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My dd loves, loves, loves my mother. I am a stay at home mom and am very attentive to my dd's needs. We are with each other night and day. At around 6 months she went throughs stranger anxiety and wouldn't even look at anyone else.....including my parents. Since then, we have not seen a lick of it again. She is extremely social and outgoing. I know she loves me and we have a strong bond, but sometimes I get jealous of her love for my mom. (just being honest)...when grandma is here (who she sees at least twice a week)...she wants to sit on her lap, and have only her attention...etc. She never really rejects me...but just is all over grandma. The other day I was trying to do her hair and she got mad at me and ran to my mom. A few mintues later she was sitting on her lap, drinking a bottle and I took her from my mom...she quietly, just scooted back to my mom's lap. I felt so rejected. I know she loves me...but what if she loves my mom more? Is this possible?
My mother and I have always had a co-dependant rel. It was just her and I till I was 3. After that..I was attached to her hip; until later in life when I rebelled. I guess I think that my daughter will be attached to her the way I was instead of me. Is this normal? Shoul I be offended? I know she doesn't know any better.....but maybe that's just the point. All she knows is what she wants....and maybe that's not me when gma is around =0( I can't say that she ignores me or is really clinging to my mom...but there are times where she is.
How do I know that my dd will love me the way all children seem to naturally love their mothers/parents?
anyone ever experience this?
ps: sorry if I already posted this....I really felt a lot better reading the kind responses....just wanted to get a few more opinions ( lol...I guess I need a lot of reassuring..=0( )
I have kind of the same problem with Alyssa and her grandparents (my ex's parents), she cries for them when they arent here and cries when they have to leave. It's just a grandparent thing I think. You're the one who "disciplines" her, etc, is your mother more leniant then you are with the rules? I'm pretty sure that's our issue with Alyssa..
Oh hun, Of course she loves you I usually look at it as grandmas just have the magic touch, They sure do love to do the spoiling thts for sure Just like when my bestfriend is around my oldest whom is 3 throws terrible fits towards me, but if she goes somewhere with her alone she is an angel Sometimes I feel like old news to her :-/ So Im sure everyone goes through this stage...Eventually it will pass
I've never posted in here before... I lurk (in a totally non-creepy way, I swear)...
But I wanted to answer this, because I go through the EXACT same thing with my son. He ADORES my mom and wants absolutely nothing to do with me while she's around. It bothered me a lot for a long time and it was really hard to be around both of them at the same time.
But you know what? My kid LOVES me and your kid is nuts about you too. Grandma's just a new, fun face and it's great that she has such a good relationship with her. It must be boring for them to just be around their mom all the time, you know?
I left my little boy with my mom once for a whole weekend and when I came home, my mom said he asked for me the whole time... and that made it better. Don't think for a second that your daughter likes your mom better LOL. She just gets bored with you every now and then and loves grandma too! That's totally normal, darlin. I swear.