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May 2nd, 2011, 11:17 AM
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Would you ever take your son/daughter to a male babysitter? Would you have a male babysitter watch your child at your house? Does it make a difference if it is a relative or not?
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May 2nd, 2011, 12:49 PM
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As long as its someone I know and trust, I guess I dont see why male or female makes a difference.

Does male or female really make a difference in general? If they are qualified and have great references and are certified, i dont see why sex makes a difference.
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May 3rd, 2011, 05:29 AM
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So if you didn't already know the person and they asked about the job - maybe you saw them on Care.com or something, would you try to find out more about them or rule them out?

Personally, I would not have a male babysitter. In my experience, males (yes, even Daddy), do not care for children the same way. Less detail oriented, I suppose, and more rowdy.
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May 3rd, 2011, 07:38 AM
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I actually have no idea how you go about finding a baby sitter who you didnt already know. But I would definitely get their references and call other parents to ask how the sitter was with their kids (checking on if their kids were male/female). I am not going to go looking for a male sitter specificly due to Baby S being a girl. As she gets older and develops personality, I plan to make sure the sitter has stuff in common with her. So she can relate/bond with that person easier.

I actually have high standards for what I expect from a paid baby sitter (not family). I expect the house to be as clean (if not cleaner) than when I left. Its how I used to be when I baby sat.
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May 3rd, 2011, 08:43 AM
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I don't think I could leave my child with anyone I didn't know, regardless of their qualifications/references/recommendations/etc. Male or female, you just never know what could be going on when you're not around.

For the people I do know and trust enough to have them babysit, gender doesn't matter to me.
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I am very picky about selecting a babysitter, which can be very difficult when you're working and need someone at the last minute because the regular babysitter has a sick kid and all your alternates are busy... But I'd much rather it be that way than not.

I also do not automatically trust all family. My dad and Tim's dad are the only males who watch Dalton, and we're ok with that. When seeking a new sitter, or even when looking into having a friend start to babysit, we always check out the husband/boyfriend too - if they are going to be around the house at all, we need to know.

We rarely ever have anyone babysit Dalton in our own house. This may change as we have the second and I'll be at home during the day (we don't go out without him since we rarely have family time), but so far only my parents and Tim's sister have watched him at our house.
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May 3rd, 2011, 04:50 PM
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I've used sitters that I didn't know ona personal level. I either knew the parents through church, or someone I know and trusted knew the teenager. or I asked the school (small catholic schol) for names. Never a guy that isn't family though, and even with that it's sparenly. like my bother has watched them, but 99% of the time it's with his wife(now or when they were dating) there. I'm okay with leaving them with my step dad now that they are older, but that's just because his idea of what they should do and mine are different (not unsafe just things like he's okay with them eating just pop corn for dinner)
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Yes, exactly, that's why I don't have male babysitters I know how Tim is and what he thinks is perfectly fine for a three year old, or even a one year old and what I think is good are completely different!
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He would most certainly HAVE to be a relative - or someone I know really well. I am not saying men don't have the correct material to take care of children, but when I think of a young man I don't think of a daddy. I think more of a car/porn/skateboarder person, someone I don't want to watch over my child. Now if it is an adult male, whom I know, I wouldn't have much of a problem with it.
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May 6th, 2011, 04:17 AM
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I know I'm prejudiced against male babysitters, but it's always interesting to see what other people think.
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May 8th, 2011, 10:10 PM
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I've known a few guys that were great with kids and about a million that get kids all hyper(my husband included).
While I wouldn't go out of my way to get a male sitter, I'm not opposed to it.
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