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I have a 3 year old son who is struggling with potty training. I've been at it for 4 months now and he is still having accidents. I know he's ready because he doesn't like having wet or poopy underwear and doesn't like wearing diapers anymore. He's gone a few days without an accident but then it seems like he falls apart and just gives up a few days later. He REALLY struggles when we are outside. He will go run around the yard and pee or poop in his underwear...it's like he doesn't want to stop what he's doing and go potty inside. It's really frustrating!
Also, I am still asking him if he needs to go potty all day long. When should I stop asking him? I've tried not asking him for half a day and he had a few accidents. I don't want to give up but I'm at my wits end! I find myself getting mad with him when he pee's or poop's in his underwear (and I know that's the wrong thing to do!) I've tried bribing him with gum balls, candy, stickers, etc. and just looses interest.
Rachel is 3 and she still does the pee and poop thing outside so I make her go potty before we go out and I try to have her come in long enough to go potty every half hour. It don't always work but it helps. She has started to tell us when she has to go potty but if in a pullup or diaper she will just go in it and will not tell us. We have let her set the pace and she has picked up on a lot of it by herself so maybe if you try to give him some feeling of control he will be more likely to try to go.
What about instead of asking him 'if he needs to go', saying it is time to go potty now....and just bring him in and tell him he needs to sit on the potty until he goes? You probably need to do this every half hour til he starts to show that he is not having accidents and leave him there for 5 minutes if he will stay there.
I can understand how frustrating it is and how easy it is to get mad. I even sometimes feel angry at my one year old when he has accidents and I think sometimes he is doing it on purpose! I try not to let him see, but it is really annoying when he stands there and starts to pee while looking at you!
I definitely notice a huge improvement in his pottying when I leave him naked. After a couple of days he has almost no accidents because in the previous days when he did have accidents, there would be instant feedback as to where he was 'supposed' to go potty. When I put him back in diapers it gets worse.