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Hi Ladies! My name's Tamara, I'm 24, my DH is 25 & our DS will be 4 in February.
He's been pee potty trained for a little over a year. And, it's been about 2 months since he's been bedtime potty trained. So, that leaves pooping on the potty. He just will not do it. Within the last year he's done it 2 or 3 times. But, apparently that was just a fluke. I've tried everything... encouraging, bribing, making it fun, all that kinda stuff! He just cries & cries that he wants a diaper. I've denied him a diaper a few times, but he will just hold it. That can't be good, so I give in.
What can I do?? I'll take any advice/tips. I know he will do it when he's ready, but I just don't understand WHY he won't. He's not afraid to sit on the potty, cuz sometimes he'll sit when he pees. HELP!!! TIA...
Tamara I wish I could help you, but I have the same issue with my DD. Actually you are better off because at least he asks for a diaper and will do it. Be glad!!! My DD refuses to push. She will only go if she can't hold it in any longer. I've had to put her on a laxive to keep her BMs nice a lose, cause as soon as they get a bit harder and she has to actually work for it, she will hold it forever...then I have to do an enima etc.
I've tried everything also and am at my wits end.
I guess we just have to wait it out and eventually they will 'get it' and start pooping in the toilet. I hope you have better luck than me.
this is a really hard transition for them. They HAVE to learn to push, think about it, if we keep their bowels too loose, then they wont' learn. Long-term laxative use isn't good.
Believe me, I've been there personally and with both of my boys. My odler son was on some form of laxative for 10 months, then we got him off. Six months later we were back on again. He's finally been off of it since January.
Make it a routine....same part of your day, put him on the potty and get him to TRY. We used a sticker chart from Target (back to school time is great for this stuff). He got a hand-written smiley if he at least tried and a sticker smiley if he went. When he went every day for a week, he got a trip to McDonald's.
when he filled his chart (4-5 weeks), he got a very special trip to the zoo with a train ride.
Buy an extra special toy that he really wants and put it on display. Tell him he can have it when he is pooping on the potty every day (or whatever routine you can get him to go.
oh, and Sam had withheld many times and I'd had to give him an enema and the liquid suppositories. he finally discovered he did NOT like those. So, I'd sit him on the toilet and give him teh option of pushing on his own or "medicine in his butt". maybe twice he opted for the medicine. (and this is after 4-5 days without a movemnt.)