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Conceiving After Miscarriage

Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Woman's Perspective
Conceiving after miscarriage creates different feelings for each woman as well as differences among women and men. There are a lot of questions and fears that have to be addressed before most women feel that they are ready to attempt conceiving after miscarriage. Some women want to attempt conceiving after miscarriage right away while others want nothing to do with conceiving after miscarriage. It is a long road that no one can understand but the woman and man who are going through the miscarriage experience.

Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Woman's Perspective #1 -
How long will the bleeding last after a miscarriage? Most women want to know how long they will have vaginal bleeding before they even think about conceiving after miscarriage. While this will vary from woman to woman, most women have vaginal bleeding for 4-5 days up to 2 weeks. However, if someone experiences a third trimester loss they may have vaginal bleeding up to 6 weeks. It is important that during that time the woman does not place anything within the vagina (no intercourse, no douching, no tampons). Conceiving After Miscarriage Tip #1 - Allow this time to let your body heal and cope with the loss you have just had.

Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Woman's Perspective #2 -
No desire for sex. There are a lot of women who are left with no desire to have sex after a miscarriage which makes conceiving after miscarriage extremely difficult. Many women state that it reminds them to much of their unborn child and / or the miscarriage experience. Also many women agree that they are afraid of conceiving after miscarriage and having another miscarrige. Some women even admit that they do not feel that they are adequate enough as a woman since they can not carry a pregnancy to term. Many women's feelings of inadequancy leads them to feel sexually unattractive. Conceiving After Miscarriage Tip #2 - Allow your body and mind to heal before you consider conceiving after miscarriage. If sex is to painful then you must communicate that to your partner and try to make them understand it is still to difficult of a time. In time it will get easier and you will find that you want to become intimate again and conceiving after miscarriage is what you may want. Also when you do attempt conceiving after miscarriage remember that 90% of women who have had one miscarriage have a successful next pregnancy, and even 60% of women who have had two miscarriages have a successful next pregnancy.

Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Woman's Perspective #3 -
Desire to get pregnant right away. The desire to immediately attempt conceiving after miscarriage is a common feeling. A lot of women just really want to have a child and do not want to wait a few months before they attempt conceiving after miscarriage. It truly comes down to how you are dealing with your miscarriage. No one knows their body better than a woman does, so if she feels she is ready to attempt conceiving after miscarriagte then try. Conceiving After Miscarriage Tip #3 - It truly is up to the woman when she wants to attempt conceiving after miscarriage. However, make sure you have had time to mourn and cope with your loss and prepare your mind and body for pregnancy again before you attempt conceiving after miscarriage. It is a good idea to at least wait until you have one normal menstrual cycle to allow your body to prepare itself for conceiving after miscarriage. Some physcians even say that you should wait for three menstrual cycles before you attempt conceiving after miscarriage. This is truly a decision that should be left up to the couple trying to attempt conceiving after miscarriage.

Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Woman's Perspective #4 -
Not getting pregnant while trying. Many couples want to get pregnant right away the first time they try conceiving after miscarriage. The stress and emotions that will occur during this time is extremely difficult. Each month when a woman begins her menstrual cycle she will be reminded of the miscarriage and that she is not pregnant now when she should be. Most women agree that after they stopped timing and planning the sex and just let it happen they became pregnant. Conceiving After Miscarriage Tip #4- Do not plan to get pregnant immediately after you decide to attempt conceiving after miscarriage. The stress of wanting to be pregnant will definately hinder the intimate sexual contact and make sex no longer enjoyable and more like a job. The best way to get pregnant is have sex everyother day between the tenth and eighteenth day of the woman's menstrual cycle. However, be spontaneous and make it romantic and enjoyable.

Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Woman's Perspective #5 -
The fear of having another miscarriage. Once a woman experiences a micarriage that fear of it happening again will be with her for every pregnancy there after. No one can understand the feeling of this fear except for someone who has experienced a miscarriage themselves and have been successful conceiving after miscarriage. Conceiving After Miscarriage Tip #5 - Do not be surprised at how scared you are once you become pregnant. It is natural to have this feeling and most women will have this fear for every additional pregnancy no matter how long ago the miscarriage was. Be honest to your husband or loved one because they will not understand how you are feeling, even after you have one successful pregnancy.



Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Man's Perspective

Conceiving after miscarriage creates a different set of emotions for a man. Men do not completely understand the whole miscarriage experience since men do not have the fetus inside their bodies. However, men do have significant emotions towards the loss of their unborn child. When it comes to conceiving after miscarriage most men have their own insecurities and concerns.

Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Man's Perspective #1 -
Sex feels like a job. When a couple decides to attempt conceiving after miscarriage it is usually a extremely planned out affair. Most couples will know when they can get pregnant and want to have sex on this day and at this time. Some couples even will only have sex in a certain position when trying to attempt conceiving after miscarriage. For some men this is extremely difficult to deal with. The pressure of not getting pregnant is so great that some men can not even engage in intercourse while attempting conceiving after miscarriage. Conceiving After Miscarriage Tip #1 - Be honest with your partner if you feel that sex is like a job and not enjoyable anymore. Also try and understand that she is still trying to cope with the miscarriage and has a lot of concerns and emotions about getting pregnant again herself. Inform her that the best way to conceiving after miscarriage is to have intercourse everyother day starting on about day ten to day eighteen. The specific time in the day does not matter and the position of the action does not matter as well. The most important aspect in conceiving after miscarriage is having a pationate connection with your loved one.

Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Man's Perspective #2 -
My wife or loved one gets extremely emotional when she finds out she is not pregnant. A lot of men do not understand why a woman cries or gets upset when she begins her period when they attempt conceiving after miscarriage. A lot of men feel that we can just try next month, when most women view it as I am not pregnant and I should be. Menstruation just reminds them all over again about the miscarriage and how emotionally affected they are by the loss. Conceiving After Miscarriage Tip #2 -Men need to understand that some women will feel extremely inadequate that they can not get pregnant right away and that they have not been able to carry a pregnancy to term. Even though men can not understand this they need to accept it. Men should not tell their significant other that it is okay and that they will eventually get pregnant and not to be so emotional about not getting pregnant. Men need to just be there for their loved one and let them know it is okay that they feel upset and express their emotions about how they feel. Even if it is to say I do not understand the way you feel but I am here for you, that is enough to let your loved one know that you care.

Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Man's Perspective #3 -
The only time we have sex is when she wants to get pregnant. A lof of men feel that the only time they have sex with their loved ones while they try conceiving after miscarriage is when she feels she can get pregnant. This turns a lot of men off and makes them feel that they are only needed for their sperm. Most men will tell you that they become extremely insecure in this setting. Men have the natural desire of wanting to be made to feel they are wanted not just needed for conceiving after miscarriage. Conceiving After Miscarriage Tip #3 - Men need to be able to have open communication with their significant other in regards to conceiving after miscarriage. Men also need to respect the way their loved one feels. Most men loose the romantic side of their relationship after several years. Men need to make their wife or loved one feel that they are still attractive and wanted themselves. Most women will respond better to sexual advances if they do not feel that all the man wants is to have sex all the time especially after a miscarriage. Men need to take time to remember the small things in the bedroom and out, especially in the attempt of conceiving after miscarriage. Make your wife or significant other feel special and not just a sex object. If men do this conceiving after miscarriage can be exceptionally intimate and enjoyable.

Conceiving After Miscarriage - A Man's Perspective #4 -
The fear of having another miscarriage. Most men will not admit that they have just as much fear about having another miscarriage as a woman does while conceiving after miscarriage. The men feel their control is lost once the woman becomes pregnant and there is nothing he can do to guarantee that the pregnancy will go to term. A lot of men will ask a thousand questions a day about "how do you feel", "are you bleeding at all", "are you in pain", or "everything okay". Men think they are just helping, but in reality they are making it worse because the woman already has these same fears as he does. Conceiving After Miscarriage Tip #4 - The best thing a man can do is be honest about how he feels and his fears about conceiving after miscarriage. Then talk to his wife or loved one and agree to not be over bearing or ask to many questions as long as the woman is willing to be honest in return. This is a very difficult aspect of conceiving after miscarriage and never really changes no matter how many successful pregnancies you have in the future.
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