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Hi ladies! I'm new to this, and not technically NTNP. But I have had baby fever like WOAH for months. I'm 28, husband is 30, and we've been married for 2 months, together for 5 years.
In the winter, we agreed that we both had goals and things that we wanted to accomplish before we'd start TTC. But I can't stop thinking about how much I do want to have a baby now. Luckily, I'm on Mirena so it's not like I can just stop BC on my own.
But I need someone to talk some sense into me, mostly so I can stop obsessing.
My best advice is to talk to your DH about how you're feeling. Walk through all of your reasons for you both to wait and see if those are still concrete reasons that are worth waiting for you both or if you are able to side step those a bit and want to speed up your time line.
DH and I had agreed to wait 2-4 years before TTC after we got married. 6 months later we both had the baby fever so we changed our plan and immediately got pregnant with DS. Then our plan was always to wait 3 years between children. Now DS is just under 2 years old and we have decided to NTNP. I've got baby fever pretty bad too now. All that to say....plans change. Don't ignore your heart and start some open dialog with him.
Thanks so much for your thoughts. You have a gorgeous family by the way!
I never expected to want to have a baby this fast. What's also nagging at me is a strong hunch that I will have difficulty getting pregnant. 2 years ago, I had a ruptured appendix that went undetected (idiot doctors) and there was concern that one of my fallopian tubes may have been damaged. The doctor said everything looked ok post-surgery, but I still get worried.
Hi! I agree, talk to your DH...lay out the pros and cons of WTTC vs. NTNP or TTC now. See if your initial reasons for waiting are still valid and/or if it makes sense to modify them. As far as the ease or difficulty of conception, maybe you can begin to discuss with your gyn?
I'm 37 and I can tell ya that the years go by QUICKLY! Currently, I'm back and forth between wanting and not wanting another...although I'm a NTNPer. If it happens, I'll be happy and love my gift. As far as TTC, I haven't gotten there yet...although I'd better make a decision soon.