Forum: Children with Developmental Delays and Disorders
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My name is Becky and I am a proud very newly single Mom to my three beautiful children Noah is four and a half, Kinsley just turned three in July and my little Lucas will be two in November.
The reason I'm dropping in is since Noah turned three I have been worried about his emotional and maturity development. At three he would have sudden outbursts and was only interested in ONE thing.. his movies. It was the only thing he could pay attention to at all. Also if he were building a building with logs and it got knocked down he would immediately go into panic mode... he just couldn't rationalize to just pick them back up. He also could not draw a straight line or follow a simple command. He had become very anti-social and would cover his ears in loud noises or in groups of strange people. I blamed it on being a shy toddler. He also refused potty training.
NOW, we are at four and a half. He will be five in February. He still REFUSES potty training. His three year old sister has been potty trained for going on a month now. He acts as if he's terrified of it. The rationalization has gotten increasingly worse. It breaks my heart that I can't carry on a normal conversation with my four year old. He has a hard time putting complete sentences together and if you do manage to get him to talk to you in the middle of the conversation he will randomly burst into scripts from his favorite movies. He is not a social child at all and seems content to play alone except with his siblings. He still can not follow a simple command like draw a circle or straight line.
Now that being said Noah was right on track in everything developmentally. He sat up, crawled, walked, and talked right on track..actually early in sitting up and crawling. He was the happiest baby in the world. Right now at four he knows his alphabet, can count to thirty without any help, can count to ten in Spanish, knows all his shapes ( and I mean all of them! ), and can identify any color. Noah has been through a lot in his small life emotionally. Ups and downs, ins and outs and I'm struggling with the questions is there a problem or is there a problem I may have created?
I'm lost and right now searching for answers to questions on how to help my baby boy.
There are some awesome ladies here, though it's pretty quiet at present, it usually picks up again eventually. I need to PM the members to remind them to come by. I'm Sharron, 37, from Manchester UK, and mum to Daniel aged 6 who has autism spectrum disorder, and Michaela aged nearly 4 weeks.
I'm sorry you're going through such heartache over your son. Many traits of developmental delays start to become apparent at this age, and it's normal to question and second-guess and even blame yourself, though please know that if he does have some difficulties it is absolutely NOT something you have done that's caused them, this is more common than you think, and the best thing you can do is flag the issues (and continue to do so if they're not acted on right away, if you are persistent the professionals will give in eventually just to get you off their backs) with Noah's doctors, teachers etc. I would keep a log of everything you deem to be "not normal" for his age and keep discussing it with people and asking for help.
I can't possibly diagnose your son, some of his behaviours are concurrent with what my son exhibited at 2-4 years of age, such as the being slow to potty train, having irrational fears, having speech and language delay, being sensitive to noise and finding it hard to socialise. Seeking a diagnosis is scary, and there were many days when I would be able to do little else but cry and go into denial that there was anything wrong with my little boy, but once I had that diagnosis things changed so much for Daniel. He got more support at school, we got some financial support to enable me to work only part-time and devote more time to him, he's had 1:1 and group interventions with his speech and language and social skills. He is now coming on leaps and bounds because of the support he has and his future is looking much brighter - Noah sounds like he's a bright boy too, so a little support would probably go a long way for him, too. So don't be afraid to get it investigated, and remember, your mom's intuition will very rarely steer you wrong - trust it.
In the meantime, you can vent, talk and rant here - we've all been through it before you and can hopefully help with moral support xxx
Welcome! Sorry I can't offer any advice, but can commiserate in the potty training woes! Connor has a speech delay, as well as some gross motor skills delay. He just turned 2 in May, and while we haven't truly begun any kind of potty training, the few times we talk to him about it, he definitely has no clue! He won't regularly tell us when he has a dirty diaper (on rare occasion he does), and I don't even think he knows when he pees! It will definitely be a struggle in the future.
Ryan will be 5yo in 9 more days. He has mild/moderate Autism. He knows 1 - 30, can count backwards from 10, knows ABCs, he can spell, 1 - 10 in Spanish, all his shapes and colors. He attends a Pre-school Program for Children with Disabilities at one of our local schools. Have you brought up your concerns to the ped or asked your local school district about testing him?
Ryan just learned his name is April, but he can't tell you how old he is. He doesn't carry on a conversation and repeats from TV a lot.
Hi, my name is Vicki and your son sounds allot like my oldest son Caleb, he barely spoke but could count to 10 and name all his colors(expect black and white and he confuses those still) and often quoted stuff from tv at around that age, he seemed terrified of the toilet and of even the litttle potty chair, we honestly thought potty training would just never happen with him, but this april right before he turned 6 he just started going to the toilet on his own and is completely trained during the day now, I attribute much of it to him being medicated as i feel it helps him maintain focus better
i would definitely bring all your concerns to your pedi, like I said your son sounds allot like my son at that age, Caleb was around 3.5 when he got his diagnosis of moderate autism and he has came a long way since then, he can carry on a bit of conversation now which is huge and something i feared would never happen, the right treatment can really make a huge difference
Hi My name is Nicole, I have a bunch of older kids the oldest two were adopt4d from the fostercare system.
The kids I talk about on JM are in my siggy.
Beau was diagnosed as PDD-NOS at 23 months. For him taking him off of wheat and dairy has made a huge difference. He is in early intervention, with speech therapy. We are making the rounds with the different specialist to see what else might be going on. We just found out he has poor vision. Glasses coming soon!