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December 17th, 2008, 09:14 PM
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I had a neighbor a bit ago comment on how well my daughter listens (i.e.- responds to my direction well and promptly etc)~ I said smiling that yes, she listens very well.
"oh you are SO lucky!" she responded.


....I'm...I'm what? LUCKY!?

The same type of thing has happened before- people saying how "lucky" DH and I are that our toddler has good manners.

Do people think toddlers just teach themselves good manners or something? Lol.
I mean, I know all children are born with different temperaments, sure! No refuting that!
But DH and I spend a lot of effort and time in seeing to it our little girl is learning how to have a good attitude,respond well,is polite etc...
I mean, as a SAHM it is my full time job raising her-including raising her to be well behaved!
but I guess "LUCK" gets all the credit!

Anyway, does this happen to anyone else? I know it can apply to any age group with children. I just bring it up here because I only have a toddler yet.

In the end I always end up with a polite smile and a 'yes, we sure are lucky!' for a response.

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December 18th, 2008, 05:16 AM
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Yeah got to love it. It is all on how they are raised and taught to do things
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December 18th, 2008, 05:55 AM
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People say that to us, too. It's annoying
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December 18th, 2008, 07:25 AM
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I guess people expect toddlers to be loud and obnoxious and running around not listening I guess.But like you said, it goes with what they're being taught
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December 18th, 2008, 08:21 AM
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I get the same comments about my boys (7 and almost 2). I always politely say, "I've taught them to be well-mannered and respectful." and leave it at that. It is interesting how people blame parents when kids are bad, but think they are just "lucky" if their kids are good.
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December 18th, 2008, 08:32 AM
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I get the same comments about my boys (7 and almost 2). I always politely say, "I've taught them to be well-mannered and respectful." and leave it at that. It is interesting how people blame parents when kids are bad, but think they are just "lucky" if their kids are good. [/b]

Right?
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December 18th, 2008, 03:19 PM
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I get that too. Mainly from my mother. She always wanted to me have a child that was a little devil (no idea why) and refuses to believe that its my parenting skills at work. I think its coz she doesn't want to admit I'm a better parent than she could ever be.
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December 18th, 2008, 07:38 PM
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I've heard it a few times... Of course I just joke that they don't see them in their true form. They are well behaved out in public.
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December 21st, 2008, 02:51 PM
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That's nice she notices the manners but it's not because of luck
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December 22nd, 2008, 07:07 AM
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DD has great manners also, but it's mostly because we (DH, me and SD) all use them with each other. I've never had to ask her/remind her to say please or thank you, she just picked it up naturally from hearing us all the time. I think, more than teaching them manners, showing them manners is the most effective way to do it.
And it sounds like you're doing a great job! Good for you...it doesn't mean you're "lucky", it means that you're obviously using good manners regularly yourself and your little sweetie's picked up on it!
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December 22nd, 2008, 08:45 AM
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DD has great manners also, but it's mostly because we (DH, me and SD) all use them with each other. I've never had to ask her/remind her to say please or thank you, she just picked it up naturally from hearing us all the time. I think, more than teaching them manners, showing them manners is the most effective way to do it.
And it sounds like you're doing a great job! Good for you...it doesn't mean you're "lucky", it means that you're obviously using good manners regularly yourself and your little sweetie's picked up on it![/b]
ive noticed that too- i think youd have a very hard time teaching your toddler good manners if you didnt use them yourself.
even a child that small can pick up on the hypocrisy of something like that.
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December 26th, 2008, 11:26 AM
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I've been told I'm "lucky" that my kids are so "mature"...ie. they don't whine, they have respect for others, and they do what they're told. Although I appreciate the compliment, luck has nothing to do with it.
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December 28th, 2008, 12:24 PM
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It happens to us as well. We make David say please and thank you for everything. I totally agree that its something that is taught not something they are just born with.
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