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I'm on my 18th week, and have been fairly disciplined about my diet all through. Last evening I went to my in-laws place for dinner and was offered a drink, which I refused, to which I was given a very long lecture on how it's okay to drink through the pregnancy and that it's counterproductive to not listen to your body, if you're craving for a drink.
Actually I'm not craving, but theoretically, if I were, would it be okay to drink???
I've heard it's risky and best avoided but is that just me being paranoid? A lot of people in the older generation (in their 50s, 60s) seem to advocate drinking (not binge drinking). And i'm afraid they take offense too - as if it's in some way proving that they were wrong to drink through their pregnancies....
How does one handle this? And more importantly, whats the truth about alcohol during pregnancy?
If I remember correctly, the American Pediatric Association guidance is NO alcohol during pregnancy. But I've also read studies saying that this guidance is very conservative, and a little alcohol is ok (but please find the info and judge for yourself - I don't remember exactly what was said or what timeframes in the pregnancy they were talking about!)
I think you could say you're following what doctors are saying today, and you realize advice changes over time and may change again. (For example, my parents and MIL just shake their heads about not letting my son sleep on his tummy... but they understand that if the doctors advise against it, I'm going to listen.) If it helps smooth things over, you might say that alcohol just doesn't even sound good now that you're pregnant (unfortunately I felt that way about vegetables - LOL).
Good luck! This won't be the last time you get advice on caring for your LO, so be ready to stay informed and keep doing what you believe in.
In my 3rd trimester my doctor told me the occassional glass of wine was safe and would help me sleep. I never felt comfortable doing that and never tried it. I think it is between you and your doctor and your personal comfort level.
Thanks yes, I think I'd rather listen to my doc and not take risks just because other people did things that didn't harm their babies...
Thank you for clarifying - I really thought I was being too paranoid and they almost had me convinced that that was bad for the baby!!
I think a lot of people put pressure on like that because that's what they did. Maybe they just want you to feel comfortable, but if they are offering you a drink and you say no, it's rude to push it on you. It's not like you asked for the drink, kwim?
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They actually think that cravings don't have much to do with the specific thing you're craving, but what you might get out of it. Like a craving for meat may mean you actually need iron or protein, and not meat specifically. So I don't think that you need to give in to any craving or that it will be detrimental to you or the baby in any way. I still haven't eaten the Red Lobster biscuits I've been wanting since November, and me and the baby are perfectly fine
There are conflicting opinions about what is good and bad during pregnancy. I know in some places in the world, pregnant women still drink wine, even though it's recommended here to avoid all alcohol. But even with that recommendation, some doctors will still okay a little bit here and there, especially after the first trimester.
Really, I think it's up to you to decide what you are comfortable with. I don't honestly believe that an occasional sip of wine will cause any harm, but at the same time, I have not had a drop and will not while I'm still pregnant. It took me until my second trimester to be comfortable with caffeine, and that's been okayed by pretty much everyone in moderate amounts and people thought I was being overly cautious by avoiding it. But I still feel like it was right for me, so I didn't care what anyone else thought about it
I also definitely don't think that anyone should be putting any kind of pressure on you to consume anything you're not sure about! If they give you crap about it, you can always lie and tell them it makes you nauseous
Thanks Mana! that's an interesting perspective regarding the cravings not necessarily being about the thing you crave - and I completely agree... i actually have had no cravings at all, though sometimes a whiff of something may temporarily attract my attention.
And since my 2nd trimester started I've started allowing myself a coffee or a diet coke every now and then, never more than 1 a day though.
I suspect it's more of an ego issue with some people because it makes them look "wrong" for having done something that I cant even begin to understand the logic on. I mean, even back then most people knew alcohol is bad for the baby....
I read somewhere that if you have one cocktail and it gets you high, imagine how that little one inside would handle it? scary... the baby would simply pass out... who wants to take that risk????
I had a small Mimosa on Mother's Day last year when DH took me out. Our midwives assured us it was completely fine. I was also like 32+ weeks, I am not sure I would have done it if I was only a few weeks.
As someone who works with special needs kids, I say no nothing! No alcohol, no meds if you can help it (and I know there are instances when you need to take some tylenol or a blood pressure pill), no smoking, no drugs, etc. To me, alcohol is just as bad as heroine when pregnant. I know there are "studies" out there that suggest it might be okay to have a little but I would never do it.
You do what you are comfortable with. Most studies say no alcohol during pregnancy. While you will get an occaisional doctor to say that a 1/2 a glass of red wine would be ok on occasion.
I never drank during my pregnancy, although I did want to. I was just not comfortable with the fact that I could cause her harm. If you aren't confident that it is safe, stay away from it and ignore what other say.
It definitely won't be the first or last time someone butts their nose in.
Amelia: Wife to Ryan, Mama to Harleigh, with a boy on the way
Personally I am of the no alcohol opinion... I think if there's anything that has a CHANCE of harming my child I wouldn't risk it... imho it sounds like you don't really want to drink.... yo7 mostly dont want to offend the people around you.... this is my advice on that & what i will gladly say to anyone's face who gives me advice I don't want- this is YOUR baby not theirs.... you are this child's home & will treat your body & your baby the way you feel it should be treated. We're all mama-bears... don't be afraid attack if you need to.