When you got married....

Sam914 · #1 November 13th, 2011, 05:05 PM

What did you do with your maiden name? Drop it completely? Make it your Middle name? Add it to your middle name?

I decided when i got married i didnt want to get rid of my middle name or last name so I am Samantha middle name, maiden name (both are legal middle names) then my last name (dhs last name)

mylene169 · #2 November 13th, 2011, 05:10 PM

If I remember correctly, Michigan is ridiculous and won't (wouldn't at the time?) let you have 2 middle names on your ID. I remember someone I know complaining about it because she didn't want to hyphenate but she didn't want to lose either name legally either. Anyway, I debated it for a long time and decided to just drop it. I like my middle name better than my maiden name

Sam914 · #3 November 13th, 2011, 05:14 PM

I think i was over sensitive about losing either of my names since my middle name is after my dads sister and of course my last name was a part of my dad since he had just died 10 months before i got married. But, my mom also did the same thing with her name so it always seemed natural to me to do it. My sister did the same thing

Twhylite21 · #4 November 13th, 2011, 07:53 PM

I dropped my maiden name completely. It's funny because now my last name is the same as my mom's (she kept her maiden name as her last name) and her side of the family. Most Koreans have 1 of 6 last names and mine is the most common of them all

But when I went to Social Security to change it, the lady reading my form was like "did you marry your brother" since my mom's last and DH's are the same

Both DH and I can trace our roots in Korea back to the time of the Mongols invading Korea in the 1200s and there is no link between our families that we've found. There probably is somewhere way back though...that's a long time not to mix somewhere. But his family is from way south and my Korean side is mainly from way up north in what is now North Korea anyway. And I just totally went off tangent there

Shea131 · #5 November 14th, 2011, 06:39 AM

I will be dropping mine completely and taking DF last name.

frgsonmysox · #6 November 14th, 2011, 08:59 AM

Mine is First name Middle name Maiden name Married name. SS only recognizes the first three names so I have to file under my maiden name.

QueenCrafty · #7 November 14th, 2011, 09:15 AM

I dropped my middle name and made my maiden name my legal middle name now. I didn't want to take DH's last name though. It took me about 6 months before I finally decided to change it

Sam914 · #8 November 14th, 2011, 10:07 AM

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Originally Posted by frgsonmysox

Mine is First name Middle name Maiden name Married name. SS only recognizes the first three names so I have to file under my maiden name.

What do you mean? My SS card has all four names? or do you mean for benefits they do it differently?

frgsonmysox · #9 November 14th, 2011, 10:18 AM

No my SS card has all my names, but when we file taxes they only accept the first three, so my maiden name becomes my last name for tax purposes.

Sam914 · #10 November 14th, 2011, 10:25 AM

Strange!

I think i just figured out why i'm confused, when we file they ask my middle initial and i usually just say "G" because both my middle names start with G. Thats probably why i didnt realize that...

Katie81 · #11 November 14th, 2011, 02:27 PM

I kept my maiden name for 4 years after we were married. I didn't change it until after Lily was born and I wanted us all to have the same last name. I dropped my maiden name completely then .

CanadianLou · #12 November 14th, 2011, 03:19 PM

I got married back in 2009, I still haven't changed my last name. On FB I put both there, but I think I will just drop my maiden name and use Dh's so we can all have the same last name. I was really sensitive about losing my maiden name, but no one pronounces it right anyway and I do like Dh's last name.

LisaBrown · #13 November 14th, 2011, 04:35 PM

I don't know if it's just where I'm from, but I've never know anyone who's kept their maiden name as a middle name. We can have more than one last name, legally, and many people hyphenate both last name (or more!)...but I just dropped mine and took DH's.

Shantastic27 · #14 November 14th, 2011, 04:35 PM

I dropped my maiden name---it's really hard to spell and pronounce. I took dh's mainly because when we had kids I wanted us all to have the same name. If we weren't planning on kids, I probably would have kept my maiden name.

Sam914 · #15 November 14th, 2011, 07:08 PM

Yeah, i always wanted dh's name.... that was never a question for me but i also liked both my names

Now i get everyone!

Kittynoah · #16 November 15th, 2011, 06:36 AM

I dropped my maiden name and took DH's. It kinda sucks because now my last name is hard to pronounce and spell correctly.

Max n Meghan's Mom · #17 November 15th, 2011, 08:06 AM

I dropped it. My maiden name was a very long, Italian name that no one could pronounce. Now everyone just asks if I'm related to Britney? lol

MrsTiffy · #18 November 15th, 2011, 08:33 AM

I hated my maiden name. It was Spears. Everyone always asked if I was related to Britney, or they would call me Britney. I took my dh's name, and I really like it.

Sam914 · #19 November 15th, 2011, 09:01 AM

I just want to make sure i'm clear - i'm not talking about what your last name is.... i'm talking about what you did with your maiden name

Max n Meghan's Mom · #20 November 15th, 2011, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsTiffy

I hated my maiden name. It was Spears. Everyone always asked if I was related to Britney, or they would call me Britney. I took my dh's name, and I really like it.

Ha! You know my pain. But believe me, Spears is much better than my maiden. At least people can say and spell it. Honestly, no one ever asks about Britney anymore.