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I'm so sick of people asking us if we are going to have more kids! I don't know why people feel they need to know! I get even more mad when we are asked "are you going to try again for a girl?" UGH! The worst part is, it always makes for an awkward moment between me and dh. He is happy with the 2 boys, and I definitely want at least 1 more. He obviously knows I want more, and is obviously open to it since we don't use bc, but we really don't openly discuss it-yet anyway. I don't like to bring it up because I sometimes worry that the more the idea comes up, the more he may think twice about wanting to prevent. So, I get even more mad when it's someone else who has absolutely NOTHING to do with it brings it up!
Oh I completely understand how you feel. I love my two boys, but I'm constantly getting the question, "are you going to try for a girl?". Is my family not perfect enough. . . I mean I seriously do want a girl, but I absolutely hate the questions. The last time someone asked me it was exactly one month since my m/c and I hardly knew the person asking me. I wanted to tell her to f*** off, but it was a military function and it probably would not have been good if an officer's wife was cussing. I don't think people realize how personal that question is.
I get the are you going to try for a girl and I find it very annoying. As if we were never trying for a girl. I think the only way I'd get a girl is to adopt one or do ivf with gender preference. But I'm happy with my boys and am the only one of my mom's kids to not have a girl.
Simone SAHM to 5 boys Trenton 19, Tyler 16, twins Peyton and Eli 7, & Lennox 3
People started asking me this question again like literally the day I gave birth. Ugh. Yea I totally want more, but not really trying for a girl (I'd actually love another boy), and it's annoying, and we are trying but we don't tell everyone that we are. Grr. I'm frustrated that it is taking this long already, and people asking kinda only rubs it in. It was like this before too, before we even had our first...for years people would ask me, and it made me really sad b/c I wanted a baby so bad but it didn't happen.
We got the questions too before we had Tyson. We went through 3 years of trying and 3 losses, so there were MANY times we were asked when we were going to have a baby that I wanted to SCREAM at the person asking! We got asked right after having both Tyson and Paxton. We went to dh's cousin's wedding when Paxton was about 8 weeks old. The bride asked us when we were going to have another. I replied with "When are YOU going to have one???"
j&jmom-You're right, I don't think people realize how personal the question really is.
I get this all the time! Everyone just assumes b/c I have two wonderful boys that I automatically want to try to have a girl. Girls scare me I am the youngest of 4 girls so I would be perfectly happy with all boys!
My DH wants to try for a girl but I would honestly be happy with my two boys but I refuse to go back on birth control and DH doesn't want to use condoms so it could happen.
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