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Hello to those that remember me and to those that have never seen my username before. My name is Arwen, and we have two girls. My first was born 1/9/08, and the second 2/14/12. My first, Alice Marie, has higher functioning autism, and she's now going through her 2 yr old stages. Winter Rose, our baby, is typically developing. I can tell now that autism doesn't kick in around a year or two. Alice was autistic from birth. And autistic babies are the most perfect babies ever. That's how I know Winter is normal. She is so needy, and she's such a DIVA. But that's a good thing.
I had become a NTNP grad in Nov 2010, conceived twins(last I checked they removed my thread about it for me). Lost them in January, and went to TTC at that point. When it was "safe" to try again, I got pregnant with a baby due Christmas Day, conceived her on our anniversary. Always wanted a Christmas baby. Lost that one, too, and got pregnant again about a month after that.
I have horrible pregnancies so Winter Rose was going to be my last. I am against hormonal birth control and I don't want my tubes tied because of complications that might happen. DH chickened out of the vasectomy, and neither of us like condoms so here I am in NTNP. I always wanted 3 children so looks like I might have a chance to get my third. And then DH will definitely get fixed because he only wanted 2. ha ha!
Anyway, I'm not going to be charting or anything(I do happen to be 5 DPO now, but I only know that because I was trying to avoid, thought it might be AF signs...I digress). Just going to go with it.
Nice to 'meet' ya! I have been away for a little while (a week or two) but am just back to getting up to date! I admire your 'just go with it' attitude as ntnp has been hard on me lately! But I am new to it!
I am curious because I haven't done any real research, but does having one child with autism increase any chances of following children having it? My assumption would be that it does not, as they can't clearly say what causes it in the first place but I'd love to hear what you know about the subject!
Well, autism for us is very much genetic. I have tendencies, my brother has higher functioning autism(26 years ago they called it ADHD), my father is higher functioning, several cousins are higher functioning or have tendencies, and my grandfather was autistic something from how people describe him. I believe most cases are inherited, and it has nothing to do with shots.
Having more than one child with autism is actually kind of rare. You might hear about the occasional mom with 6 kids and all are autistic, but for the most part it's 6 kids with only 1 having autism. My parents ended up having 2, however I seemed pretty normal if not socially awkward growing up. My brother was a lot like my daughter. He talked, though, and she has delayed speech. I think a repeat case is somewhere around 5-10%? That leaves a 90+% that I wouldn't. Worth the risk. If I had one like my brother or me, that would be fine. I'd prefer not to have another like DD1, though. I love her to death, but sometimes she is really autistic. lol
Thanks for the info! I'm not anti vaccine by any means, and I actually believe that everyone is on the Autism spectrum somewhere, but it is not something specifically I know a lot about. Glad to see there is an attempt to keep this board more active!
Thank you! Reproduction, like life, is never perfect. I don't mind waiting for a third for a bit, but I hope you get a BFP very soon! I know you aren't TTC, but are you still going to chart to learn your cycle?
I stopped temping because it was stressful. I did well just charting CM. That's when I got regular. When I was full on charting, I was so anxious all the time that I would have crazy cycles. So that's probably a good move. =)