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March 1st, 2010, 06:00 AM
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BTDT moms - If you could give just one piece of advice to new moms above anything else, what would it be?

New moms - what is the "biggest" question on your mind?
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April 13th, 2010, 08:35 PM
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Trust yourself, you can do this and you will figure out what your baby needs.

You can't spoil an infant.
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April 14th, 2010, 10:49 AM
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roll with the punches, expect the unexpected. Little ones can be hard to figure out, doesn't mean somethings wrong. Also if you need help ask for it
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May 4th, 2010, 09:18 PM
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Don't be afraid to send your baby to the nursery after they are born, sleep while you can!!!
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May 4th, 2010, 10:39 PM
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Make sure you take some time for yourself every day or things can start seeming really overwhelming.
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May 18th, 2010, 02:21 PM
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sleep when they sleep.
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May 19th, 2010, 07:03 PM
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My biggest question is how do I not screw her up?
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May 19th, 2010, 08:53 PM
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My biggest question is how do I not screw her up?
There's no way not to really. (Well, not counting being abusive, neglectful and such) You do your best and pray that you've prepared her to handle the twists and turns life throws at her.
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May 26th, 2010, 08:28 AM
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My biggest question is how do I not screw her up?
as long as you feed, clothe and love her every single minute, you can't. Remember hands are for hugging and words are for saying I love you, you'll be just fine.


biggest advice to give?
if you feel yourself needing a break, take it. do whatever you have to get it, including calling a friend for just a 10 minute walk.

I had a friend that couldn't make the baby shower for my 2nd baby. she stopped in one day when he was about 5 weeks old and right at the tiem I needed to pick up my older son from school. she stayed with the baby for 20 minutes so I could pick him up without having to drag the baby out. How awesome is that? Way better than any gift she could have given me.
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May 26th, 2010, 09:20 AM
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Just remember everything is a phase and in the hard of times, it will end at some point. In fact you may miss it...

Every baby has sleepless nights and fussy moments.
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June 1st, 2010, 02:16 PM
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Have faith in yourself and your instincts. You can read all the books in the world but it is still YOUR baby and YOU know your baby best!
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June 11th, 2010, 02:55 PM
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everything can change withing minutes always expect the unexpected (leo hadnt even tried to sit up then 1 minute he did didnt work out to well not major bad but I wish he had shown sign like straining to get up) x
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June 21st, 2010, 11:51 AM
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dont be afraid to ask for help. mom also needs a time out sometimes
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August 22nd, 2010, 01:56 PM
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My biggest question is how do I not screw her up?
My mom used to tell us that if we didn't get out of her house with at least a couple sessions of therapy worth of things we blamed her for that she hadn't done her complete job. I had a couple sessions in college, but realized my mom did the best she could with what she had. You will too.
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August 22nd, 2010, 03:50 PM
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Picks your battles. There are some things that you will find very challenging with young ones as they grow. Learn to not let the small things get the best of you.
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August 27th, 2010, 07:43 PM
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Be confident in your decisions, strong in your convictions and reserve the right to change your mind.
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October 23rd, 2010, 02:40 PM
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Trust your gut. Ignore most of the advice people spew at you. Take a kajillion pictues because they grow and change soooooo fast.
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October 26th, 2010, 02:29 PM
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Perfect doesn't exist. Learn to accept that and life will be more enjoyable.
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October 27th, 2010, 11:16 AM
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Give yourself an extra 20 minutes to get out the door.
No such thing as perfect - don't bother looking for it. The only exception to this rule is in your kid's smile and laugh, and the angelic look on their face when they sleep. Relish those.
You're going to make mistakes. Acknowledge them, apologize for them (and mean it) learn from them and move on.
Life won't suck if the laundry goes undone.
You will need your own time, mommy time. So will your partner. Let them have it too. You pick up their slack, they will pick up yours. Or, if you're solo take advantage of every opportunity you get.

I know, way more than 1 piece of advice, but they are relevant to my life.
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November 5th, 2010, 10:08 AM
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Do what works for you and your child.
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