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September 3rd, 2012, 07:07 AM
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I'll be 39 this month. I have 3 kids, ages 9, 7 this month, and 5. My youngest starts kindergarten tomorrow and so yes, I'm feeling that baby fever. I really would love one more but every time I mention it to some friends/family members, I get the "you're getting too old to have a baby" comment...
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September 3rd, 2012, 07:13 AM
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Totally lurking, sorry

Tell them it is a personal decision, once you are PG and they get used to the idea it will be easier for them to accept (not that you should worry much what other ppl think).

If you are physically able and willing then I personally do not think you are too old!!
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September 3rd, 2012, 07:20 AM
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*waving* hi,

i'm 37 (so PUHLEEZE don't call yourself old...that's means i'll have to be "old" too ) with a 12th grader and a kindergartener!!! i don't really mention wanting another baby (well being on the fence, cause that's where i am in this whole thing) to my family...not that they'd be judgmental, but because it's not their business.

that said, my sister (who has no kids), a few cousins and aunts are the ones leaning on me to have another because none of them want any/anymore and feel we need more kids in the family!!!

additionally, i have several friends my age (and a few older) who are just having babies or entertaining the thought within the next 3-5 years. i should also mention that i was born when my father was 42...he's 79 now and I have brothers/sisters old enough to be my parent (my oldest sister is 22 years older than me, so yeah, she's 59!).

if you want another, go for it! i don't see a problem.
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September 3rd, 2012, 07:26 AM
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Totally lurking, sorry

Tell them it is a personal decision, once you are PG and they get used to the idea it will be easier for them to accept (not that you should worry much what other ppl think).

If you are physically able and willing then I personally do not think you are too old!!
hello and thanks for the reply! I know I shouldn't care what people think, I just hate the whole idea that if one thing goes wrong, I'll hear "I told you so" UGH

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*waving* hi,

i'm 37 (so PUHLEEZE don't call yourself old...that's means i'll have to be "old" too ) with a 12th grader and a kindergartener!!! i don't really mention wanting another baby (well being on the fence, cause that's where i am in this whole thing) to my family...not that they'd be judgmental, but because it's not their business.

that said, my sister (who has no kids), a few cousins and aunts are the ones leaning on me to have another because none of them want any/anymore and feel we need more kids in the family!!!

additionally, i have several friends my age (and a few older) who are just having babies or entertaining the thought within the next 3-5 years. i should also mention that i was born when my father was 42...he's 79 now and I have brothers/sisters old enough to be my parent (my oldest sister is 22 years older than me, so yeah, she's 59!).

if you want another, go for it! i don't see a problem.
Hello there

I feel great and am definitely able to care for another little...I am just so afraid of complications too.

A 12th grader and a kindergartener? I bet that is fun though
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September 3rd, 2012, 08:10 AM
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A 12th grader and a kindergartener? I bet that is fun though
it's a lot of fun...worked out better than i ever could have expected.

buuuuut, there are those days where i realize that i could have been almost done and ready to live a carefree life where it would all be about me.
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September 3rd, 2012, 08:32 AM
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it's a lot of fun...worked out better than i ever could have expected.

buuuuut, there are those days where i realize that i could have been almost done and ready to live a carefree life where it would all be about me.
I still need my mom! hehehe
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September 3rd, 2012, 11:07 AM
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I have a friend that had her second child when the first was 16! lol 39 is definitely not too old. Sarah was in her 90's. Who are people to say when you can or can't have children?

I want a 3rd, and I'm not telling certain people because I will get comments. I'll just let them get used to it when the time comes.
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September 3rd, 2012, 02:59 PM
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Who cares what ppl think, as long as u take care of ur baby and able to provide for them no one should talk. I think ur beautiful for 39!
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September 3rd, 2012, 04:27 PM
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you're not to old hun <3
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November 18th, 2012, 02:49 PM
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Hi everyone!

Thanks for all the kind replies Sorry I've been MIA, life got in the way, lol. Yanno, hurricane Sandy, work, kids, etc...We're still debating - but the desire to have another baby has not lessened.
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Come over and lurk/hang out on Older members trying to concieve. Maybe it will help you make a decesion, and make some new friends in the same boat.
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November 18th, 2012, 11:08 PM
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As long as you can support their needs, being pregnant that age is not a big deal! Stay happy!
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November 20th, 2012, 07:13 PM
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Another lurker sneaking out here....

I don't think you're too old. If you are in good health and didn't have previous complications, you'd probably be fine. I was 37 last year when I had my son (3rd baby). It was my easiest delivery and easiest post partum period. I had my first at 26, my second at 35 and last at 37. I do think pregnancy can be harder when you're older but sometimes maturity- wise, financially and relationship-wise it can be easier. 30s was definitely great timing for me. My girlfriend had a baby at 38 and one at 40 and she did great and looks great now!

After my son was born last year my dh and I decided to do vasectomy but there is this teeny-tiny part of me that would still like another I think part of it is the transition of knowing that this part of my life is over (pregnancy part). SIGH! So although I sometimes dream about a surprise post vas. baby....I don't know that I really want another child. Does that sound contradictory or what?! Well, now I've hijacked your thread......

But no, you're not too old!!!
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