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March 8th, 2011, 05:07 AM
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What about being a first time mom are you most nervous about? Labor/delivery? Life with a newborn?
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March 8th, 2011, 03:43 PM
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Maddie is 2 1/2 weeks old and I am nervous that we will never adjust to our new life. It's been very trying so far and I hope what everyone says is true and it will get better.
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March 9th, 2011, 04:57 AM
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That's a VERY common concern. And I know it seems like a long time away, but in 2 years from now you won't know how you ever didn't have her there!
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March 9th, 2011, 09:17 AM
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Yes! You'll get more sleep and see some smiles! I think we were getting a smile now and then at about 1 month?
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March 9th, 2011, 04:42 PM
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I think a lot of mom's have that concern. I had it, but I've just learned that my life will never go back to before Phoenix, and I love that!

I still don't get to sleep all night, as he wakes up and crawls in bed with me. HAHA

My concern now though, is whether we're doing the right things to teach him respect and kindness.
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March 16th, 2011, 01:18 AM
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im only 3 months into my pregnancy but i think right now im scared about the labor and delivery part. just making sure everything goes safely and me and baby come home ok.
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March 16th, 2011, 05:58 AM
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Money.

I'm not really nervous about labor anymore. I know its going to hurt but I'm ready.
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March 16th, 2011, 07:15 AM
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Everything..

I'm just nervous because we don't have any friends and family around here.. it's just my husband and me..
Im scared that I dont know what to do. Im reading What to expect when you're expecting.. but how do I know how often to feed him/her? What if I don't know what to do? Is it just going to be mother's instinct that I'm going to get?
What about when (s)he gets a little older.. nap times, should I set certain sleeping times?
Im anxious about everything.. I have never even held a new born baby, the first one is going to be my own. How terrible is that? I am determined to be a good mom and never give up.. and just keep trying but still.. I just want to know everything will be okay.
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March 20th, 2011, 12:40 PM
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I am nervous about a few things (they may be silly) like the epidural :/ losing the baby weight after, eating right during, having enough money to give my baby everything it will deserve! My best friend just had a baby 8 months ago, and I have been there since day one so the routine things I'm not too concerned about.
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March 20th, 2011, 07:48 PM
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Right now I'm most nervous about sleep training. I think I will start this with Max in a few weeks.

In the long run I'm nervous about our ability to balance work and family, not letting stress and demands of one affect the other too much.
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March 22nd, 2011, 12:34 PM
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I was nervous about the L&D part. but honestly i had a very easy delivery and I had no idea why I was so worried about it... I was only in labor less then 24 hours and i had no pain at all.. watch, my next one will be a doosey LOL
you will adjust to th enew life i promise, I didn't think we would either, I was so exhausted the first 3 months i felt like I never got sleep and it was tough becuase i was BF which was hard and i hardly produced anything so it felt asthough I had Ava attached 24/7. i did everything i could to produce my milk but i dried up when Ava was 7 weeks old.. and i shouldn't say it was an easy birth becuase I couldn't push Ava out, ended up with a epsi and still got a 3rd degree tear and she was a little peanut when she was born... it was worth it though!
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March 22nd, 2011, 01:15 PM
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I'm nervous about a lot of stuff. My mom said she was in labor with me for 39 hours. *gulp* OMG.

I'm nervous about money. We pay our bills and have extra each month, but daycare is going to cost about $450 a month then all of the other baby expenses. I am worried about other "new mommy" stuff like....no sleep, losing baby weight, etc.

I've also said to DH, "What If I don't know what to do with a newborn?"
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March 24th, 2011, 12:25 PM
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you will know what to do with a newborn! it comes naturally! as far as the babywieght. I only gained 9 pounds the whole pregnancy and I lost that plus 20 pounds within 8 weeks of giving birth, if you breast feed it's said to cause you to loose the weight faster becuase everytime the baby sucks it contracts your stomach muscles Good luck!
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March 24th, 2011, 06:55 PM
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All these concerns are totally normal!!!!

Feeding, the baby will tell you when they're hungry. They are born with an instinctive need to feed. There are cues too though, like sucking on hand, when baby gets near boob, etc. they will try to suck.

Money, HA! I don't think we ever have "enough" money for kids! LOL.

I am so thankful for JM, b/c the community here is great for asking questions, etc and getting a variety of answers!
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March 25th, 2011, 05:13 AM
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Newborns can be scary... they are so tiny and entirely dependent on you. There are as many ways to parent as there are parents, it seems. Some people do set certain nap times, personally I let Dalton fall asleep when he did and it was generally the same time every day unless we had been out to the library or something. Babies will teach you much more than you teach them in the beginning!

We are just getting through potty training and are now getting him ready for the new baby. He's excited now that he has been to a couple of our midwife appointments and our midwife had him help find the heartbeat. One thing that drives me nuts - he picks up habits from the other kids at his sitter's house. For example, his current sitter has a 5 yo girl who screams really high pitched when she's mad, so Dalton has tried that a few times. She also sucks her thumb, but he's never figured out how that works so we are safe on that. At another sitter, their little boy would hit their dog. I was so mad about that one.

I think one important thing to remember as a new mom is that there isn't really a wrong way to do it. We are all new moms at one time or another, and we all do things differently. A lot of times moms can get caught up in the "mommy wars" and tear each other down for doing things differently - that just makes us lose support of our sisters, kwim?
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March 26th, 2011, 09:12 AM
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I love this topic! I've also had the fear of how to take care of a newborn. I have no experience with babies, and I've cried over the thought of being left alone with my baby when DH goes back to work, and wondering if I would know what to do. I feel okay about it now though, but I'm sure that one will crop up again once I get closer to her actually being here.

At the moment, my biggest fear is how much mine and DH's life will change once there's a baby in the picture. I love how things are now, and it will never ever be the same. I know it's going to be hard in the beginning while we're adjusting to our new life as parents but I know that we're solid enough to handle it and keep our relationship strong. We're closer now, more in love now than ever before and I can already tell that our family is going to be wonderful But it's still scary knowing how many couples end up falling apart and losing themselves and their relationship together once their focus is on parenthood.

On a less personal note, I'm also terrified of clipping baby nails I don't even like trimming my cats' claws or clipping my own nails.
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March 29th, 2011, 07:13 AM
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I'm so glad that this topic exists! And even more, this whole message board! Y'all make me feel so much better about everything, and it's so nice to know that there are answers to whatever questions that I may have.

THAT helps me be not so nervous.. I know that when the baby comes, everything is going to be okay. This is God's plan, and I have faith that it will all work out. I'm just going to love that baby soooo much, protect him/her and be a good mother.

And clipping the baby's nails?? Thanks Mana.. new worry! Haha.. Im kidding
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March 29th, 2011, 09:28 AM
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Awe honey, I am so glad this board is helping you!!!!!

I never clipped Phoenix's nails as a baby. I always only filed them. That way I didn't have to worry about hurting him.
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May 5th, 2011, 09:26 PM
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I'm the most nervous about being in charge of another person's life permanently. That's so scary to me that if something goes wrong, it's totally on me.
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June 1st, 2011, 01:38 PM
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everything I'm a young single mom no support pretty much doing everything on my own it's going to be a long hard road ahead oh well. I know I can get through it but yes a lot of things about having this baby can be hard to deal with.
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