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My daughter just turned 4 yrs old. We have been attempting to potty train her for 2 yrs now. We've tried everything they suggest... treats, presents, praises, everything. Nothing has worked. Now she throws fits when we ask her to go sit on the potty. She storms back the hallway, stomping her feet, walking into the bathroom growling and slams the door. I'm at my wits end. I could really use some new ideas! Any help?
I suggest putting her in panties during the day, and only pullups when she is napping, in the car, outside the house, or at night. You will do a lot more laundry, but it's easier to spot when she actually wets herself. Put her in some pants that show wetness well too, like leggings.
When she's in pullups, you can't tell WHEN she went. You know if she's wet, but it could have been just now, or two hours ago. KWIM? We had to put Evann in panties so we knew when she went.
Then try to see if there is a pattern between when she eats/drinks and when she pees and poops. With Evann, she will eat her lunch, drink a glass of milk and then almost on the dot three hours later she has to pee. Keeping track of this will help you know when to suspect she will have to go.
Once you know about when she will have to go potty, try to get her there and keep her there. I use my iphone to keep Evann entertained while on the potty. She only gets to play with my phone while on the potty, so she loves going and doesn't want to get off. Then, while she is distracted by the toy, she will end up peeing while on the potty. Once she does that, I am able to give her lots of praise, tell her I'm so proud of her, give her extra kisses, high fives, a treat, and a special toy. It's such a big spectacle of praise that she loves it and wants to do it again.
I also found that she really really really wants a pillow pet, so we told her if she goes a whole day without messing her pants we'll give one to her. She keeps trying and usually only messes herself once or twice a day now. So she's getting it.
Maybe there is a special toy that she really wants, and instead of it being a Christmas gift it can be her potty gift.
This is a journey, one that takes a long time. Little steps are good. So even if she only goes pee in the potty once a day, or even once every other day, it's better than not going at all. She'll get it. It takes lots of time, lots of patience, and lots of encouragement for little one and you
Hope that helps
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I sympathize. My daughter is almost 3 and she has been doing me that for a year. I fear she'll do it until she's 14! No matter what advice I take, she refuses to even sit on it. If I throw away all the diapers she just pees on the floor. No amount of being nice, stern, or bribing her will change her mind. She seems convinced that the potty is something OTHER people use, while SHE is meant for diapers. I wish I knew the answer.