[PregnantAlone_2012]

I am 7 and half months pregnant with my first child a son. Well my husband died a few days ago and I am so depressed and I don’t know how I am going to be able to go on to be honest! I feel so suicidal I mean I know my son is the last part of my husband but I feel like my husband would rather us all be together as a family! But I don’t think I can go on without my husband he was my first true love I don’t know what to do I can’t stop crying and sobbing! I just feel like ending it all sure everyone has been here for me and so on but I feel like it’s just the normal we care crap after you lose something! What should I do? Advice? I just feel so alone and depressed! Haven’t eaten in two days. I can't sleep i just been on the couching watching tv and sobbing

[maryslittlelambs]

I was just scrolling through and saw this and felt like I had to respond.
You need to go to the ER NOW! Severe depression is nothing to be taken lightly. Please get up right now and go to the ER. Regardless of how you may "feel", suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do. You have a life depending on you right now, and it is not fair to take a child's life. I understand your situation sucks...but do what is the right thing.

Please take care.

[Quantum_Leap]

I agree hon, this is a problem so big that a person can't and shouldn't have to deal with it on their own. You need some professional support to help you manage. There are lots of groups out there that can help you. Try calling this number and they can absolutely point you in the right direction: 1-800-SUICIDE . Best of luck and love from across the globe. Your husband is watching you from above and he wants you to do what's best.

[one.juniper]

I agree you must be feeling terribly depressed and alone right now. What a horrible loss to suffer on the cusp of creating your family together. I am so sorry for your loss. Please, even if you don't want to go to the ER schedule an appointment with a therapist - letting professionals help you is the best thing you can do.

[Mod-krislati]

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, I think you really need to get some profession help. That's there job and they can help you through this difficult time, you have a sweet baby depending on you. I'm sure your husband would want you to live your life and take care of your sweet baby. Hugs..

[mrsjl]

I am so sorry your lost your husband.
Of course your husband would be better off on earth with you and your son, but I can guarantee 100% that he would rather you and his unborn child stay ALIVE!
just because your baby hasn't been born yet doesn't mean you aren't a mother, and as a mother you have the responsibility to do what is best for him. being alive is truly the best.

you need to get some professional help, right away.

also, having a new baby is hard on everyone, but it may be especially hard for you as you deal with your grief. please be sure you have people around you that can help with the baby, the last thing anyone wants is to lose more family members after just losing your husband.

[mshah]

I've struggled with severe depression and attempted suicide twice. I understand the feeling, and went through so much therapy for it. However, I did not have the compounded emotions of a husband's death and a pregnancy on top of that. Please understand that what you're feeling is normal and, contrary to what others say about being irresponsible and selfish, it's OKAY to feel this way (in a sense that your emotions are overwhelming right now). The first step is to accept how you're feeling and just let those emotions settle down. Once you've accepted that this is the hand you've been dealt, and while extreme, it is now something you have to handle. And letting go and running from it is not handling the situation. Your hormones right now make it even harder to see reality straight, and you must go somewhere you're not alone. Go stay with family or friends, whomever you need. Get yourself up off the couch, get dressed, and just GO. Sitting there only makes you focus on these feelings more, which is dangerous. And eat something, get nutrients in you so that you can think clearer as well. I know it's hard, but just one step at a time. C'mon I KNOW you know taking your and the babys life is NOT what your husband would want. You know it. Your husband is there with you, I promise. He sees how you're feeling and what you're doing. He just can't communicate with you right now. Show him how much you love him by picking yourself up and raising his son. YOUR son. Let his memory live on! Now get up and get out, ok? You CAN do this! I promise. Absolutely you can do this. Prove it to yourself, your husband, and your baby.

[momma2princesses]

I am just in tears for you...take everyons advice please....Your life is so WORTH living. I am so so sorry for your loss. Do you have anyone that can come and stay with you?

[PregnantAlone_2012]

My brother and his wife have moved in today cause i called them sobbing and so there gonna stay with me for awhile.

[Trish36]

I'm so glad that someone will be there to take care of you in this difficult time. You need the time to grieve but you also have to look after yourself and the baby.
You will have to make a choice...you can either let everything fall around you and not care and retreat into your own little world OR you can pick up the pieces and be a strong woman and an example to everyone, take care of your baby and teach him about his daddy and live your life the way your husband would have wanted you to do. Yes it will be hard but you can do it! You are a mother and responsible for another human being. Don't do it alone and don't be afraid to ask for help. There is nothing wrong with asking for help and people will be only too happy to do it. You've already taken the first step!
Keep yourself busy, sign up for some mommy and baby classes, join a due date club here on JM. Talk to your doctor! HUGS!!!!!
Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and I would love to see some pics once the baby is born.

[PregnantAlone_2012]

I will try just not sure if there gonna be of help or not

[missy123]

I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could hug you. Please don't kill yourself, your baby needs you so much. Please go to your doctor and be honest with them about how you are feeling....

[L-SBB]

I can only echo what everyone else has said...please go get some professional help right now, you need someone to help you through this, someone who you can lean on while you process the loss of your husband

I don't know you but I know your life is valuable, unique and special...and your baby's life is just as precious and special. Please don't throw that away in despair...you can and will get through this dark time, but you must take it step by step each day.

Can you call your doctor or local hospital tonight? We all want to make sure you're ok

I can only echo what the other ladies here have said. My heart goes out to you as you grieve during this horrible time. You need to allow yourself to work through the grief and give yourself time. Find a support group if possible for the loss of your husband and go see your doctor to get some help. I'm praying for you.

[PregnantAlone_2012]

Thanks feeling a little better

[survey77777]

I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how overwhelmed you must feel. Please seek professional help...you deserve it.

[bexbex81]

Im so sorry for what you are going through hunny, i cant imagine it, i think your feelings are completely normal and i would prob be exactally the same, but as the other girls are saying on here please get some help to support you through this sad sad time, noone should have to go through somethimg so awful alone, for you and the baby x

[PregnantAlone_2012]

I don't think i need help though cause i feel like the feelings are normal

[momof6lopez]

You do need help. While your feeling are those of anyone going through something as tragic as this, does not diminish that they are in need of immediate help. My ex-SIL was also 7.5mo pregnant with her son when her husband died of a heart attack. She went through the motions until her son was safely born, but she got help immediately. She could not do it on her own and NO ONE could. Two years later she met a wonderful man that she married and although she lost her true first love, life did go on and she found much comfort in her new marriage. As hard as it is to picture life without your husband, he would want his son to have a mother and his son to experience all life has to offer him. Im sure your journey will be a long and difficult one, but try and reach out for help now. Ill be thinking of you and your little baby that so desperately wants to be born. God bless you both.

[PregnantAlone_2012]

My brother and his sister left they felt like they wern't helping but i begged em to stay