[bexbex81]

The feelings are completely normal, but sometimes its good just to have someone around you even if its just someone who u can cry,shout,or ignore

And why did they leave??? i cant believe they left you hunny ((((((huggs))))))

x

[MindyRambo]

I am so sorry for your loss.

How are you feeling today?

We are here for you if you need to talk, but I strongly suggest that you get someone professional to talk to. I can't begin to imagine or understand your feelings, but I feel for you, and I know it's so hard to see right now, but time does make it hurt a little less, and your beautiful baby boy will give you something to look forward to every day.

Hang in there hun. (((Hugs)))

[boysarebest]

Where do you live? I am in S. Ca and if you are near I would be more than willing to help you. I am sure there are others on JM that would offer this help as well. Please let me know.

[PregnantAlone_2012]

I am in Florida. And i don't understand it but they both have jobs so idk.

[hollywoodma]

You should really seek the advice of a professional. They can help you sort out your feelings and maybe if you need give you medication. I hope your day was better today.

[PregnantAlone_2012]

Baby boy has been kicking a ton and keeps reminding me he is there when i get down

[ellinj0206]

I can't imagine what you are going through, but echo what everyone else has said. You are in a tough place right now and it helps to talk to someone about how you're feeling. I'm glad you are talking to us on here, but it helps to have someone you can also discuss things with outside of a chat group. Nobody will judge you and you'll show how strong you are for stepping up and saying, "you know what, I've got a lot on my shoulders and a heavy heart and I think I just need a little help." What a strong person it takes to say that! You'll be an amazing mom once the little one is in this world, but now's the time to start addressing the feelings you are having before the little guy is here. Be a strong mom and a great role model!! There is no shame or judgment in asking for help----please do so!

[CassieR70]

Dear PregnantAlone,

I just lost my sister two weeks ago and part of me feels like it died too. I am so heartbroken and sad and I just can't imagine my life without her. We were very close, in fact we might as well have been twins.

I imagine that you are totally devistated to say the least. You had someone that you loved and who was going through all of this with and now he is gone. You need to allow yourself to go through all of the emotions that go along with loss. It is an impossible situation....HOWEVER, your husband would not want you to give up on the life that the two of you started. Your baby is your hope and your life now. You might not be able to imagine life without your husband, but you can try to imagine life with your baby. He needs you to be there to tell him all about his Daddy.

I lost a husband back in 2007, he committed suicide. It was heartbreaking to think about the pain that he must have been in to make that choice. He suffered from clinical depression. His loss was and continues to be hard for all of us. I went to a therapist so that I had someone to talk to who would really listen. It was the best thing that I ever did. Because of her I was able to come to terms with my loss and go on with my life, which I know he would have wanted.

Please reach out to someone, a therapist, your doctor, whoever you can. You need and deserve support right now. I'm sure that your husband loved you very much and would want you to be OK. Whenever I start crying and feeling like I have no idea how to live without my sister, I think about my baby girl and how I need to be strong for her and give her every chance to grow up and be a sister herself.

Your baby boy gets to grow up and be a husband and hopefully a daddy of his own. Give him that chance and honor your husband by taking care of his baby.

You will be in my thoughts and my heart even though we don't know each other. Please reach out if you need to talk through a tough event.

Cassie

[Jessy_Ree]

I can't speak as to losing my spouse while pregnant..but I can say I did suffer the loss of my mother while I was pregnant..It is devestating..I know it feels unbearable now and you can't imagine getting over it..but it is possible..Keep trying..Lots of positive vibes coming your way..

[Trish36]

Just checking in to see how you are doing?

[alybr]

Please don't do anything. You are very vulnerable at the moment, I couldn't imagine what you must be going through but the first few months are always the hardest. Just know though that time heals everythings. And at least you have this baby to help you through this Especially when it gets older and you'll be able to talk about their father and share all the happy memories and see him through your child. I I lost my father when i was very young, and it was very difficult for my mother and us. But time really does heal. One day down the road you'll probably find someone that you love almost as much as your husband, and you'll still have a peice of him to with your child

[Trish1981]

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. When you lose someone close to you, it's normal to feel a wide range of emotions, and it's not uncommon to feel like you want to stop living. But that doesn't mean you don't help. Because sweetie, you need someone there for you. I'm not saying you necessarily need professional help, but you need to reach out to your friends and family. Let them support you. When you have suicidal feelings, don't keep them to yourself. I can tell that ending your life is not what you want, you're just feeling devastated and hopeless. But you're going to get through this, you're going to have a precious baby boy and I just KNOW you're going to feel your husband through it all. He's going to love that baby from wherever he is.