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December 29th, 2008, 05:56 AM
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hello everyone!!! i am new here and so glad i found this site.....i really need some advice and im not sure if this is the right section but its worth a shot!

i have a 2 year old son, and i feel like i should try for another baby....but i had a tough pregnancy the first time around (sick for 9 months)...and the thought of being preg and having a toddler is driving me insane, and it hasnt even happened yet!! my son will start school hopefully in sept, which if i got preg would put me delivering around the same time......

does anyone have any suggestions for me?? should i wait and put him in school and then try to conceive...or put him in day care and start now?? i am soooo confused and would really love to hear from other moms who have gone thru similiar situations....


thanks so much...i love this site!!
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December 29th, 2008, 07:30 AM
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How long did it take you to get a BFP with your son?? If it took you awhile I would say put him in daycare and start now. Or you could wait a month or 2 so that you won't have a newborn when he is starting school.

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December 29th, 2008, 07:54 AM
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I'm not sure if i have any advice but just because you were sick with your first doesn't necessarily mean you're going to be sick this time around
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December 30th, 2008, 05:53 AM
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Why do you feel like you should try to have another? What's wrong with just one? I'm just curious as to why you feel like you need to have another child. If the thought of you having another one right now is enough to make you nuts, I'd seriously suggest waiting. JMO, though.
I'd wait till you're ready. End of story. There's no rule that says you have to have another kid when your first turns three.
I personally think it's better to wait until the first is 5-6 before having a second. Kids of different ages need different types of attention. And a slightly older child will have more understanding of the change a new baby will bring (not that anyone actually is prepared for it when it happens) and can enjoy his/her role as big brother/sister naturally, without the pressure of having to "grow up" before they're ready.
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December 30th, 2008, 10:19 AM
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I re-read your post, and the part about him starting school around the same time you deliver jumped out at me. I wouldn't encourage so many changes in your little one's life at one time. Maybe wait an extra year so the baby's born after he's been in school for a while and is acclimated to the new routine and atmosphere at school?
Do what's best for your family, though. I'm sure you'll make the right decision.

I re-read your post, and the part about him starting school around the same time you deliver jumped out at me. I wouldn't encourage so many changes in your little one's life at one time. Maybe wait an extra year so the baby's born after he's been in school for a while and is acclimated to the new routine and atmosphere at school?
Do what's best for your family, though. I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
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December 31st, 2008, 03:41 PM
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The decision to have a second child is yours, and yours alone. You will get a lot of different opinions here, from a lot of different mothers, and none of them are wrong, and none are right. You should be discussing this with your HUSBAND first and foremost... Will he be able to help you through your pregnancy and the first few months of adjustments?

We decided to TTC our second child when our first was four months old. We got pregnant first shot.
Although I hated being pregnant - I hated the belly, the morning sickness, headaches, aches and pains and all else... We wanted a second child close in age, to hopefully become a close friend for our first son. Our second son was born five weeks premature after seven weeks of painful PTL; he was born four days before our first son's 1st birthday. Adjusting took some juggling, but I made it work, and I got down a good system. My kids have a grand old time together, and are just fine. As I had hoped, they are close, and love to play together. There's no rule written down anywhere that there is a "proper" time period to wait to have another child. Just do it when YOU and YOUR PARTNER are ready.

Good luck!
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