Forum: Children with Developmental Delays and Disorders
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Hi I am a member of a few of the other boards on JM. I mainly stick to myself, but I really need some advice and and guidance. I have a 7 yr old that was recently suspended for a sexual offense. He was playing with other kids and put his hands in a boy and girls shirt. He was suspended for 3 days. We work with a child counselor at the school. She stated that it was not meant in a sexual nature and that he didn't understand what he was doing due to his autism and adhd. It was an attempt to get attention from the other kids, even if it was negative attention. The counselor was at our emergency meeting and told the principal this. He still insists that it had sexual intent and refused to remove it from his record. The school denied his IEP before, but now the counseler/advocate is insisting he gets one because he is being reprimanded for things like meltdowns, eating chapstick in class, and swinging a hall pass. After our meeting with the resource teacher, counselor, and principal, the principal called us into his office and asked us not to bring our child for morning recess. He said that he had to protect the other students from my son. He also said that he would like him to volunteer 2 times a week during his lunch recess doing something else instead of interacting with the other kids. To me this sounds like he is discriminating against my son. Does anyone know who I can contact to get student rights? We have already gone to the head of the school district. He didn't even show up for the meeting. I am at a loss right now. Sorry this is long, but I wanted to give everyone some background. Any advice or guidance is much appreciated
I wish I could offer more help, but im in Australia so everything is different here law wise.
I would definitely look at changing his school though, he is being discriminated against by the sounds of things and speaking from experience there are better and more supportive schools out there. Sorry wish I could help you out more I hope things improve for you and even more for him.
The best advice I could give you is to look at Wrightslaw Special Education Law and Advocacy It has all of the special education laws. I would definately learn the laws so you can fight the good fight to get your son the services that he needs/deserves. Every child is entitled to a free appropriate education and from the sound of it, he isn't getting that.
And definately look into an advocate or lawyer. Most lawyers will give free phone consults so you can atleast ask them if there is something you can do about this situation. What the school is doing to your son just isn't right.
Maybe others will have more advice. And HUGS, sorry you are having to go through all of this.
I don't know, but I am so sorry! Good grief, he's 7! A similar thing happened to my friend IRL's son, he was 8 at the time, and hugged a girl, and was suspended - he does not have a Dx'ed ASD but he is delayed and has an IEP - the school definitely labeled him a problem child and treated him unfairly and she eventually pulled him from school. It sounds like the same thing is happening with your son, and it breaks my heart for him and you I hope you can get some help!
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