Grads a gentle request

Servilia · #1 May 11th, 2011, 09:11 PM

Hi ladies,
We're very happy for all our grads. But many of us have been TTC for sooooo long. It would be nice if you would consider turning off your siggys with pregnancy tickers when posting on the main board and especially on threads where people might need extra support and sensitivity.
It's not a rule just a gentle request.
Thanks

Cait&AngelAbove · #2 May 12th, 2011, 04:13 AM

I agree with you Judy! I think the main time it is hard to see them is when we post about feeling down or that AF is coming or about a loss. On days I am feeling good I stalk the grads!

JewJewB · #3 May 12th, 2011, 11:37 AM

I'm trying really hard not to let it, but this thread really hurts my feelings. I seem to remember both of you being pregnant and not hiding your tickers when you posted on here. It's not like I'm some girl who came on here and got pregnant on my 1st or 2nd cycle. I tried for over a year AND had a loss. Even all of those months that I was unsuccessfully trying, there were still people who I couldn't be more excited for when I heard they were pregnant. You girls were included in that. Don't worry. It won't happen again.

Servilia · #4 May 12th, 2011, 12:02 PM

Julie,
You DON'T have to hide it if you don't want to - it's up to you entirely. This is not a rule. This wasn't meant to hurt anyone's feelings. Please consider that it also hurts some other members' feelings (me too but I'm not the only one) to have to see others' pregnancy tickers on their bad days. Such as when they've had a loss or have had another unsuccessful cycle (and are specifically writing about it in a thread). I don't see the need to bring personal accusations into this, but since you brought it up I can't recall whether I hid my signature or not when I was pregnant (and don't know how you would remember either, plus it would have been a maximum of a week) but I can assure you I would not have included it on any threads that others have started to share their pain of a loss or another bad cycle. We ARE excited to find out when another member is pregnant, no one said we aren't.
I'm sorry if it hurt your feelings but other members have feelings too and in weighing things out it seems that there are more TTC girls than pregnant girls, AND this is a TTC board. And it seems that it would be more difficult for TTC girls to see the tickers than for pregnant girls to hide their tickers?

Like I said, it's not a rule so feel free to leave it on or not, it's still up to you.

Cait&AngelAbove · #5 May 12th, 2011, 12:08 PM

Julie, it was not our intention to hurt your feelings. I am sorry that you took it that way. And I am almost positive that I hid my siggy during the short time I was pregnant. It is hard when you are having a bad day to see someone else's siggy saying they are pregnant. I am happy for you I really am and when I am having a good day then I stalk you some on the other boards. Like Judy said hiding your siggy is just a suggestion. A lot of the other boards have this as well.