[Brookem]

DH is getting ready to take a mechanic job in Alaska, I think. (We live in Oregon) It will be two weeks on, two weeks off or three weeks on, three weeks off. The money is great but I haven't had to live alone for over seven years and Violet has never been without her daddy. I am a little scared. That is so silly!

Please say something that will make me feel good. I want to be in a positive mindframe about this. Two or three weeks at a time of family QT is great!

[lunarmagic]

In some ways that sounds ideal. LOL When he's working he'll be gone, and when he's home he'll be really able to actually be with you guys. I think being gone for 2 or 3 weeks at a time isn't going to make a huge difference with Violet, as in, he won't be missing her for too long, he'll get to come home and catch up before leaving again. (unlike if he were gone for months at a time, missing entire stages of development)

Not having a helping hand in the evening would make me a little nervous. I'm going to be dealing with DH being gone for 5 weeks come march, so I'm a little worried myself! But I'm sure you (and I!) can figure it out.

[survey77777]

That will be rough to adapt to but hopefully you can focus on those long stretches of daddy time when he is home a well as the improved $ situation!

Oh...mojo activated too!

[MrsLMB]

Its not as bad as it sounds. DH works evenings and overnights so I am home alone for all but a couple hours of the day (he is sleeping during the day). Remember, absence makes the heart grow fonder. You just have to get into a groove. Learn how to handle things alone and set up a routine. It will be awesome for him to be home for those long stretches too.

[Runzbarrel]

Gosh that'd be awesome!!! I wish my DH could find something like that. We do so much better when we're away from each other for periods of time. I was trying to talk him into going to ND to work in the oil fields but he wasn't too thrilled about it so here we sit, broke, and biting each others heads off :/

I think you'll be fine 2-3 weeks will go by pretty fast and mo money always makes things better

[Brookem]

Thanks ladies!! I think taking the plunge will be the hardest part. I don't feel like we are in an unsafe location but somehow just having him that far away seems so vulnerable. Hopefully I will get over it.

Thanks again.

[rebeccabaltimore and more]

This isn't the same, but Dan went away on vacation for a week. With the PTSD, this seemed just about impossible for me, and Grant is used to a very hands on Dad. I was so worried, ask my therapist. But we were fine! Actually we were great, Dan could have stayed even longer

[sodagirl]

(((hugs))) You will do great momma! And we'll be here to listen!

[momoftwins]

I think it will take some getting used to, to have your DH gone for a couple weeks at a time, but once you get into a routine you'll do fine! I actually think it would be better that way, vs having him home one day, gone the next, etc. That's hard to get in a groove that way. And it will be SO nice to have him home with you guys and to not have to worry about work for a good amount of time! It sounds like a great opportunity for your fam!

[gingerrae]

I'm sure you can do it. Sounds like a north slope job... I'm sure at first it will be different but I'm also sure that you can do it. And like the other ladies said the 2 or 3 weeks he has off will be so much fun because he will be able to focus on his family and not be worrying about work or money or anything like that.

[Brookem]

Originally Posted by gingerrae

I'm sure you can do it. Sounds like a north slope job... I'm sure at first it will be different but I'm also sure that you can do it. And like the other ladies said the 2 or 3 weeks he has off will be so much fun because he will be able to focus on his family and not be worrying about work or money or anything like that.

Yes, North Slope. Thanks for the feedback