[-erin-]

Anonymous, unless you add a comment telling us

[edgeofelise]

Awful. But that's the fault of BF hormones, for me. It has gotten a tad better since we cut back nursing a bit, it's like a glimmer of hope that someday my sex drive will return...but most days I still live inside a no-touch bubble.

[BobbityBoo]

It's okay considering I'm nearly 37 weeks preggo. Meh...

[Runzbarrel]

Ours could be better. We could also both put more effort into it. DH has never had a high sex drive so for him it's not a necessity in life where for me it is. What I would love more than anything is some really good foreplay with lots of passionate kissing I love kissing and I can't remember the last time we really kissed each other

[speechteach42]

We rarely have sex now that I'm pregnant, but even when I'm not it's like once every couple of weeks. However, I could totally do without sex no problem so it doesn't bother me.

[gingerrae]

I don't have a sex drive while preggo so unfortunately for DH our sex life sucks right now. Although I try to have sex once a week for him.

[Brookem]

I voted "1" and it looks like I am not alone

[sodagirl]

It's actually finally pretty good now! yay! Just had to get AF back. Ah well.

[survey77777]

I don't know if I can still blame it on BF, but maybe that's the problem...or part of it.

[BobbityBoo]

Doesn't Michelle Duggar BF? How does she keep having kids close in age? Aren't her hormones all messed up, leaving her with no sex drive? Gesh...

[-erin-]

I think I read she only BFs like 6 months or so... but some people get AF back quickly, regardless.

However, my personal opinion on it right now is it's just a numbers game at this point so they're TRYING for as many as they can... the sex part doesn't matter, just the potential end result I'm kinda cynical about some things...

[PurpleStar]

I gave us a 6...we are better than average, but room for improvement ;-) I have a high sex drive...and while Josh can too, work just wipes him out. Waking up at 230am and then having a 12 hour day, 5 sometimes 6 days a week just screws him up SOOO bad...so the fun foreplay and tension/anticipation leading up to sex gets kinda fast forwarded through...and that's the good stuff for me. Also, we used to have sex almost every night, now we are averaging about 3 times a week.

We've had lots of sex talks and we both know we are lacking in some the spice we used to have...so we are working on bringing some of the sexy back ;-)

[speechteach42]

Originally Posted by BobbityBoo

Doesn't Michelle Duggar BF? How does she keep having kids close in age? Aren't her hormones all messed up, leaving her with no sex drive? Gesh...

^I was wondering the same thing, and asked my mom who is strangely fascinated by them. She watches their show and has read both of their books. In one of the books they answer a bunch of questions people often ask them and one of the sections was answering questions about their sex life. She said they basically believe that as part of being submissive and loving towards her husband a woman should put out even when she doesn't feel like it because men have needs. Again, got this second hand from my mom but I'm betting some version of that is true bc she thinks they're great and can do no wrong so for her to answer that way makes me suspect its true.

[-erin-]

Originally Posted by speechteach42

^I was wondering the same thing, and asked my mom who is strangely fascinated by them. She watches their show and has read both of their books. In one of the books they answer a bunch of questions people often ask them and one of the sections was answering questions about their sex life. She said they basically believe that as part of being submissive and loving towards her husband a woman should put out even when she doesn't feel like it because men have needs. Again, got this second hand from my mom but I'm betting some version of that is true bc she thinks they're great and can do no wrong so for her to answer that way makes me suspect its true.

I'm glad I'm not them!

[BobbityBoo]

I dunno... its all so weird... I feel like people are twisted the "submissive" issue in Christianity. Or maybe I just have a different take on it. I view it as the man should be the spiritual leader of the family... but as my uncle explained it (him being a pastor) the man might be the head of the family but the wife if the neck controlling the head! I think sex is and should be an important part of the marriage and if both of you aren't happy then its something to work on... but there shouldn't be a blanket statement that women need to give it up all the time just because their man "has needs". But I also feel that ignoring your husband/partner's needs can create resentment and issues in a marriage. But that goes for both parties and non-sex issues as well. I just hate the blanket statements that women need to be at the beck and call of their husband's just because they are "christian".

[survey77777]

I'm not big into gender roles in any situation (except for taking out the garbage) so I feel the same way about this issue.

[lunarmagic]

Well, I don't even know how to rate it. I'm pregnant so my sex drive is pretty darn low, so to *me* it's fine... if I randomly want sex, then I get it, lol. Poor DH likely does NOT feel the same way!! (I feel bad, but at the same time I was puking several times daily for months..... so going without sex is a minor inconvenience to him. )

And yeah, ditto on the "no gender roles except garbage" LOL

[misscari]

I'm a little sad not one of us has a 9 or a 10

By the way-I take out the garbage but after reading this I think I'll add it to his list!

[Danielle.W]

I voted 9....I guess I was the only one lol

We have sex enough (2x a week), it's great when we do. The one point I took off is because if John goes too long during intercourse I start to hurt pretty bad....and by pretty bad I mean REALLY bad.

But instead of pitty partying about it we just figured out how to make me climax first before sex, and then stimulate him until he's pretty close and then we have actual sex for a few minutes. It's working and that's what matters. Of course I would LOVE to have us both climaxing during sex but it just isn't happening and there's no sense living in the "I wish" land

[rebeccabaltimore and more]

It's fantastic. My PCOS is better so my hormone levels are now more like a normal person, and I changed antidepressants - my old one ruined my sex drive. So really, the only limitations for us are lack of time and/or lack of energy.