Forum: Children with Developmental Delays and Disorders
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I have a friend who had a baby two months after me. My baby is 6 months old now and his is 4 mo. I only have one kid and I don't have much experience with babies prior to him. My son has always been advanced in most areas so I am not sure what is normal and what isn't. Adrian is already crawling and pulling up on stuff. He has always been very active and interested in everything. Well, My friends baby smiles and does some cooing, but I have NEVER seen her play with a toy of any kind. I have babysat her and tried and tried to get her to hold a toy rattle or something like that and she refuses to even touch it. She is very small...maybe 12-13 lbs. She has never been to the doctor for a check-up so I don't know if she gaining enough weight or not. Also, she has no desire to do anything. When put on the floor she will lift up her head with her arms and look around, but that's it. She doesn't get on her knees yet. She doesn't try to move around...I mean like scoot or army crawl or something. When you hold her, she doesn't straighten her legs out and put her wieght on them. Just just hangs. She does roll in one direction now though. I think she is just kind of a lazy baby, but I am starting to worry a bit. Does what I have told you sound like something to be concerned about? If so, should I mention anything to her parents?
I would start to be concerned, especially if the baby has never been to a doctor. While some of the skills seem to be on track for a four month old, some you mentioned seem to be slightly delayed. I have included links that covers some of the most common milestones and appropriate time frames. The things that concern me or the not grasping and holding toys and the not interacting with her environment. The not interacting could be from home, if the parents don't interact with her, so may not feel the need to explore. More importantly, it could be a sign of a visual impairment or other problem. My dd was diagnosed with her VI at 4 months because she did similar things, had no desire to interact with her environment, did not play with toys, did not respond well to people (ie when someone entered the room, walked by her, and so on). She also had the nystagmus, or the repetative eye movements that looked like she never focused on anything. If at all possible, the baby should at least be seen by the ped. who can assess her progress and make sure nothing else is going on. She may not be delayed as of yet, but it might be a good idea to make sure someone is keeping track of it, so if she is delayed, services can be started as soon as possible. But definately check out the links posted below. You will have a better idea of what a 4 month old should be and it may bring to mind something that you didn't mention.