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December 26th, 2012, 11:58 AM
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So my husband and I talked about TTC and I removed my birth control. But after just a month of timing and planning things out my husband said he just wanted to NTNP. I must say I was a little bummed out by this.

I mean, it's not like it couldn't happen, but just makes me worry that maybe he's not ready?? He reassures me that he is.

Am I just over thinking this?? Is my baby fever getting too carried away??

Help!
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December 26th, 2012, 12:06 PM
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My husband is about as ready pre kids as he's ever going to be and is still very apprehensive about everything. That's why NTNP works for him. I think it is harder for a lot of guys. Heck, I think it's hard for us girls too, it is a huge change in life! Doesn't mean that he won't be overjoyed when it happens or a bit bummed if you don't get pregnant right away. Besides, just because he is NTNP doesn't mean you can't still TTC
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December 28th, 2012, 04:06 PM
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That's true, women and most often ready than men are!!!!
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December 29th, 2012, 05:07 PM
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My husband is about as ready pre kids as he's ever going to be and is still very apprehensive about everything. That's why NTNP works for him. I think it is harder for a lot of guys. Heck, I think it's hard for us girls too, it is a huge change in life! Doesn't mean that he won't be overjoyed when it happens or a bit bummed if you don't get pregnant right away. Besides, just because he is NTNP doesn't mean you can't still TTC
This is so true! Just the other day my fiance told me "You may not be trying, but I am." I'm pretty sure that goes both ways.
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December 29th, 2012, 05:13 PM
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Haha it totally does. I am TTC, hubby is NTNP
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December 31st, 2012, 02:36 PM
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DH and I were originally going to NTNP, but after not even a month of that, I found myself charting, etc. After my second cycle, I wanted to go back to NTNP and DH was more than happy with that (I think he was done with my moodswings and constant talking about nothing else). Again though, we decided if we're going to do it, we should really try. I think TTC can be such a roller coaster. DH and I both have days where we want to back off and the next day, go full steam ahead. I know I overwhelmed DH the first two months with all sorts of information. We talked because I thought he wasn't interested, but he told me he just felt helpless because it was all stuff that I had to do. I asked him to just be supportive, ask about how things are on my end, etc. Even though stuff like temping is completely on me, him even just asking if my temps have changed helps both of us - I think he cares and he feels involved. Talk about what changed to him. DH started out relaxed, but I can tell he's getting more anxious.

Good luck!
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January 1st, 2013, 06:17 PM
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DH and I were originally going to NTNP, but after not even a month of that, I found myself charting, etc. After my second cycle, I wanted to go back to NTNP and DH was more than happy with that (I think he was done with my moodswings and constant talking about nothing else). Again though, we decided if we're going to do it, we should really try. I think TTC can be such a roller coaster. DH and I both have days where we want to back off and the next day, go full steam ahead. I know I overwhelmed DH the first two months with all sorts of information. We talked because I thought he wasn't interested, but he told me he just felt helpless because it was all stuff that I had to do. I asked him to just be supportive, ask about how things are on my end, etc. Even though stuff like temping is completely on me, him even just asking if my temps have changed helps both of us - I think he cares and he feels involved. Talk about what changed to him. DH started out relaxed, but I can tell he's getting more anxious.

Good luck!
Thank you for the great Advice!! This should really help us relax as well!!!!
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January 1st, 2013, 07:16 PM
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Well, you could TTC while DH is NTNP!
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