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Anybody else have completely crazy thoughts of something awful happening to your baby? I have these visions of my husband or sister (she watches her during the day for me) leaving Madison in the car or dropping her or letting baby sleep on her tummy unsupervised. I feel like a complete nut case.
I also had a dream last night that I was bathing with Madison and I fell asleep and she drowned. What is wrong with me?!?
I want these thoughts to get out of my head! Is this just part of being a mommy or have I taken this worry too far?
I think it is pretty normal I mean of course it could go too far if it is consuming all of your thoughts but worrying is part of being a mama I think! the car thing is a big one for me, 2 days a week DH drives Sam to his moms because she watches him and I always worry he might forget he is in the car, not that I "really" think he would but you always hear those stories and it freaks me out! especially because this is new to his morning routine. so I always call to check with him that he remembered to drop him off
I dreamed that I forgot to drop Abigail off and left her in the car while I was at work. When I DID start back to work last week I went outside and checked my car twice before I was finally satisfied that I had indeed dropped her off at daycare.
My son is 14 years old now and I still to this day worry about him as much as I did when he was a baby. It didn't get any easier for me but I did learn to live with it and not let it consume my every waking thought. I guess it's just all a part of being a mommy.
I do this consantly... I have a very over-active imagination and can picture horrible scenarios happening to DD, DS, my DH, etc. I do it constantly, and it tends to go into overdrive when I am stressed or tired. I will also dream horrible things - or wake up thinking the baby is in bed with me and I rolled on her, etc.
I don't know if it's normal, ie. if most poeple do it, but yes, I do it ALL the time.
I am so glad to hear that I am not the only one doing this. I realllllly hope it gets better and I don't think crazy things for the rest of her life or else she is going to hate me by the time she is a teenager!
I do this consantly... I have a very over-active imagination and can picture horrible scenarios happening to DD, DS, my DH, etc. I do it constantly, and it tends to go into overdrive when I am stressed or tired. I will also dream horrible things - or wake up thinking the baby is in bed with me and I rolled on her, etc.
I don't know if it's normal, ie. if most poeple do it, but yes, I do it ALL the time.
Wow this is me completely. I'm pretty sure that I have a form of OCD though. At least just in my thoughts.
I do it too. I wonder what would happen if I slipped and fell on her, if I dropped her, if I left the blanket too high and she suffocates. It's not all consuming but it is distracting and I am glad I am not the only one.
(my mom admitted to me the other day that she does it too.)
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thanks to Jenn for this beautiful siggy
yeah i am that way too. i always think what if dh fell asleep in the recliner with her and she rolled off his chest or what if he dropped her. when she first started sleeping with us i freaked out a couple times in my sleep thinking what if i rolled on her. last nightshe slept in her porta crib and i had to have it tight against me bed and woke up several times to make sure she was breathing.
Yup I have some crazy thoughts sometimes & then I have to stop and think about how nutty I am being, but I think its completely normal unless you take it to the extreme.
I used to check my car almost every morning to make sure i dropped DS1 off at daycare before work. I also wake up in the middle of the night searching for the baby next to me in a panic thinking i fell asleep while feeding him, only to find him sound asleep in his bassinett. LOL. your fears are SO normal.
I have lots of the same sorts of fears... doesn't help that DH HAS dropped Rebecca, fallen down the stairs with her, and she's rather accident prone without his help as well-- she just fell off our bed and has five new bruises to show for it. It's a good thing our neighbours know us and have seen how accident prone she is, because otherwise they'd think we were beating our kid or something. It never fails-- as soon as she heals from one mishap, she has another, and usually they're 'heart in the throat' types of mishaps, of course.
The day DH fell down the stairs with her was actually the day before Elias was born, and for the little time I DID sleep (went into labour at midnight), I kept dreaming about how we were in the hospital with DH and Rebecca both being monitored for concussions, both unconscious and no one knew if they were going to be okay or not... because we'd had cinder blocks all along the path from our house to the stairs going up to the top floor of the garage due to flooding through the winter (hard to believe seeing as we have a major drought now, LOL), and had those blocks still been there, I'm not sure they would even still be alive. Still gives me nightmares!
I worry SO much, it's insane. I also have crazy dreams about things happening to Daphne, they are very realistic and bad enough that I have woken up screaming, yelling and crying...it's terrible. I know it's my own fault but I am always reading about all these 'things' that can happen to babies and I think that's where all of my worries come from. I read a ton of stories about babies aspirating and dying in their sleep so I'm afraid of that. I'm totally scared of SIDS. The whole whooping cough thing, freaks me out to no end. I have a major fear of her choking....the list goes on. I understand that in some ways it is very irrational but I try to tell myself that it's kind of normal since I'm a first time mom. Well at least I hope it's normal! haha
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Kelly, you are amazing and I love you! Thank you for the awesomely cute siggy!
I do the same thing, i had a dream one night that Alex was sleeping in our bed, well i ended up waking up and freaking out, thinking i forgot to put him in his crib, i freaked when i didn't see him on the bed till i realized he was in his crib.
After Lilyan had a bad choking incident in the hospital, I was scared at every feeding. I wouldn't even want her to sleep in our room at first, I sent her to the nursery. I was terrified she would choke in her sleep. That fear has subsided (still lingers in the back of my head). I do have irrational fears when it comes to thinking of leaving her with someone (even grandparents). I think its pretty normal.
I am the same way...I had a crazy dream last night... its amazing what my brain brings up, I fear so many things! I did this with my other two and it got better over time...
