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Hello! my name is Jennifer. My daughter Emma turned 4 in March. We have a very special circumstance in that I get to take Emma to work with me. I teach high school child care training and have a preschool lab in my classroom. Its a blessing most days, bu other days, I wonder ifI'm doing more damage than good. Emma is extremely clingy to me. She knows the rules of the classroom, but she ignores them. Part of that is myfault because I havent enforced them the way should, for example, her coming to the high school side of the room. Anyway, lately she has been very emotional. Crying over everything. Today, and keep in mind its only 11:30, she cried because she needed to go to the bathroom, but wanted a student to take her that couldnt at that moment and screamed the while time. Then she trash to me crying because anither child attemptrd to kill a dragonfly. Didnt kill it, but attempted to. She was sobbibg. Then another teacher and two male students walked in my room to talk to mr, and she started screaming and crying like crazy. I finished talking to them and pulled her aside to ask why she was asking like that. She said because she loves me. I told her that didnt make sense.
I don't know what to do! I know my daughter is attached to me, we are together all day every day, but I also don't think this behavior is normal! Im just not sure what to do. She is going to pre-k part-time next year, and I'm so afraid this behavior is giing to carry over.
If it was new, I would say maybe, bit this isn't new. She's excited about the baby. This is something that has been going on for a while. She has her good days, but days like today, seems like anything sets her off. She is very smart and seems to understand when I tell her mommy has to focus on work. Sometimes I forget she's only four. Idk. It just doesn't make sense to me when she has outbursts like today. I thought at one point, maybe she just doesn't feel good, buy she seems fine.
Thanks for the welcome and everything...if anyone else has any advice or has dealt with a very possessive four year old, I'd love to hear your advice!
In all honesty, id be finding somewhere else for her to be, if she's crying through class it is impeding on the high school children's right to learn, its not their place, nor responsibility to have to take her to the toilet or sit in a classroom and have to wait while you sort out her crying.
It could be the pregnancy, or she could just be needing to make attatchments to other adults and dosent like the idea of sharing you.
Cybele, wife to Ash and mummy to 5, Anindita (18), Azriel (15), Sundance (12), Lux (10), Sasha (4)
Mummy to 4 feline furbabies, Clio, Kitra, Rupert and Tess
Hey Jenn! Welcome to my corner of JM. LOL (for everyone else, Jenn and I are in the same PR)
Kayley gets like that too. (as i'm sure you've noticed from some of my fb posts... LOL) I've been told it's just 4 yr old girls being 4 yr old girls. Neither of the boys did this, just Kayley so I'm inclined to believe it. I think the only thing you can do is just begin enforcing the rules and if she cries, let her cry it out without "rescuing" her because next year you won't be there to do it.
I have a similar situation with my daughter and she is with me 24/7 since I nanny two other children... But my question for you is how did you get past this my daughter lately has just has been crying over anything lately and refuses to try anything new and old. I just don't know what to do