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Any of you moms who have already had their babies have the baby blues? I think I have them but I'm not sure.
I had to have an emergency c-sect which was my first c-sect. This threw me for a loop since it wasn't in my birth plan. I'm upset that this happened. I know why it happened - I was having a placental abruption- and it most likely saved my baby's and my life. I just wish it hadn't happened. Also, I believe DH and I have decided that this will be out last baby due to my births getting more and more scary and life-threatening. This I was not prepared for yet either. I wanted to keep my options open. I guess they still are since nothing has been done to prevent another birth yet. I'm torn religiously on the subject. We don't believe in birth control since we are Catholic and so I'm sad and struggling with this issue. I want to cry a lot. I feel like I'm just not useful anymore. I feel like I'm not being a great to my other 2 kiddos right now. I should be so happy Sarah's here and not sad, but I am sad.
Any others struggling with issues like these?
Sharon - Mom to Theresa, Harvey,& Sarah
I'm not this time, but with my first preg, which was an unexpected c-section, I really really struggled with it... I had planned an all-natural birth, and ended up getting the opposite.
I think we have this idea that a natural birth is the only good goal, and we've failed if somehow we don't have that (like if we got an epidural but hadn't planned to, or got a c-section because of some complication.) It can really undermine how we feel about ourselves and our confidence in our bodies - and then it affects the way we feel about how we are parenting our other children, our marriage, etc. etc.
I have no good advice, except to say that it's normal to feel that way, but if it becomes a feeling you can't shake, or that sparks a deeper sadness/depression, then it's really important to talk to someone IRL about it.
I'm right there with you. I had to have an emergency c section as well, due to a breech baby, that we had no idea was breach. IN fact, up until labor, the doc thought she was head down, and had thought that for weeks. It definately was scary and I had not done any research on c sections either, as I've had to perfectly normal vaginal births prior to this. This was my first c section as well, and also, dh and I had decided this was our last. We are not catholic, but are religious and birth control is not against our beliefs but its still a hard decision when you all of a sudden realise that was your last birthing experience and it was so traumatic. Only thing, I did differ from you what I already had it in my birth plan to have my tubes tied after delivery, but c section was NOT in my birth plan. FAR FROM IT.
I have moments where I feel im about to burst into tears and I feel like im being a HORRIBLE mom to my other two, because it seems to me they are being TOO LOUD, TOO NOSY, ALWAYS IN MY WAY.. when in fact, im sure they are being normal and are excited about the new sister.---but I just feel at my witts end and I hate feeling this way.
Just ask for help if you need it. Call on church members if your church has offered help of any kind... Take the help.. Im very proudful and HATE having to ask for help..so im probably the last person to tell you this, but if it wasnt for my DH being here to help me out for the first few weeks, I' would have lost my mind....
Below is my weightloss ticker. This is not for the pregnancy weight to come off as it has pretty much all came off. The rest of it is just what I've been wanting to loose for a while now to get back to my healthier weight!
Sounds like the baby blues. After my first I actually ended up with PP Psychosis and it's part of the reason why I don't believe in birth plans. You should be feeling better within a few weeks. If you are not, call your Dr. Or if you get worse and worse each day. I know how you feel on the last baby. I've had many crying jags about this being my last too. It's gotten much better over the last few days.
Cindy (Me) and Mark (DH) Parents to
Jamie Deborah Diane born 11/27/07
Alyssa Noel born 12/16/02 and Kaitlyn Marie born 05/27/10
I too am suffering~! I was in the hospital on bed rest for three months prior to delivery. The Doctors had this HUGE goal and it made it seem like LIFE or DEATH that I HAD to deliver vaginally because of all the scar tissue I had abdominally from prior intestinal surgeries. I was in labor for three days on the largest dose of pitocin they can give. I wasn't allowed an epidural because my platelets were too low. It was so hard and when they broke the water their was merconium (sp?) and long story short I ended up having to INSIST on a C-section and they kept telling me how risky it was. It was terrible becauase I did deliver my daughter vaginally however my body wasn't ready at 34 weeks to deliver Chance. IT just had to be done. So I had the c-sect, a tubal, and I ended up having another intestinal surgery because I had a very large bowel obstruction. So I have had a terrible time trying to heal. My muscles hurt so bad all of the time because of the fact that I am so not used to doing anything let alone trying to clean a house, do laundry, take care of a family etc. I have had to have my fiance take off and stay off of work since I have been home (3 weeks now) and I can hardly take care of myself let alone Chance and Phoenix. I feel so terrible. I feel like a failure and I cry often. I did go to the doctor yesterday to try and get better. He gave me some meds (my request) and told me that after everything that happened to me he expects me to be depressed and that he is depressed for me. He says it's going to take time. I just hope and pray that I make it with out going completely crazy. I don't want/like to be sad and hopeless all the time. I hope your baby blues gets better soon. It's a terrible way to feel.
Shelly (24) Daddy Jeremy (29) been together since Sept 15th 2006. Parents to DD Phoenix Madisyn (4/06) &Welcoming our newest addition Chance Austin our 34 week preemie...