Forum: Children with Developmental Delays and Disorders
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Here's what she can say as of now at 18 months....mama, dada, baba, bite, hi, bye-bye, ouch, that, this, bop, eat, baby. She does not point to things but she will look at them or go get them if you tell her to. She is trying to say "that's Tanner" and "that's Dora" but so far only says "that's door" and "that's tare". She doesn't try to say anything else, and some of these words she use to say alot and really doesn't say much anymore. She also is still on the bottle bc no matter what we do she absolutely WILL NOT take a sippy cup of any kind. She knows to put her mouth on the straw but she just isnt sucking. She sometimes will wave bye or hi, but does not touch body parts. She use to touch our nose and chin iof we asked her to, but not anymore. She also has a really bad temper if she can't do something. Most of the time she will let us help her but sometimes she just has major meltdowns. She has also become SUPER picky and hard to feed. She spits out pretty much everything. And she is good at feeding herself with her hands but still has not figured out a fork or spoon. Not even a little. She never fusses when she poops in her diaper. Never. Its like she doesn't care that it's there. I know she can hear bc she responds to her name. And she likes to dance to music. She also looks at books and tries to read out loud, and she babbles ALL the time. She can also figure stuff out pretty fast. She doesnt get faked out when you try to hide stuff. She knows to look for it. She never tries to build anything, but she will give her baby hugs and kisses. Her well baby check up is Monday, and I'm really nervous bc I'm afraid I'll be told she's delayed. Does she sound delayed to you? What do you all think?
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OK, first let me give a disclaimer. I am not a professional of any type, I just have a son with global developmental delays due to mental retardation.
My honest opinion is, Some of the things you list could be a concern in the future, or could not. What you describe was my son at 3 years old, probably a bit more advanced. he was also like that at 18 months but we never thought much of it until he just never grew out of it. there are things that sound like she may be doing just fine like lots of babbling and trying to say words. Also it is great that she will go get things when you tell her, she is comprehending.
My best advice would be contact an early intervention program in your area. and they will come to your house and do a developmental assessment. if she is delayed they will give her therapy right at home until she is three. then at three it is the public school systems responsibility. Now to get in contact with early intervention they may want a referral, you can get one easily from your pediatrician. Say you are concerned about her development and you want a referral for an assessment. if they try to say it isn't necessary say you have a lot of anxiety about it and need that peice of mind, never ignore a gut instinct, stick to your guns.
Now just for reference I live in rhode island. I am pretty sure they have early intervention programs all over the country now. If you are out of the US, then i would call the doctor and see what they do locally for developmental assessments.
I haven't been on this board for a long time so I hope it's ok to post.
To me she sounds like a normal 18 month old. What exactly about her development concerns you? My son didn't say his first word till 22 months and he does have some delays, particularly speech ones, but at 18 months that sounds like quite good speech to me. Our checklist (I'm from Australia) is probably different to yours, they like to see a minimum of 3-5 single words spoken at 18 months over here. Most toddlers have bad tempers, are picky and could care less about poop in the diaper. The not pointing is the only thing that I could see as slightly concerning, my son was I think 20 months before he started pointing.
Is she stubborn? I say that because not wanting to use a spoon, or a sippy, or point to body parts can simply be due to not wanting to do it, and 18 months can be a very stubborn age. Have you tried her on an open plastic cup? Put about a 1/4 or less in it and give it to her in the bath, on the highchair tray or outside where it doesn't matter if it gets spilt. My daughter refused every sippy I tried but happily took an open cup.
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That sounds pretty much like my son!! He wouldn't talk for the life of him... he called everyone Dada and would repeat about 10-20 words but never re-use them. I spoke with the pediatrician about it and he said anything can happen between the 18 month - 2 year milestone. By 2 years their vocabulary really jumps up and again my son's didn't. So I looked into Early Intervention, got a referral from the Pediatrician and had him screened. He had both a speech and a (uh... another) delay (the one where you match colors...) so he qualified. Every state is different but my state charges my insurance and what my insurances doesn't cover is paid for by state grants. He sees a speech therapist for 45 minutes 2x a week and although he is still delayed, he is making HUGE progress. Back in the day EI wasn't available and everyone told me, oh you're being paranoid... he's just being a boy, he's fine but in MY EYES... there are programs available to give that little extra attention and boost and it absolutely CANT HURT to have someone come and just see if there is reason to be concerned or not. But like I said unless your child is diagnosed with a physical/mental delay/disorder - they usually won't do a solid diagnosis until 2 years. (ie: a child with down syndrome will qualify right away...etc). But in the mean time keep using new words because goodness knows she's absorbing them even if she isn't repeating them!!!
An EI evaluation won't hurt anything. Duck will be 3 in July and doesn't say nearly as much as your daughter.
Every child is different. Trust your gut and listen to your pediatrician. We listened to ours and got EI involved. He kept saying Autism, but specialist after specialist has said no because he's not hitting certain markers. A year into services, he no longer his a single marker for Autism.
go with your gut. Also, there's a LOT on the web as far as what to look for in terms of delays. I know it can be undaunting to search for all that stuff and can either put your mind at ease or freak you out a bit. If you google Arnold Palmer Hospital in Orlando, they have a developmental center with developmental stages listed. We go back to it every once in a while just to see how far Duck has come.
I agree get in contact w/ your local Early Intervention program and they can come out an assess your daughter. She honestly sounds pretty normal to me. I have some stubborn kids......the poop thing is no big deal, my kids never cared about that. And she says a lot of words I think! My 16 month old can only say mama, dada, uh-oh....
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