Forum: Children with Developmental Delays and Disorders
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I just talked to my mom. She asked me what I am doing this weekend. I said I do not know. Dh was talking about going out to eat for are wedding anny. It was yesterday. I told her I am going to ask dh to go take the kids to his families house saturday afternoon because I depespartaly need to be be by myself. She was saying how my sister asked her to feed her birds saturday and my mom was like I do not know. I am working a double shift so I am going to be tired. She was going to ask if I want to ride along and she would have me drive and I said no. If Sheiroky takes the kids I am not going anywhere I need to be myself. She was going to start saying well I have done alot for you. She tries to guilt trip people but I was not having any of it. I said you do not understand how stressfull things are. She has no idea what it is like to be a mother because she NEVER was one to us. It was my grandma that was. I have done plenty for her. She injured her knee and my sister and I put are lives on hold to take care of her for months while she was nasty to us. I have sat in the ER with her till all hours of morning because she did not want to be alone. I would say that almost everytime I was in the ER I was buy myself. She is are mother and part of being of a mother is doing stuff for your children and not trying to lay a guilt trip when they are going through a hard time. Seriously is she that clueless. She will always be self centered. I know this sounds harsh but she has been a self centered mother are whole life. I thank god I have my grandma.
I'm sorry (((hugs))) DON"T feel guilty. The whole time I have known you in our PR you are always doing for others and rarely take time for YOU. And you DO need that time for yourself, and you DESERVE it. If Sheiroky takes the kids to his famuly, enjoy your time to the fullest! Your mother will manage - or she can tell your sister to find someone else - it's not your prob hon, you have enough on your plate!
Crissy ♥ mama to Jack 7.16.01 ~ Mia Bella 10.29.02
Angus Pickle 2.24.04 ~ Sydney Bean 10.26.06 & Kater Tot 2.15.09
I think your mom is an adult and can take care of herself for the day. If you "want" to spend time with her...doing her bidding, thats one thing but as you don't want to, I don't think its right for mom to try to lay a guilt trip on you. Spend your day doing what you want and not thinking about mom. Everyone needs a break....please enjoy it
Tammy, Mom to
Abby (19), Kacie (13), Chase (11), & Jacob (7)
"...They're supposed to make you miserable! That's why they're family!" ~ Bobby ~ Supernatural