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So, I have a 17 month old son who I desperately want to potty train! I am 21 weeks pregnant with a girl and really don't want to have two in diapers at the same time. Am I crazy for thinking I can potty train him so early?! What is the earliest you should try to potty train?
The earlier the better! You are not crazy. I am a huge advocate of early potty training. It is the diaper business that has taught us to start at 2 years old. This is purely profit motivated. This has caused a huge problem for many many mom's. It is so much more difficult to train starting at this age. They are not nearly as eager to please and many mom's run into something called 'stool refusal' where they refuse to poop on the potty.
If you read some of the old posts here, you will see many many examples of 3 and 4 year olds who refuse to go on the potty. If 'readiness' was the answer, you would surely think kids of this age would be 'ready'? But apparently, they are not. Many parents are running into a pressure situation because their child won't be accepted to preschool and kindergarden if they are not potty trained. This is a whole lot of needless stress.
If you look back in history, 90% of the children in 1950 in the US were toilet trained by the age of 18 months. If you look worldwide, you'll find that in many traditional cultures, children are potty trained by age 1.
However, thanks to the diaper industry, they have managed to change a whole society's perception of potty training.
It does not need to be a pressure thing. It is no different than teaching your child to feed him/herself or teaching him/her how to brush their teeth. It is just another skill that needs to be taught.
My one year old loves it and claps and gets happy every time he goes. It is really adorable. It is so much more pleasant, in my opinion, than training a 2 year old that can talk back.
It really is not any more time consuming either. Cole pees almost instantly when we put him on. That takes less time than changing a diaper.
That is about when we started my son, and also about how far along I was in my pregnancy... hah! It seemed like it would be super daunting for me but really it hasn't been so bad. My husband is super supportive and does great helping with it too which is really nice. I honesty don't think it is too early to start now. People give children such little credit for what they are truly capable of to be honest... My son was showing no interest or "signs of readiness" when we started him and he has done so well with it! Potty training this young is definitely a totally different ball game from an older child though I think. I see it as a much easier process and much less of a battle of wills, and more of actual teaching of a skill and them being able to do something they can be really proud of.
Links I have found helpful...
Potty Training Raising Rocco We followed a very similar methodology (we had him naked at home for the first bit until he started to really catch on, then went to underwear. We also don't use a tangible reward, we do big time praising and clapping and he looooooves that! We never did the books and stuff either but it may be beneficial if your child likes that stuff. Never even occured to me and I found this after we already started.)
A Bushel and a Peck: diary of potty training an 18 month old... This is a blog of a woman starting to potty train her son at 18 months old. I would go back to this blog and read it a lot while I was potty training because I found it incredibly encouraging when I was having bad days. There will be good and bad days... I did find though that after some bad days my son would have a major breakthrough! It's seriously like a two steps forward, one step backward kind of thing sometimes... Don't give up! I especially liked that she was pregnant while training also, and about as far along as I was starting out which made it super relatable.
Just try to stay positive, be consistent and persistent and every time your child makes progress it will be so awesome and you will get so excited and so will they! Good luck!!!
Thanks ladies! OK, so I found a nice little site that has been helpful. They have some good potty training techniques and some free stuff on there too! Home Let me know which method you feel would work the best. I am still trying to decide!!
OK so not sure why that link said Home..here we go again Help Me Potty Train Hope it works this time. Let me know what you think!