad to change my ticker thing. =(
it's too soon to ttc just yet for me, but thought i'd come and chat w/ you guys about it.
for those who got a bfp 2nd time around, how long did you wait? and how long did it take? i don't know how long it'll take for me to get my cycles back to normal.
for now, i'm just still sad about it.

mom 2 haley & tyler · #2 March 26th, 2008, 10:47 AM

Hi Linda! I'm so sorry for your loss. I had my m/c and d&c in August. They just told me to wait until my hcg levels went down to zero. I hope you get to ttc again soon. I look forward to getting to know you. The ladies here are wonderful. Just ask if you need anything at all.

mommy jenn · #3 March 26th, 2008, 11:09 AM

hi there, im so sorry for you loss, i was sooo beat up about mine too!! my ticker was actually the first thing i changed, as soon as the bleeding started i deleted everything!!! i was just so mad!! people heal differently and they way i did was by reading thousands of stories of women losing there babies at like 20 and 30 wks and i reallised how God was actually protecting me from that, i would never be able to cope with that as those women do, its sad coz by then they have personalities and things... is very sad... you just moarn my love make sure you are emotionally ready to try again

this is my first cycle after my m/c and im still waiting to Ovulate.... so we will see

katiegirl · #4 March 26th, 2008, 11:21 AM

Linda, I am very sorry for you loss. If you haven't aready, I would check out the Pregnancy Loss board. The ladies there are a godsend!!

As for TTC again. I had a miscarriage in November (no D&C) Dr told me to wait until my 3rd cycle.

Good Luck!!

Eleysia · #5 March 26th, 2008, 12:23 PM

I am sorry for your loss Linda. I pm'd you, but wanted to add something. If your Dr. wont put you in for blood test to follow your HCG drop (mine wouldnt) then you can always buy the "answer" brand OPK. HCG interferes with them, and if you go that route, the test line will get lighter as the HCG leaves your blood. I hope that helps you hun.

I am sorry for your loss Linda. I pm'd you, but wanted to add something. If your Dr. wont put you in for blood test to follow your HCG drop (mine wouldnt) then you can always buy the "answer" brand OPK. HCG interferes with them, and if you go that route, the test line will get lighter as the HCG leaves your blood. I hope that helps you hun.

~*Sam*~ · #6 March 26th, 2008, 12:36 PM

Hello ! So sorry for your loss. This can be one of the toughest times ever. I'm glad you came to join us. These ladies have really helped me a lot. We are all hear to listen. I personally am currently working on getting my BFP since my m/c. Take Care-

lynie07 · #7 March 26th, 2008, 03:48 PM

Hi Linda,Welcome!! my name is lynda too, l'm so sorry for your loss,

jademyst13 · #8 March 26th, 2008, 03:53 PM

Hi and welcome Linda! I'm so sorry about your loss.

Most Drs tell you to wait at least one cycle before TTC again. I waited 2 and am on my second cycle of trying. I hope that even while you are waiting that you stick around with us.

..Jessica.. · #9 March 26th, 2008, 04:38 PM

Hi Linda, welcome to the board.

I'm so sorry to hear you lost your baby!!!!

I'm currently in the process of waiting to TTC, so you're not alone in the waiting department!

to you!!

Melanie0507 · #10 March 26th, 2008, 04:39 PM

Hi Linda

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a m/c and D&C in November. I then waited 1 cycle and we are on our 3rd cycle TTC.

Please stay around and hang out with us, even if you aren't actively TTC yet. This is a great group of women!

I look forward to getting to know you!

Pound · #11 March 26th, 2008, 05:46 PM

thanks for all the replies! i didn't find a pg loss board, so i came here, since i will definitely be ttc again soon. i can't even imagine how those who have a m/c later in pg must feel, it's hard enough at 7 weeks.
i'm glad i found this forum.

i've had 3 hcg tests so far. one was to confirm my pg, that was 195. the 2nd was when i had my m/c, it was 490. then to make sure they were going down, i had one a few days after my d&c, and they were 40. so they are coming down. i think the baby was gone way before i started bleeding, the dr. said my hcg at that time should've been like 100,000 (it was 490).

i feel pretty antisocial right now. except online, i just don't want to see any of my friends in real life.
can't wait til i can start ttc again, i feel so anxious about it all.

MinDB · #12 March 27th, 2008, 03:51 PM

hello.
just wanted to let you know that my m/c was on 10/1 @7.5 weeks.
got my BFP on 12/25. didn't take that long at all!
have faith.
i'm sorry for your loss.

Celry · #13 March 27th, 2008, 05:35 PM

Linda, I'm so sorry for your loss. I was in the Nov DDC as well, but was quickly gone as I was due Nov 2nd and had a miscarriage at 6 weeks. I never talked to my doctor. The nurse practitioner at her office suggested I may want to take a cycle off. I was devastated at first, but just O'd and we did not try not to conceive. My hcg levels have been back to zero for a while now. I would say to listen to your body emotionally and physically and when you feel ready you can try again.

Pound · #14 March 27th, 2008, 06:22 PM

mindb- wow that was fast! congrats! gives me hope that it won't take too long. i got pg the 2nd month of ttc this last time around, so hopefully...

celry- =( sorry to hear about your loss too. i saw so many girls at nov ddc post a goodbye, it was really sad. it was like every few days there was one...

dee68 · #15 March 27th, 2008, 07:35 PM

Linda,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish none of us ever had to know that kind of heartache.
as far as TTC, dr.s usually say to wait 1-3 cycles.....but sometimes emotionally it takes a little longer. I waited almost a year after my loss to try again, just because I was scared to death !! Then when we did try, it took about 3 months to get our bfp.

here is the link to the Pregnancy Loss Board, which has helped soooooooooooooo many of us here, and still does !!!!!Pregnancy Loss Board
but stick around here too ! It's fun

take care,

~HUGS~
Dee

MelissaT1973 · #16 March 27th, 2008, 08:24 PM

I am very sorry for your loss. It will take time to heal emotionally, give yourself that time, you will know when you feel ready again and for each person that is a different time line.
I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks, and had a D&C on August 18. My first AF after was Oct. 2 and I had a BFP November 6! We were blessed to conceive so quickly again, and I was ready emotionally too.

I love this board! I still hang around here, especially to read up on everyone, I don't post much on any boards right now due to my schedule. But I will say that the ladies of this board helped me soo much during and after my m/c....its a fabulous group.

Hugs to you.

Pound · #17 March 27th, 2008, 08:38 PM

thanks for the link dee.
and melissa- another one w/ a bfp so soon! i like hearing about those

steph&dam · #18 March 27th, 2008, 08:57 PM

So sorry for your loss. Welcome to TTCAL. There are some really cool people here. We waited 2 cycles before TTC and we are currently in our second month of clomid and IUI.

mmgre703 · #19 March 28th, 2008, 05:13 AM

Hi Linda I'm so sorry for your loss

My doc said to wait one cycle and then I could try again. M/c on Feb 22 (6wk and 2d) Af came on March 20th and I am now waiting to O. I'm so sorry that you have to be here on such sad terms but you are in good hands. The ladies here are amazing.

Megan