[adventuretime]

we have a two year old potty training and a four year old potty training...our four year old has some learning delays, hence why he is so late in the process, but they know how to do it, they just choose not to. we've tried the timeout thing if they go in their underwear, we've tried the you get a sticker or candy incentive, but nothing is working!
they both go occasionally, but our two year old seems to think of it as a game, and our four year old throws fits when we make him try to go potty...
i'm at a loss here...any suggestions?

[Mom2Brendan]

Do you still have them in pull ups/diapers ??

How do they act when they are on the toilet ?

Are you having both of them use the big toilet if so is there any kid seat that is to go over it ?

How do you try to get your 4 yr old to use the potty ?

[adventuretime]

no we put them in underwear during the day but pullups at night.
our two year old tends to play around alot when she's on the toilet, the four year old cries and complains.
yes, we do have a little seat that goes over the big one that they use.
and at this point we ask him if he needs to go potty and he always says no so we ask if he could please try to go and he starts crying and screaming about how he doesn't like going potty so we have to make him go or he just goes in his underwear, and when he does go in his underwear he doesn't care, he just continues doing what he was doing without telling us. he also went through a phase of taking off his dirty underwear and hiding it in his room.

i am at a total blank with our four year old.

[Mom2Brendan]

Your 4 yr old seems to have some fear about the toilet.

Like Maybe he's afraid it looks like a mouth and will eat or suck him down.

Have you ever shown him any potty videos ?

Bear in The Big Blue House has a good one it says Potty Time with Bear.

Another thing is how far does his feet reach when on the toilet ?

Do you have a step stool ?

If you do then see about him sitting with the stool under his feet making him more steady on there so he don't feel like falling.

[adventuretime]

yes we have a step stool, and he will go sometimes but other times he totally freaks out. he's almost five and he's still in pullups, pooping himself and peeing on himself, i am just beyond frustrated.

[KrissyS]

May I ask what he is delayed at like what would u put his emotional age at?
I would as much as possible not punish on potty if u are home make a scedual like every hr you sit on potty it's not there choice and is there some big reward u could do like a day trip once he is trained?